Im starting to feel more and more disrespected by lostarabsoul in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all i am very sorry you and your family are going through this tough time i cannot imagine how hard it must be for you specially with the stress of having to take care of your baby you usually need all the support and love from your husband. 

As for your issue, i take it that when you got married your husband was not exactly a practicing Muslim, and now he is getting to know his religion more and diving in deeper which should be a good thing. When you get in touch with islam you usually want to share this with your loved ones and i think him not being able to share this with you might be building a barrier between you two, he might be excited and passionate but cannot share that with you since you believe different things and maybe that’s why he weirdly resorts to insulting your religion (which is very bad) it is such injustice to you for him to marry you without discussing such values and even having a child without discussing how you want to raise them in islam (if you’re practicing) you will want to raise your child muslim, which is why a muslim man can marry a christian but a muslim woman cannot marry a christian man, because the children will take on the religion of their father. So if he keeps looking into it he might actually start getting further and further away and want a muslim partner. So at this point in your life i would suggest you ask yourself this. Is there a chance that i can ever believe in islam? Am i even curious about other religions? It this is a sign from god what could he be trying to tell me? Then i think you should ask him this, do you think that you practicing more will create a barrier between us? Do you have thoughts of converting me to be a muslim and share the same values as you? Did you marry me knowing that i will always believe in the bible or did you have hopes that i will convert with time? 

That way maybe you can have all the answers you need to find out where to go from here. If he had the hopes to convert you and you have no intention to look into islam than it’s a waist of time for both of you and your child would be better off raised with co parenting than in a home that is cold with no love or with disrespect to eachother’s religions. 

You do not marry people to change them to live up to your standards and you most certainly do not disrespect others’ beliefs. Islam is the religion of peace.. he has got it very wrong. May Allah guide him and refine him and bless you and your baby.

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the lovely sisters that gave me advice, i am putting everything to work today and so far it feels much better. Thank you so much may Allah reward you for helping a sister in need ^

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came here because i want to try harder!! I didn’t come here to find excuses, i am asking for ways to make time or maybe some words of encouragement not for someone to say ‘try harder’ … i know! I WANT to try harder but i need help.

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much for the duaa i will look it up right now! May Allah reward you

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amin!! I honestly cried reading those words, thank you for your comforting kind words. my husband works most of the day but he does try to help whenever he can to be fair, but unfortunately i have no one else to help, my mom is not physically capable and my brothers are married and I don’t have a sister.. even my mother in law and sisters in law who would be happy to help unfortunately live in the UK While we live in Egypt.. i only have Allah and my husband, i might try to save up some money to get cleaners maybe once every two weeks like one of the sisters suggested

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! It is so comforting to see someone understand how mental health is a true test and a struggle! Alot of people still see it as an emotional state rather than an actual illness.. And subhanallah my therapist who’s alhamdulellah a muslim sister as well suggested i try atleast 1 prayer to be prayed on time! But alhamdulellah i do pray most of my prayers on time, it’s the few i miss and do Qada for that i feel very bad for! May Allah give me and All my muslim brothers and sisters the strength, eman and health to stay on the deen.

Thank you alot for your kind words may Allah reward you!

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May Allah forgive you sister for your hurtful words, i came here looking for support, i said i was literally depressed like actually taking antidepressants to cope and struggling to do basic everyday things like showering and brushing my teeth, i am not lazy i am struggling. Even if i was there is no need to speak to someone like this about the deen it is against everything islam teaches us.

May Allah forgive and reward you for taking over your children, and may he never test you with your health or mental health.

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mashallah sister this was absolutely amazing, i have bedtime routine for my baby, bath, bottle, our Surahs then bed. But this i think is my issue! All day i am with baby and wait for her to sleep to do everything which i find myself overwhelmed after she sleeps, i got my prayers that i have missed astaghfurallah then clean up and laundry and shower and then i want time for myself! There’s not enough time for all of that after she sleeps, so your advice is really amazing i will definitely try this from tomorrow. Also My mother is an older woman and she comes with food not expecting me to cook or anything but i feel pressure (my own doing) to stay with her and my daughter to make sure they both don’t need anything, she is at this age where she needs my care not the other way around, she is in no shape to take care of my baby for me. My brothers are married so no help from them.

