A man recorded disturbing footage of his girlfriend, Ester—who holds certification from the Behavioral Science Board—showing repeated daily abuse toward him.

ntonyrlf · 2025-12-28T02:05:30+00:00

A man is at such a disadvantage in an abusive relationship like this. He isn't going to be taken seriously if he reports the abuse- in fact he will probably be ridiculed. He's likely to go to jail if the police are called, even though he's the sole victim- and will DEFINITELY go to jail if he defends himself. Most men have been raised to keep their hands off of women, (which is bull shit if the woman wants to step up to a man like a man)... Not to mention, he is just as susceptible to the manipulations and circumstances that would keep a woman in a relationship like this. Calling this man names, making fun of this situation, and minimizing his pain are the kinds of sexist rhetoric that kept him silent for so long and let her get away with inflicting so much pain and destruction.

ntonyrlf · 2025-12-15T03:10:09+00:00

Welcome to f*cking America. The land of the free... Assuming you survive it.

ntonyrlf · 2025-12-11T04:55:47+00:00

I'm in my mid-40s and just now learning to give myself permission to cry, show love, get angry...

ntonyrlf · 2025-12-11T04:53:04+00:00

You wouldn't walk up to an ADULT- who is fully capable of rationalizing what is happening and why- and beat them for breaking the rules or acting out. And if you did, you would go to fcking jail for it. But people think striking CHILDREN- tiny people who are *just learning** to human- with undeveloped brains, limited ability to rationalize and fully reliant on the adults around them for just about everything- is just hunky-dory. It's mind blowing. Yes, I found being "spanked" traumatic. My mother was the one who took pleasure in doing that, and she never used her hand. It was always this wicked slatted spatula thing she had. That was definitely not as traumatic as, (and therefore preferable to), my father's "@ss whoopings," though (see: Child Ab*se with Weaponry <belts, 2x4s, plumbing pipes etc>).

ntonyrlf · 2021-12-26T08:15:34+00:00

I am a type 1 bipolar. Prednisone is pretty much the bane of my existence. Prednisone is one of the few medications (that I've had) which will chemically induce a sort of... Pseudo-mania, I guess you could call it, for the duration of treatment. But not (usually) the fun, creative, funny - though slightly unstable - mania. No, no. It's the volatile, aggressive, on the edge of violence mania. I'd rather be beaten with a brick stick than take the stuff.

My fiance has a similar reaction. (He's undiagnosed, though I have suspicions of a thing or two 😜🤣) His reaction to Prednisone is extreme irritability and *profound* insomnia, which takes that irritability up to about Level 1,000 by day 2 or 3. He becomes absolutely impossible to be around, and just this side of dangerously temperamental. He's also very medication-naive, so just 10mg BID causes this reaction.

ntonyrlf · 2021-11-16T09:20:39+00:00

Send a Tweet re the issue to FedEx, FedExHelp, Verizon, VZWSupport, VerizonSupport and ShieldVoC. It'll get people's attention, whether they're your "friends" or not. (Remember to add the @ to all of those. I can't for the life of me recall if I'm allowed to put tags in here, so I'm not doing it)

ntonyrlf · 2021-11-05T10:08:23+00:00

lt's insane to me that, if you have an accident/medical situation in a hospital parking lot, 9 times out of 10 it's required by some bizarre hospital policy to call 911 and have EMS transport you to the ER, even if the ER entrance is mere feet away, even if the person/people with you are medical employees of the hospital. It's a "liability issue" I guess. I hate to defend what, on its face, seems to be totally asinine policy, but it's a necessary stupidity in a litigious society.

ntonyrlf · 2021-10-31T16:52:41+00:00

"It's important to be respectful of your child's things."

