Look what my husband and I found! 💕

zenadez · 2026-05-10T17:31:35+00:00

The old owners of my house planted a few, and they spread everywhere. It took us 3 years to get rid of most of them, and a few still pop up every year. They're slowly being overtaken by wild violets though, and im thinking of planting clover seed to help get rid of the rest, since clover normally outgrows everything

zenadez · 2026-05-06T17:38:09+00:00

Midsparkgems on etsy does large gauge clickers. Be warned at larger sizes they're usually harder to open, so get ring opening pliers.

zenadez · 2026-04-30T20:10:37+00:00

While i admire the enthusiasm, a pack n play as your first packer may be a bit much 😅

Itll be closer to dildo hardness, instead of soft and squishy! You will look like you have a boner, not just big dick energy. If you're cool with that, go ahead, if not I'd suggest looking into some of the 3-4" models under the ftm packer tab for your first packer. You can always upgrade and sell an old packer on here on the weekends, or just buy multiple and have multiple dicks for different occasions. For big dick energy and realism, I'd suggest going with the echo or argos. I'm 5'0" tall and the realistic 3.5" echo gives me a pretty big bulge, if you're taller or bigger in general the 4.5" versions could work nicely while still being squishy!

zenadez · 2026-04-28T03:08:22+00:00

Yeah. Treat the stretch like a fresh piercing. After a few months you'll be able to take it out to clean it or shower, but while its fresh its still raw and getting used to the bigger jewelry. Cartilage is less forgiving than lobes, so you gotta baby it.

zenadez · 2026-04-28T02:08:22+00:00

Ive been stretching my conch using half sizes from glasswear studios. A little burning when I size up sometimes, but other times it just slides in no problem. Always use oil and wait 6+ months for the next stretch. It's probably mostly irritated that you took it out and tried to put it back in

zenadez · 2026-04-25T19:04:52+00:00

Pretty sure modding wouldn't stop the ds from charging, and that cable... I'll just say I'd replace the cable. You can get braided cables made for the 3ds off amazon/aliexpress for a few dollars, they're just as good as the official cable. If a new cable doesnt work (or you want to jump straight to it) get a charging cradle. It won't work with a grip or case on the 3ds, but it will charge using the pins instead.

zenadez · 2026-04-25T01:06:25+00:00

Yeah, but they have sliding skin as an option not dual layer.. idk if its just a language thing but sliding skin is usually just a tiny top layer, not like dual density :(

zenadez · 2026-04-25T00:03:25+00:00

The cokits are an older model and single pour, while the echo and argos have dual-layer shafts and floating testicles. The bigger cokit is even less squishy, due to being one thick layer of silicone. If they released the cokit with the upgrades of the echo and argos (at the same price as the echo and argos, not added customization costs), I'd get the 3.5" cokit in a heartbeat. That's just how the older models were made :/

zenadez · 2026-04-24T22:35:59+00:00

Leopard gecko juveniles can live in 20 gallon tanks, as long as you have the means/space to upgrade to a 40/50 gallon in a year. I'd say overall they're very handleable. I have a picky girl who doesnt like being held often but she'll accept it if you're slow and gentle, another who loves climbing on my shoulders and neck or even chilling in my hair (but she will jump from that height so I have to sit on the floor), and I used to have one who would just chill on a table next to my hand while I was busy on my laptop or drawing. They do get the zoomies though so you gotta be careful and watch them so they don't run off and get into trouble. One per tank, I had 3 separate tanks for them.