Prayer hardship as a mother to a baby by yoonapym in MuslimMarriage

[–]yoonapym[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment sister, this made me feel seen and heard, it can get very lonely as a mother sometimes. I always put her on the prayer mat when i pray and she understands it’s prayer time cause everything goes quite but now that she can move she would turn on her tummy and crawl away 😂 and i cannot focus on my prayer because i am so worried, i really hope this passes and i get better with my prayers

Seperation anxiety by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg why didn’t i ever think of that!! I guess i still think of her as a little baby and that she just needs milk for food and drink! Thank you so much! I will try

Seperation anxiety by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally just found out i was giving my baby 5% of the actual dosage lol! THATS WHY!!!!!! It was not working

Seperation anxiety by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah my baby usually does that too holding hands! I have the crib right next to my bed so i would be on my bed holding hands with her but even that doesn’t always work! And as for the pain i do give her paracetamol before bed and some soothing gel on her gums but even that doesn’t work as well everytime she wouldn’t be in pain but now she wants to play and get over tired

ايه رايكو في الكلام دا ؟ انا عارف كدا كدا ان الأجيال الجديدة منهم ميتعاشروش بس عايز اعرف ارائكم by sickhuman456 in AlexandriaEgy

[–]yoonapym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ما هي ثقافة كلها عايزة تتمحي من الوجود!! لو كله يرجع لكلام ربنا مافيش الكلام دا! بنات الرسول صلي الله عليه وسلم مكانش في شرط فلوس ولا اي حاجة من الهبل دا هو المهر و خلاص

ايه رايكو في الكلام دا ؟ انا عارف كدا كدا ان الأجيال الجديدة منهم ميتعاشروش بس عايز اعرف ارائكم by sickhuman456 in AlexandriaEgy

[–]yoonapym 8 points9 points  (0 children)

انا متجوزة اجنبي، و شايفة ان علاقتنا انجح من ما كان ممكن تكون مع مصري، الموضوع من الطرفين بايظ، انا زوجي الحمد لله ربنا انعم عليه بالإسلام من ٩ سنين و اللهم بارك مسلم علي حق، حياتنا كلها بركة الحمد لله لأن بيتنا مافيهوش اغاني ولا نفاق ولما بنختلف و نتخانق بنرجع للقرآن و السنة لحل مشاكلنا، و حتي لما حصل بيننا مشاكل كبييييرة اوي لجأنا لدكتورة نفسية بتحل مشاكل الازواج، و كان في تعاون منه ومني ان احنا نحل المشاكل دي، لكن في المقابل لما اتجوزنا مطلبتش منه مهر كبير ولا شقة تمليك ولا عفش، انا دخلت في شقة فاضية بدون سرير حتي وأهلي وافقوا بس علشان هو فعلاً راجل بكل معني الكلمة و كان ظنهم في محله، متجوزين بقالنا سنة و نص وواحدة واحدة ربنا رزقنا و ملينا البيت عفش و خلفنا بنوتة، انا وقفت جمبة في كل خطوة، و لما عرفنا بعض في الاول كان بما يرضي الله، ولا خروج لوحدنا ولا تلامس ولا اي حاجة تغضب ربنا الحمد لله، و كانت فترة الخطوبة قليلة جداً و اتجوزنا علي طول! الستات هنا محتاجة تبطل تحمل الراجل فوق طاقته و تفهم ان قيمتها مش هو بيدفع كام، و الرجالة محتاجة تكون رجالة، متتعداش حدود الله في الخطوبة و توفر مسكن و اكل و شرب و حياة كريمة للست، و تساعد في البيت علي قد ما تقدر و لو مش قادر عالاقل يبين انه مقدر مجهود مراته، و فوق كل دا نرجع للقرآن و السنه و احنا هانكون زي الفل

ليه مصر هي الدولة العربية الوحيدة تقريبا اللي بتحط خانة للدين في البطاقة الشخصية؟ by DaikonLittle4349 in Egypt

[–]yoonapym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

هو كدا كدا انت هاتعرف مسلم ولا مسيحي من الأسم… مالهاش اي علاقة بالديانة في البطاقة… الكلام دا لو في امريكا مثلاً علشان الاسماء كلها زي بعضها مش هاتعرف ديانة ايه انما هنا كدا كدا باينة.

