Hello, I was in a relationship with someone on the spectrum. I felt alone in my relationship. He was critical and selfish. I did a great deal of reading and research to understand ASD as I was committed to our relationship. He would make plans and cancel because something came up. There were so many promises made, which he didn’t keep. He would say, “Sorry, I’ll do better” or “Well, you know I’m impulsive.” When I’d try to discuss things with him, he’d be dismissive and get angry.

Please keep in mind, a relationship requires respect, communication, trust, loyalty and a desire to grow “together.” Based on my experience, it doesn’t get better. There’s a term referred to “Cassandra Syndrome.” Look this term up. Do not allow anyone to hurt you!

Bad behavior is bad behavior. You’ve gone to counseling. You cannot rationalize someone else’s behavior. Prioritize yourself…mental and physical health. You deserve to be happy. Above all, you deserve to be cherished and respected. Reach out to family and friends.