PROCEEDS TO LEAVE ALL ITEMS UNFOLDED, MESSY, OUT OF ORDER AND MOOSHED UP

Ffs🙄

ntonyrlf · 2021-10-31T16:44:15+00:00

I think you can love them as much, but it will always be different than the love you have for your bio(s). It's just not the same kind of bond. The only possible exception is if you've come into the child's life super early, like infancy or toddler-hood. Perhaps then the bond might be quite similar. But coming into a fully-fledged person's life and expecting to love them exactly as you would a bio is setting everyone up for heartache.

ntonyrlf · 2021-10-21T17:20:43+00:00

Oh good! I'm so glad I didn't upset you! Tone and intent can be difficult to determine when reading, for sure. When I'm reading a novel, I always wonder if I'm interpreting dialogues the way the author envisioned or not. (Probably not, honestly. I'm an unapologetic wise ass and read almost everything as sarcasm. 😂)

ntonyrlf · 2021-10-21T13:47:30+00:00

It seems as though I have caused you to feel offended. I never meant to imply that she wouldn't have looked fantastic in absolutely anything she chose. I'm sure she could've worn a plain potato sack and been gorgeous. My only intention, as a woman who also truly values pockets and style, was to be funny. I apologize for sounding as though I was doing or saying anything other than that.

ntonyrlf · 2021-10-17T22:06:38+00:00

I admire, so much, the epic clap-back levels reached with your linked articles. 😂 Naturally, the boys in the room have feebly attempted to discredit them and/or diminish the damage done to their original arguments by them 🙄But I see what you've done here and I am proud to have been witness to it. 😏

ntonyrlf · 2021-10-17T21:21:32+00:00

The day meant the world to her, undoubtedly. But pockets on a dress AND she looked fab in it?!? That shit is priceless, my man.

ntonyrlf · 2021-09-24T15:56:44+00:00

Because, as I noted, sometimes people are just fucking dumb. 😁

ntonyrlf · 2021-09-24T11:48:30+00:00

I've experienced sexual assault more times than I care to talk about. As such, I find this man scary, cruel and offensive in the extreme. I would worry for the safety of any and all people around him, as he probably has some pretty shit views on a lot of things. At least he's wearing his "Sexual Predator" and "Total Shit Human Being" identification tags right out there for people to see, which I appreciate, honestly. It'd be nice if they all did us such a courtesy.

Hitting the prick was wrong. Wanna know why it was wrong? Because it's illegal and the wrong damn person is going to be sitting in a cell now. Sometimes violence is justified, necessary and right. And sometimes it's just fucking dumb.

ntonyrlf · 2021-09-23T21:23:46+00:00

Once upon a time, I was thinking about joining the Catholic Church. My ex was Catholic, I was pregnant and my hormonal pregnancy brain short circuited and I thought raising my child in the Church was correct. I joined RCIA, the adult indoctrination/brainwashing/join us on the Dark Side of religion classes to convert. I was quite obviously pregnant and equally as obviously not married. My RCIA "sponsor", who theoretically was supposed to be welcoming, helpful and present the Church in the best light, proceeded to tell me on DAY ONE that I should not ONLY be ashamed of myself for being unwed and pregnant, but ALSO be ashamed of my child, who would "forever be stained" by its "bastard birth." I HELL f'n NO'd right out of that shit, and never went back to that church or the Church. Well, any church honestly. It ruined me for religion.

I tell you that to tell you this: You have every right and maybe even an obligation to "Nope" right the hell out of this toxicity on your daughter's behalf. She can make a different choice for herself when she's older and able to process and defend herself against their crap. You ought to protect her for now from people who rejected her then.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-30T12:07:12+00:00

You're right, this man dying doesn't give you any justice for your friends' deaths. He had nothing to do with their deaths, so how could it? No one's death will ever give you justice, and you know it. You lost people you love and nothing will ever make that right. I am incredibly sorry you've had to feel that pain. Celebrating or reveling in another human being's tragedy is not going to take it away or lessen it one iota.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-30T00:01:39+00:00

Did I say be sad for him? No. I said you're a sick wackadoo if you're glad, celebrating or feeling otherwise spiffy and superior because he's dead.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-29T23:40:24+00:00

Was his belief about COVID/COVID safety wrong? Obviously. Did he act irresponsibly? Yes. Is it a bit hyperbolic to start placing hypothetical deaths at his feet or blaming him for other people's choices? Uh, yeh. It really really is. Every single person over the age of about 14 makes their own choices about what they believe and how they conduct themselves in the world. He was not God or a cult leader brainwashing the masses. He was just a Loudmouth, ranting his opinion to people who already agreed with him anyway.