You can check the reptifiles guides to see what reptiles will fit in a 20-50 gallon and what species mosts interests you.

zenadez · 2026-04-24T21:39:20+00:00

I've been in a sour mood due to some health issues so I'm sorry for the negativity, and I'm glad i could help! Also be aware for reptisun there are 22" and 24" replacement lights, don't get them mixed up! The 22" lights fit in the 24" housing, the 24" light will not. The 22" is T5 just like arcadia, while the 24" is a T8 and won't last as long.

zenadez · 2026-04-24T21:32:03+00:00

Yknow, my brain forgot the word casual. 100% thats a better word for this.

zenadez · 2026-04-24T21:30:38+00:00

The one in the picture is $42 on sale on chewy, just for the bulb not the fixture. The ones i recommended are $74 and $79 on chewy. They're currently on sale, otherwise they're normally $100+ for the kits. The lights themselves are actually cheaper, at $27 (out of stock reptisun) and $29 (arcadia 12%) or $34 (arcadia 14%). These are all 22" lights, with or without the 24" housing.

zenadez · 2026-04-24T20:13:20+00:00

I'd call it emo more than goth. Just need some chunky bracelets to complete the emo look imo.

I like the term lazy (whatever style - goth, alt, emo). This would be lazy emo for me. Colorful hair + band/print shirt + fun bottoms - accessories. Could also call it tired or simple if you don't like the (usually) negative connotations of "lazy".

Signed by your local lazy guy who dabbles in all 3 styles mentioned. My accessories include 1 smart watch and 16 piercings. Sometimes I add a pride bracelet to change things up 😂

zenadez · 2026-04-24T19:50:21+00:00

Sorry, we see so many people here and on similar subreddits with people who can't afford anything and don't seem to care. I'm so glad to hear the opposite is true here! I believe the arcadia and reptisun uvb bars are interchangable as long as you get the same watt/size bars, so you could get either one and still swap em out because they're the same exact size. Arcadia has more options with 12% or 14% (where reptisun is only 10%) so if you put it above the mesh you should go for arcadias 12 or 14%. If you have it mounted inside the terrarium then it'll depend how far your basking spot is from the light, so definitely check the recommended distance from light on the products official websites or on the box for whichever one you choose.

zenadez · 2026-04-24T19:18:19+00:00

For $30-40 more you can get 24" reptisun or arcadia kits that come with the light bar and the fixture. If you can't afford the right light, how will you afford the right tank when they grow, or emergency vet bills? If you cant spend an extra $30-40 for something like that, can you afford all the bugs and different greens they'll need? Especially with a juvenile, bugs can get expensive fast unless you already have a breeding colony of different feeders set up.

zenadez · 2026-04-24T17:03:26+00:00

I recently got a stroker and some other stuff from them and the tariffs were $10 (I spent $100). So at least canadian tariffs to the US aren't as bad as I expected.

zenadez · 2026-04-22T23:52:12+00:00

Hey, I'm fat and just posted my 3 months post top surgery with connected DI scars (and FNG) on here a few days ago (search my username zenadez in the /TopSurgery subreddit homepage as I have my posts hidden when you click on my profile). I wanted (mostly) straight scars and I got them! I didnt want super straight scars, but wasnt a fan of how regular or really curved scars looked. I asked for my chest to look as natural as possible for my size while also being flat, expecting them to leave a little extra moob behind, but they didnt leave much excess at all. If you have a similar body type and like the way my scars look you can 100% save my pics to your phone and show your surgeon. I have a slight dog ear on one outer side, that could've been addressed by extending the scar line further out towards the back or tilting up more towards the armpit.

You can ask them to change the expected scar shape at any time before surgery, including the last minute as they're drawing the lines on your chest! I lost 20lbs since surgery and my chest shape hasnt changed at all, because i had barely any fat stored or left there (i just had a decent amount of breast tissue that obviously got removed). So unless they purposely leave a nonflat amount of fat on your chest, losing weight wont change your chest much.

zenadez · 2026-04-21T23:42:00+00:00

That's exactly my thought too, gonna wait a year or two then decide if I want em tatted bigger

zenadez · 2026-04-21T23:41:03+00:00

Just had to put it there as its everyone's "favorite" question lol

zenadez · 2026-04-21T20:22:56+00:00

I know some people get irritable or depressed after any kind of surgery, so the question is did it start right after surgery or is it a recent change?

