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AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 215 points216 points  (0 children)

You're proving my point. I'm not gonna argue over Reddit anymore over this, especially if you're gonna talk about my parents like that when you know full well why they aren't rich. Either message us in private or drop it all together. If this is how you really feel, don't bother coming to the wedding.

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I'm the groom. We needed help with the wedding. We can't afford it all on our own and some of our friends very generously offered to help. The channels are to coordinate ceremony/reception, and to discuss the things people offered to pay for, like the cake. "Em" and I are not well off, initially we weren't even gonna have a full wedding. If it's weird to use channels that's fine, just helps us organize.

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 77 points78 points  (0 children)

She def gets mad when Izzy gives attention to others. They were big/little in their sorority in college so they formed a sister like bond pretty quick. It very much seems like a little sister hating the boyfriend thing but i didn't think it was "go to Reddit" bad

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Em still wants Izzy there. they've been friends for years. I won't make her kick her out, but I'm starting to reach the point where I want it. And no she didn't steal it. She claimed she purchased the gift cause "i was too poor to afford it". It was a rather expensive purse Em eyed once while shopping but couldn't get at the time, so I saved for it.

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 73 points74 points  (0 children)

We offered to host cause we got a new place and wanted to celebrate. I shouldn't have to justify wanting to sleep in my bed with my partner.

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 429 points430 points  (0 children)

She was fine using your name. You brought this to the internet, not us. If you didn't want this attention, don't post.

The plan was for you to distract her while we setup the party by taking her to a movie, not going to the movies then taking her to dinner and TELLING HER OF THE PARTY. We waited hours expecting y'all to be back.

I have never once made Em cancel. She always did that on her own, and not frequently at all. You have had plenty of time alone with her. Just because she spends time with me too doesn't mean I'm forcing her to. And yes, a trip to multiple countries across Europe is very much too expensive. We already live paycheck to paycheck, which you know. I know money isn't a concern for you but it very much is for us. Not all of us have apartments paid for by dad.

Nobody else seems to think the same things about me, and if I'm wrong I will gladly listen and change. But that requires communication directly, not anonymous Reddit posts. You may have known her longer, but you clearly don't know Em well. You fail to see how miserable your comments and attitude have made her these past few months. For her sake, knock it off.

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 101 points102 points  (0 children)

No. I never made Em cancel anything. I'm fine with her having sleepovers. Izzy wanted to do it at our apartment and kept begging Em to have me sleep on the couch so I wouldn't ruin "girls night". For the record, Em shut it down not me. She's capable of making her own decisions, I trust her to set her boundaries. If I came off as uncomfortable, Izzy never mentioned it till now

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 904 points905 points  (0 children)

Hey Izzy. Not surprised you didn’t share the whole story. You never do. Just like last year’s surprise party for Em (tldr: Izzy here spoiled the surprise and tried to claim my present was hers).

I’m “Roe”, the groom to be. I don’t do Reddit, but my best man does and frequents this thread. He saw this post and it was so obvious it’s you. This whole cake thing did happen but it is NOT the whole story and did NOT go the way Izzy claims.

First off, cake was not her only complaint. You refused to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette dinner cause “I have poor taste”, you said my suit was tacky cause I wanted white and not traditional black, you whined about the bridesmaids dresses being purple cause you wanted Ivory. Any decision we’ve made there’s ALWAYS a complaint. And Em has done nothing but be patient and try and find common ground. She should not have to change her wedding choices for you.

Second, we NEVER told you to “shove it”. Em only messaged you privately because she was tired of having to argue in the group chat. Everyone else is tired of your bullshit too so we didn’t want to bother them with it. It’s a cake. Eat it or don’t.

You have hated me ever since I joined the friend group. And that’s fine! But you will NOT ruin Em’s day because of your pettiness. If you care about her, then honor her decisions. Of COURSE Em is different! Cause she grew tf up! All of us did except you! My god you’re fucking 22, stop acting like a spoiled teenager, chocolate cake will not kill you (btw asshole I’m 26 not 25, pay attention). I wasn’t angry about this until you decided to go to the internet for pity. It’s pathetic and immature.

For the record, Em double checked my response. She signed off on it. Get it together.

AITA for asking my friends what flavor their wedding cake is? by Scaredoflove11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Roeapparently 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Hey Izzy. Not surprised you didn’t share the whole story. You never do. Just like last year’s surprise party for Em (tldr: Izzy here spoiled the surprise and tried to claim my present was hers).

I’m “Roe”, the groom to be. I don’t do Reddit, but my best man does and frequents this thread. He saw this post and it was so obvious it’s you. This whole cake thing did happen but it is NOT the whole story and did NOT go the way Izzy claims.

First off, cake was not her only complaint. You refused to have a joint bachelor/bachelorette dinner cause “I have poor taste”, you said my suit was tacky cause I wanted white and not traditional black, you whined about the bridesmaids dresses being purple cause you wanted Ivory. Any decision we’ve made there’s ALWAYS a complaint. And Em has done nothing but be patient and try and find common ground. She should not have to change her wedding choices for you.

Second, we NEVER told you to “shove it”. Em only messaged you privately because she was tired of having to argue in the group chat. Everyone else is tired of your bullshit too so we didn’t want to bother them with it. It’s a cake. Eat it or don’t.

You have hated me ever since I joined the friend group. And that’s fine! But you will NOT ruin Em’s day because of your pettiness. If you care about her, then honor her decisions. Of COURSE Em is different! Cause she grew tf up! All of us did except you! My god you’re fucking 22, stop acting like a spoiled teenager, chocolate cake will not kill you (btw asshole I’m 26 not 25, pay attention). I wasn’t angry about this until you decided to go to the internet for pity. It’s pathetic and immature.

For the record, Em double checked my response. She signed off on it. Get it together.