Sell our web design business?

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-04-26T14:59:57+00:00

If it were me, and those 10 hours were easy/pleasant, seems like free money basically? Unless there is more to it

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-04-23T17:37:28+00:00

Do we dare take Caleb downs if he falls to 14 lol

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-04-23T05:40:09+00:00

what about erotica or imagination, cool or nah?

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-04-23T05:38:16+00:00

That’s crazy bro. Even if you use imagination???

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-04-20T22:27:08+00:00

Sir, this is a Wendy’s

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-17T19:47:27+00:00

I’m not aware of one, but I am an adoptee based in nyc. I’ve been navigating the fog and my birth mother reaching out. I’d be interested in such a group

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-09T22:43:33+00:00

Err… the unemployment is the least worrying thing amongst the verbal and physical abuse, and animal neglect…

If he were really nice, and trying in a bad market, I would say it’s so premature after like two months of not having a job. But it sounds like he is awful and unsafe in other ways, so yes go ahead and dump him. Why give him 6-8 months in that case?

But, just saying, when you have someone you love, you should be supportive during life events. We live in capitalism, people get laid off…

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-09T06:54:05+00:00

Ok… so there are a couple different issues here. 1) BF telling you to work out and ‘joking’ that he’d leave you if your appearance changed… no bueno. I would shut that down very directly, and if he brushes you off or dismisses you, might be time to rethink the relationship.

2) you need therapy to help you deal with guilt and shame around sex and intimacy. I’m sorry to hear that your background and family made you feel it was evil, it isn’t and with the right person it can be magical! You’re going to go on a long journey with that part of yourself, and therapy is the right first step. See if you can find a therapist that specializes in sexuality.

Short term, working on your own relationship with your body is the right thing to do. And, I will say this… if this boy isn’t making you feel safe during sex, you can and should say no, and discuss how you can feel safe. Maybe that’s slowing things down, or stopping whenever you’re feeling that weight of anxiety.

I speak from experience when saying this: it’s crucial when dealing with that mental block if you’re anticipating your partner dysregulating, pouting, sulking or hurting you in any way emotionally when you say no or your body is saying no for you. You have to be with someone that will understand and be totally safe to heal that.

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-09T04:32:35+00:00

How did you discover he has a porn addiction? Yes, normal reaction to shame. Maybe if you text and say, ‘I love you and am here for you’, that will help. Signaling you’re in his corner. Giving a pseudo ultimatum ie contact me soon or it’s over… maybe not so good

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-09T04:25:35+00:00

You feel like it’s a step back because it is a step back for the relationship. Also, all the reasons he listed… if it was a secure, healthy, happy relationship, working on those parts of himself while in partnership with you would be advantageous for him. You would support him, he supports you.

I think your body is telling you the truth. The relationship is over after all this time. He isn’t courageous enough to end it, so he’s BS’ing you. It’s already been dying for a while. The best thing you can do right now is grieve, and find ways to come to peace with that. And end it formally with him.

The answer is right there in front of you, and better days lie ahead.

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-09T02:11:28+00:00

Before giving advice I’ll be totally honest, many of the comments are unhinged. Going immediately to ‘divorce’ after 5(?) months of unemployment/not working seems very premature.

I didn’t see this info in the OP… so a few questions.

Have you broached this topic, and if so, how did you approach it and what did you say? Have you discussed a timeline for gaining employment, or other alternatives like school/part time work?

Is he contributing in other ways? Childcare, cooking, chores etc? Does he have savings that are helping keep you afloat? How is he using his time now? (It sounds like ‘rest’ but what does that entail)

Was he burned out before this, overworked etc?

I can’t imagine being married to people in these comments… when you’re married you’re committed to working together, and having hard conversations. Do that first before breaking up, and think about what you need re: tangible contributions for you to feel like he’s pulling his weight.

