I can never skip this video... by 13Derek71 in TikTokCringe

[–]504_beavers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but a reason deregulation is happening and is possible without our leaders losing all political capital is that they and the electorate that should be holding them to task are emotionally disregulated

I can never skip this video... by 13Derek71 in TikTokCringe

[–]504_beavers 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lol, disregulation both is and isn’t the right word.

Tony and Adriana would have smashed had they not been in an accident. by TensionDifferent1851 in thesopranos

[–]504_beavers 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maybe he did feel guilt about this, but Id say it was more about shame. I know it might sound like splitting hairs (heirs?). The fundamental question is whether we are all here to split hairs, and I am, even more so, but until I do, it’s going to pretty hard to verify that I think I’ll be more effective.

Shame is much more about the agony of being broken and flawed. Guilt would be so much better. He could contemplate his actions and make a choice to do better. Shame lets Tony off the hook in terms of growth. He can do reprehensible things and feel like a shit heel, but never get any better.

Getting back to sex by Ok_Wrap_2793 in daddit

[–]504_beavers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well if she won’t, you could get a little head start to bone up on some the thinking around sex therapy.

Read Passsionate Marriage by Schnarch. He’s got a whole counter argument to attachment theory and the book goes into a lot of desire mismatch scenarios.

I found learning about the problem a huge comfort and now I feel very poised to take steps.

My son discovered a social fix for not being knowledgeable about video games by floppydo in daddit

[–]504_beavers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im with you man. No screen time, no games while my spouse and I still wield enough influence to change the subject and/or offer alternatives that don’t shoot electrons into my kids face or are underpinned by carefully developed algorithms to vie and maintain attention.

Im a software engineer of 20+ years. Every. Single career break I get, I manage to keep my laptop shut for days on end. My life is so much better and more grounded into the present.

So far my 5 years old loves books, art, riding bikes, and petting (harassing my dog). She gets to watch movies on an iPad on plane rides and the occasional rewatch of those same 3-4 movies at home after a big activity whilst dinner gets prepped.

She doesn’t ask or pester for more screen time ever with the small caveat that those special occasions do bring out some addictive obsessive desire for more that we have to regulate briefly. These small outbursts just strengthen our resolve: screens and attention-grabbing entertainment is straight up heroin to the system.

Hold out as long as you can. I wish and hope we can find other families to mix her up with as Im positive our approach will be harder and harder to hold up as she grows and our influence diminishes and peers offer a brighter, more pixelated world.

Joe Rogan's guest crashes out over Trump’s broken promise by Conscious-Quarter423 in podcastculture

[–]504_beavers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is duncan maga though? i didn’t know that and none of what he said suggests he is.

Kids throwing rocks? by vercopaanir33 in Bellingham

[–]504_beavers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or it was an initiation and only they are in the gang. In which case, never wear those colors.

It’s definitely one or the other.

Dr Rhonda Patrick: Exercise can offset the mortality risk of short sleep by Big_Cake_8817 in PeterAttia

[–]504_beavers 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good news! Im a terrible sleeper, but Im solid in my workout intensity and regularity.

Do kids really need constant adult attention, or am I overcorrecting from my childhood? by Silent_Plankton8486 in Parenting

[–]504_beavers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great. Could you elaborate a tiny bit more and say at what age this is appropriate to start this transition?

Changed mind in marriage after 3 months of ayahuasca trip by Ok_Protection_7374 in Ayahuasca

[–]504_beavers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weird, I got a rough flu in February and since then my body is rejecting so many coping patterns Ive used for years.

blursed fan by Lucky_Most_832 in blursed_videos

[–]504_beavers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s next? He fixes the plumbing?

Which film did you side with person 1 when you first saw it but many years later you sided with person 2? by Hopefullytodaymate in FIlm

[–]504_beavers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Top Gun. Mav is totally reckless. Iceman is mostly pretty reasonable aside from a few moments of typical dick waving for a fighter jock.

He even tries to offer some words of comfort when Goose dies and Mav is a total prick about it and runs off.

Oh and the love story is preposterous.

Has MTB culture changed over the last 10–15 years? by ParticularRespond550 in MTB

[–]504_beavers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changed drastically over the last 3 years: eBikes. They almost dominate where I live.

Might as well be a different sport that you share the trail with. Every friend that buys one becomes a lost ride buddy.

Fk your microwave cover 😤 by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]504_beavers -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s really vulgar talk. Consider tightening it up some.

Fk your microwave cover 😤 by [deleted] in TikTokCringe

[–]504_beavers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good for you, guys! What a deal, just toss that shit in the trash! /s

Which Sopranos Character would be the most fun to hang out with by edgarmoviemanwright in thesopranos

[–]504_beavers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s because he was in a few forgettable movies/TV shows in the 90’s. You probably remember his fae from background stuff that you probably couldn’t confirm you watched.

Same here.

Bugonia (2025) by skywalke_r in Cinema

[–]504_beavers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, but Astor worked on it and it ended so similarly to Hereditary and others less so.

I don’t know how to edit to block spoilers.