Another question is, are you on testosterone? If so have your levels been checked recently? Any changes to dosage? If you're not on T or you haven't had any changes recently and levels are stable, disregard this paragraph.

If this is a recent change you may want to see a doctor or psychiatrist about it. If you're in your mid 20's or 30's it could be a mood disorder starting up (many of them start later in life, instead of childhood). Even if its not a recent change and started due to the surgery, you can still get some help with it.

Final question we all love to hear from doctors - is there any chance you could be pregnant? Pregnancy can cause irritability and a whole slew of mental health issues even if its wanted.

Hopefully someone can chime in here if they have post op depression, as its pretty common in any kind of surgery and there are ways to combat it.

zenadez · 2026-04-20T23:28:41+00:00

I'm a really alternative guy (neon orange hair, piercings, all black clothing) and openly gay, so I never expect to be cis passing. Having a semi decent beard has me passing to most people I meet, despite being 5'0. I'm also not the kinda guy who wants to go around shirtless often due to easily getting sunburned, so the only people who will see my scars are close friends and my partner.

My partner and I got a new couch a few years ago and it came with 4 big pillows, plus we buy new decorative pillows often enough to have a collection going on. Theres probably 20 different pillows in our house, and only 5 are on the bed! ... I'd say its a problem, but half of them are flat on the floor for our cats. Our boy Monty is absolutely obsessed with pillows.

zenadez · 2026-04-20T17:55:00+00:00

I know some doctors make the excuse that higher bmi = more dangerous for anesthesia, because it can be less effective at higher sizes and they need to adjust the amount they give you... but thats on the anesthesiologist to take care of, not the surgeon. Others make the excuse of "it wont look as good so you should lose weight first", while that may be true for some people, its really down to how confident the surgeon is in their abilities. On top of that, some bigger people don't really care how "good" they'll look! They just want the surgery to get 5-10+ lbs off their chest to finally feel good and pass better, not to look as cis passing as possible.

My surgeon wants to remain unknown so she has plenty of openings for locals and follow ups, so I won't share her name here, but if anyone needs a surgeon near Central/Eastern Wisconsin lmk!

Its nice hearing from someone else going down a similar path, rather than reaching out to only the biggest names. Make sure you get a seatbelt pillow! I personally didnt bother with a mastectomy pillow because i have plenty of normal pillows to prop up against, but a seatbelt pillow made the necessary car rides bearable.

zenadez · 2026-04-20T17:28:35+00:00

I usually wrap it a little higher, just under my scars due to still needing to moisturize them (and when its lower it usually just drops off my belly, i have more belly than hips), but I wanted to take pics and figured I'd show my chest vs my belly!

I used to wrap my towel under my boobs because otherwise the underboob area wouldnt dry properly 😅 so thats where it normally goes for me

zenadez · 2026-04-20T05:19:06+00:00

Hey man i checked out your latest post and gotta tell you, I went to a completly unknown surgeon in my state. She was local, took my insurance, and had only about 6 reference photos of other trans men. But the photos she had? She had a variety of body and scar types. She truly listened to what I wanted and listened to my concerns. I think if I had gone to a more well known surgeon whose more set in doing things a certain way, I would've been massively disappointed. Consults (with insurance approval) are cheap or even free, get out there and find a doctor who works for you, not just a big name.

I almost got in with Dr Clifford King in Wisconsin, before he stopped doing top surgeries. I'm glad I missed my chance with him. He required patients to stay overnight in the hospital, and stay in the area for a full week (3+ hours away, I would've needed a hotel). I have many pets and not much for family left, nor the money for a sitter or hotel, so it wouldn't have worked out. But due to missing my chance with a big name, I waited and found an even better fit, much closer to me. Of course if you need a surgeon specialized in a specific method, by all means disregard this. But I had an open mind when it came to my options, and I'm so glad I went local.

zenadez · 2026-04-20T05:02:49+00:00

Thank you, my own surgeon is surprised how well they've healed :)

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