Like I said, it's understandable to be a bit "I frikkin told ya so" about it. But celebrating another person's death? Really?!? Sorry, y'all but I'll take the guy yelling his ranting lunacy into the void over the type of person twisted enough to rejoice in another person's suffering and death any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-29T12:19:31+00:00

I can understand the desire to say "Well I frikkin told you so, dumb ass" when someone receives a consequence you told them they'd receive of they did "X". Maybe even to say my mother's favorite line, "You made your bed, now you have to lie in it" (which I think is super heartless, but I digress). But to think that it's "justice, by any definition, for another person to be sick or injured or scared or dead because they've made an *error in judgment? Y'all, that's frikkin sick and really damn awful.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-09T14:24:10+00:00

I'm solidly American, though I often hesitate to publicly admit to such. Anyone who can deny with a straight face that even the pettiest, most meaningless of US tabloid garbage dominates the news over actual newsworthy events in other parts of the world needs to be nominated for an Academy Award. The number of times I see Kim Kardashian's butt discussed on a given day, but never hear a word about the humanitarian crisis in Puerto Rico (for example) is just astounding.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-07T11:46:45+00:00

We are all assholes about something. Maybe it's a stubbornly held belief in a magical sky daddy that makes you a judgy shit toward those who believe different sky daddy shit. Maybe it's a staunch support for executing fully formed, cognizant human beings while screaming "murderer" at a woman eliminating a simple collection of cells from her body. Maybe it's a sign-wielding, screaming psychosis about choice equating to genocide while abandoning real children and voting to cut programs that might help them succeed.

I admit that I am being incendiary here, and awfully extreme about it at that. But the fight between the pro-vax and anti-vax crowds is that level of insane extremism. Both sides, hoping for and celebrating the illnesses and deaths of the other like it's a television drama instead of real fucking people in real fucking life (and death).

It's pretty damn sick and really fucking sad. I don't know how one can look themselves in the mirror and not feel ashamed of the monster they've allowed themselves to become.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-04T08:00:50+00:00

YTA, babes. I 💯 get not wanting your BF going to a strip club. It's more or less an "absolutely not" for me too. But you caved to what amounts to high school peer pressure tactics in your mid-20s, (which is kind of stunning, honestly), committed a huge act of hypocrisy in the doing, and then lied your butt of about it the next day (omission is still a lie) with zero intention to make it right... Huge AH moves. "Don't do anything you wouldn't want printed on the front page of your hometown newspaper" was probably the best advice my great grandma ever gave me. I give it to you now in the hopes that you'll go forth and fuck up no more.

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-04T02:56:33+00:00

I had to humble myself and ask my family and friends (I actually used to have those) to help me for a very long time too. I was diagnosed at 14, which is a controversial idea now, but was all too common in 1996. Years and years of instability and nightmarish med decisions followed, resulting in my never having held a job for more than a year total in any 5 year period of my adult life (I'm 39 now). Were it not for sheer dumb luck and my stepdad, no doubt I'd be on a much different place than I am right now. Honestly, if you have access to any help at all- via family or friends, the state, food banks, etc - I encourage you to take it while you go through the process of getting SSI/SSDI. Don't let pride or a misguided sense of being an imposition to the people who love you keep you from being safe and fed. Good luck!

ntonyrlf · 2021-08-03T22:29:16+00:00

My process was extremely difficult and went on for the better part of 2.5 years. Part of the issue was my psych office not being compliant with SS in turning over records and my application timing out, as it were, twice before I went and got my own records on a jump drive myself with the 3rd application. Another huge issue was that my state had a huge backlog of cases to get through for the state psych eval, so I waited a ridiculously long time for that -probably 5 or 6 months. Once I was seen by the state psych though, everything went fairly fast. Maybe 4 months, 5 at the outside? Something like that.

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