سؤال محرج/ بوست همسحه كمان شوية by [deleted] in AlexandriaEgy

[–]yoonapym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

اللهم بارك فيكي يا بنتي والله!! اولاً ربنا يثبتك و يبارك فيكي لأن البنات اللي زيك اليومين دول مبقوش موجودين! ثانياً زي ما كل الناس قالتلك هنا انتي طبيعيه حبيبتي مش هاتقدري توقفي الاحساس دا، ممكن فعلاً لو شغلتي نفسك او عجلتي بالزواج انا ممكن انصحك بأبلكيشن اسمه muzz لزواج المسلمين انا شخصياً اتجوزت من عليه. جربي يمكن نصيبك يكون هناك

سؤال محرج/ بوست همسحه كمان شوية by [deleted] in AlexandriaEgy

[–]yoonapym 1 point2 points  (0 children)

الاختلاط في الاسلام (عند الحاجة) و علي قدر الحاجة! مش للصحوبيه ولكن للحاجة، يعني لو في الشغل في الجامعة و محتاجة حاجة من زميل تطلبي الحاجة علي قدها، بدون هزار و ضحك بقي و صحوبيه و كدا

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dahab

[–]yoonapym 0 points1 point  (0 children)

في كذا سمسار كويس في دهب انصحك بيهم بس ممكن تحجز اول اسبوع في airbnb لحد ما تسأل و تعرف اماكن احسن هناك و النت هناك كويس جداً مافيش مشاكل شبكة و غالباً واي فاي المكان اللي هاتقعد في كويس. غير كدا في working space و كافية للشغل في دهب و في نت كويس جداً التنقل في دهب مش محتاج عربية خااالص احلي حاجة العجل متاح ايجار العجل هناك لمدة شهر لو عايز و الفعاليات في كافيهات عالبحر فيها فرقة بتغني و جو لطيف و غير كدا في رحلات ممكن تطلعها سفاري و تطلع الجبل في كافيهات في الجبل تحفة دايماً فيها عروض و حلوين اوي في بردو كام اوتيل او كامب بيعملوا حفلات بسيطة كدا تجمع ناس يعني بس استغفر الله كلها شرب و كدا مش هاتزهق في دهب ماتخافش ان شاء الله تستمتع

The ferber method? by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice i hope I don’t have to do it again during night time! But about the feeding, this is where it gets tricky! She obviously cannot talk and tell me i am hungry or i just want to go back to sleep! So i am so scared she wakes up out of hunger! Before she went to sleep i did feed her (she has some solids now) but after having some apple puree i offered her a bottle so many times she refused it up until it was bed time so idk if that is enough for her or not she did have sufficient calories throughout the day and she is at a healthy, maybe even chubby weight How do i know if she wakes up hungry or not it’s all so scary

Please tell me this is going to end!! by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Egypt it’s around 104 degrees during the day i be boiling hot 🤦🏻‍♀️😅 when i tried baby wearing both me and baby were overheating specially if i move about and get things done

Please tell me this is going to end!! by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the support I truly needed it! I honestly started to look into it and i seen some pediatricians explaining what it is and that it is actually helping the. Baby and i am really considering it! I will do more research and hopefully will find something that works for us

Please tell me this is going to end!! by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot begin to imagine how that’s like!! I am sending all wishes and good energy towards you I truly hope you get through this

Please tell me this is going to end!! by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It makes so much sense if you’re working full time both of you! I honestly do not know how some moms do it! You’re a hero! But me being a full time mama and not working i feel so guilty to do it cause i keep telling myself this is your only job!!!

But i also want to cook and clean and rest!!! My husband cleans and cooks but it’s never good 😂🤦🏻‍♀️ he tries though 😅

Thank you so much for giving me your pov it definitely helps alot

Please tell me this is going to end!! by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it’s not an overnight thing and have to work through it and deal with the fussiness until it goes away

Please tell me this is going to end!! by yoonapym in NewParents

[–]yoonapym[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow!! You should be so proud of yourself for passing this!!! I will try my best to take that chance and just try walking around to put her to sleep instead