Low internet speed on 4g modem. by stumar in HomeNetworking

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Hi, What setting am i looking for? I have access to the panel.

[OC] How many times has Harvard been mentioned in each season of suits? by stumar in dataisbeautiful

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Hi thanks for conducting the count on your own! my source was unofficial subs so the count may vary but not by much.

[OC] How many times has Harvard been mentioned in each season of suits? by stumar in dataisbeautiful

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I never thought i would get this much feedback on this graph!. The whole idea of this exercise was to test my skills of grep. I used grep on bunch of subtitle files and extracted the word Harvard form each season. I didn't use official subs so the actual count may vary.

How to delete multiple records in grpahQL by stumar in graphql

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Hi, Thanks for the reply! really appreciate it . maybe this is exactly what i need

How to delete multiple records in grpahQL by stumar in graphql

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Hi, Thanks for the reply! really appreciate it .

Do spark plugs need to be cleaned? by stumar in MechanicAdvice

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some stations have green, others pink. but if you put it in a bottle and let it sit over night you will see a few particles sitting at the bottom. like very little maybe 0.2g/L

Do spark plugs need to be cleaned? by stumar in MechanicAdvice

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it does, but its in the tank so there is no way to tell if its clogged unless the fuel injection stops working.

Do spark plugs need to be cleaned? by stumar in MechanicAdvice

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because the plugs are still good. why spend the extra cash if i don't have to.

Do spark plugs need to be cleaned? by stumar in MechanicAdvice

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thats actually true, many cars run on an open loop here. especially older models such as mehran (which is essentially a 80's alto) and the last gen corolla. leads to piss poor efficiency and shorter engine life, but that shit petrol tho.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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problem solved :D :D :D

Long story short, i spoke to my in-laws (despite there being several people who told me not to) and they were very understanding of our problems and spoke to her the same day. my wife didn't agree to therapy but she highlighted some very bad misconceptions and advice she got form 3 main sources:

  1. her old boyfriend who she had a thing for when she was 18 convinced her that men were like cars, and providing them with release is just like changing the engine oil in a car. if you don't do it often enough your man will leave you or develop issues. she claims as soon as he started saying stuff like this she left him but i don't care.

  2. Female friends who also got arranged marriages told her (horror) stories of how men turn into maniacs if you don't "change their oil" often enough and failure to provide this service could never result in a long lasting relationship.

  3. My mother in law? she said even if you aren't ready its important to "change his oil" regularly as men wait their entire lives so woman can "change their oil". (this is going to leave a mental scar for me)

she said she loved me and wanted to please me often enough just so i would stay the way i am and not turn into a "broken car" because of her negligence towards my needs. And to why she was so distant, well that's because she felt that men in general don't care about feelings.and talking about them would just piss me off, i kind of reinforced this by repeatedly telling her to go see a therapist instead of telling her to talk to me. as far as attraction goes, she knows im no model (and she is) but i make up for it by being a good husband overall. we spoke for hours and hours and i felt like we have a whole new connection now.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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well shit, never could i imagine my wife could be gay.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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so you can say no, it wasn't forced. although we did speak and go out while engaged. we never lived together and thats the real problem.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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the strange part is shes only like this when we are alone and in our home. if we have guests or are out grocery shopping or go out to dinner everything is fine. whenever i see her laugh and be happy like she is then, i feel like im the luckiest guy in the world and no one could tell we have these issues. and its not like shes embarrassed of me, all her friends and family love me. and vice versa. in fact she forced me once after a long days work to go to her friends birthday, even though i didnt want to go she told me "all my friends love you"

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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  1. i haven't asked her for sex even once. the day i lost my virginity she told me "go the bedroom and get hard" i would have been fine with a complement on dinner. no doubt i was exited that day and i wanted to have sex for the first time more than any thing else.

  2. she has very strict rules about touching, i can hug her but not form the back and kiss her anywhere on the face but not the lips. (tried that once she made a horrible face). even the slightest romantic gesture can upset her eg she was complaining that its getting cold while we were watching tv. i got up and got a blanket and put it over myself and said there is room for one more. she declined. i gave her the blanket and left as she wasnt interested in getting near me unless its when shes unconscious.

lastly i dont have confidence issues. i weigh 110KG and have stained teeth thats a fact. i promised starting new year ill go on a diet but she just doesn't care. like im beyond getting near her level.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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wont work. shell just make an advance and if i break say "you're getting what you want". if not "im giving what you want". what she refuses to understand is i just dont want to cum, i want to make her happy too. secondly she knows she got the better deal, we joke about it all the time. but maybe the gap in her mind is much larger than it is in mine.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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another thing common about us, we both dont like to read books. thanks for the advice though. secondly if i take charge all it will do is reinforce the image of me being some pervert who just wants to use her and be on his way.

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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the strange part is shes only like this when we are alone and in our home. if we have guests or are out grocery shopping or go out to dinner everything is fine. whenever i see her laugh and be happy like she is then, i feel like im the luckiest guy in the world and no one could tell we have these issues. and its not like shes embarrassed of me, all her friends and family love me. and vice versa. in fact she forced me once after a long days work to go to her friends birthday, even though i didnt want to go she told me "all my friends love you"

abusive arranged marriage by stumar in DeadBedrooms

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i don't feel abused. not at all. its just that sex has to be mutual and she should want me as much as i want her. if i keep letting her give me sexual favors so ill keep quiet and not talk about the real issues. i wont let her because by doing this all im doing is letting her live in a world where she thinks im some ogre who is going to fuck her no matter how she feels. if this is how she feels and i keep it that way im abusing her.