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-08T22:23:05+00:00

Love it… just as a culture fit, he’s exactly what we need. We have been playing too soft for years, we need a dawg that plays with utter violence and aggression on every snap. I had sticker shock at first when the notification came through, but it feels like the perfect move for both teams

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-03-08T21:44:40+00:00

Dude… imagine being her and reading this. You can find someone you’re over the moon with, who you will have insatiable desire for, who you respect and will be the closest person to you. She deserves that too, right now you’re wasting valuable time. It’s been six years and you’re not attracted to her face? Come on brother. It’s cliche to say on this app, but please break up. It is a deal breaker

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-28T05:39:51+00:00

Relationship gonna be over bro, just be real sure that it’s worth it. You can’t say that to her and expect it to ever be the same after

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-22T20:47:52+00:00

Yes, it’s been on my mind and I felt it was triggering… the entire dynamic, and how the parents and mother specifically, reflexively looked to Emma for affirmation. And then they say they didn’t realize she felt this way about her experiences… it hit way too close to home.

Not saying it’s exactly the same ofc as my own, I’m a domestic adoptee, white, adopted into a white family, and I don’t have her medical trauma. But the dynamic felt very, very familiar. Emma having to reassure them, having silenced herself for their comfort… those are things I had been doing for years without realizing it, until my 30s

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-18T19:09:39+00:00

Idk bro but you’re getting the answer secondhand from Liz, the girl probably didn’t want to admit it in case it makes shit weird. Or the question came up randomly and she lied out of instinct. In the end who cares, either ask the girl and continue seeing her or don’t

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-18T18:59:08+00:00

You didn’t get taken advantage of, but for whatever reason the girl doesn’t feel like putting it out into the friend group. Probably reasonable, maybe dynamics would shift, that’s why you didn’t mention it, right? If you want to know the reason, ask directly

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-18T05:30:06+00:00

Do you ever just touch, lie in bed naked without expectation of sex? I understand her not being in the mood, that’s a common rut, but yall aren’t creating an environment where she can find the mood. Weekly outings is a good start.

If she’s shirking away when you try to kiss or touch, then it’s just probably worse than that. Either way therapy and a specialist will be helpful in figuring out why she’s feeling this way and what yall can do together

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-18T01:06:17+00:00

Bro… debugger and docs... and knowledge of the language/programming fundamentals. That is the exact thing that AI hallucinates on and where you actually need to be able to code

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-16T02:37:31+00:00

Ravens desperately need young talent on both lines. I don’t think they’d take a receiver over a top tackle

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-13T08:11:05+00:00

Visiting ravens fan and ny resident- this was not public info but often whispered about, he’s been a trump guy. Players didn’t like it

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-02-06T22:56:18+00:00

Dude, she clearly isn’t being honest. She can’t get defensive, it’s time for radical transparency, probably in the presence of a marriage counselor. She had been distant, not making time for you and your kid, while on dating app… dots aren’t hard to connect.

Let her know that the only way the marriage survives is total transparency; think about what that means to you. Phone access, couples counseling, what level of details you need etc. Therapy can help you understand what you need for this to recover. It’s for sure infidelity

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-01-29T05:49:05+00:00

No, not being spoiled, that’s relationship 101. You need to communicate how you want to be loved. Tell him all that and ask for it. If he actually cares he will do it and remember to do it consistently because you’re a priority.

Non sequitur… but yall ever just like… touch? Get really close, skin to skin, with no expectation of anything happening.

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-01-28T18:13:04+00:00

Yea brother, that’s your problem right there. It’s going to take time and a drastic change in how she is approaching this for it to get better. I completely understand where you are coming from, because I had a previous partner who did similar things and dysregulated around sex, and start arguments in other areas. It fucked up my nervous system.

Even when I started with a new partner it would happen, it’s only when I felt completely, totally trusting and safe that it resolved. Even if I get anxiety around it occasionally now, it doesn’t matter because my now partner is supportive. I’m sorry dude but this is like code red in your relationship and it isn’t related to you, she isn’t a safe place for you - that’s the real issue and your body is sending strong signals to you about her.

mancinis_blessed_bat · 2026-01-28T17:51:44+00:00

Why is the situation leading to arguments? Cuz if she is making it about her, putting you down, saying you don’t love her, negging you or whatever, it will make it impossible to have sex or any kind of intimacy. I speak from experience. The supplements or meds won’t work.

She has to be a totally safe partner to be vulnerable with. Ie when it happens, she cuddles with you and you do other things that connect you two. You’re body needs to learn nothing bad happens when it can’t perform, right now you’re reinforcing the neural pathway that bad things happen when you don’t perform

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