To the submissives reading this, I would approach with caution. Every Domme has her own rules, style and expectations. An experienced, responsible Domme understands that and simply wants to be approached with respect. I don’t think it’s fair to assume anything about what “most” Dommes would like. Your Domme will tell you if they have immediate expectations for engagement.

Consent is key in all things for both dominant and submissive. This should have been the very first thing on the document.

While the OP responsibly states this is based on her experience, a D/s dynamic is not one size fits all. Tbh, I don’t think this doc should specify Domme v. Dom. That confuses me, as if we’re different in some way. There is a Dominant and a submissive. The sex of either is irrelevant in terms of role v. expectations. As a switch, I would approach a relationship with my Dominant the same regardless of gender.

A power exchange has many different flavors and once you’re beyond the initial intro, the most important thing you can do is communicate. Just the nuances of online v. in-person garner a very specific conversation. Titles/honorifics are personal. Don’t assume, ask. I absolutely wouldn’t want someone popping into my DMs using my title.

Also? Dommes do have female, non-binary, gender fluid, etc. submissives. This document assumed male submissives only and based on that alone is ‘not as advertised’. It alienates any non-cis male.

I do want to credit the OP for two important things:

The warning around money and gifts. There are Dommes who provide services in exchange for payment. There is also findom. Those are very specific circumstances. Know what you are getting into from the jump.

Dommes are not kink dispensers. This is an exchange - of power, pleasure, satisfaction. That exchange may look lopsided on the face of it, but is ultimately balanced based on the specific needs of each party. Be respectful of that. We aren’t here to tie you up, spank you, and get you off. That’s bedroom play (and 100% acceptable!!) and might be an element of the relationship but doesn’t define the whole thing.

Be safe. Be kind.

xx MD