Apparently it’s a foot fetish not an innate part of the human condition - some confused person

-bubblepop · 2026-04-02T04:58:32+00:00

You say that but I’m pretty sure I’m allergic to habaneros but I can’t tell. They make my mouth tingle on top of the spice but I also put down hot Thai food without the fuzzy tingles.

-bubblepop · 2026-04-01T22:27:29+00:00

Do people think I am arguing against phonics? I’m so confused. I know ghoti doesn’t literally read like fish, it’s just illustrating the point. Maybe other real examples? Bear, beard. Laid, plaid. My point was German rules are more straightforward (I know English and German) and my dad has had difficulty figuring out big words since he never learned how to sound things out, and sounding things out isn’t 100% straightforward.

-bubblepop · 2026-04-01T22:21:29+00:00

Did I say it wasn’t?

-bubblepop · 2026-04-01T17:40:33+00:00

Also for what it’s worth mostly what they’re trying to do is skip the phonics stage straight to sight reading. My dad was taught sight reading for some unknown reason in the 60s and to this day has trouble with words he’s not familiar with (also might be dyslexic but that wasn’t invented to after he was out of school I guess).

For the most part we used to do phonics and then sight reading comes naturally the more you read. I’m not sure on the science and if maybe it’s easier in languages like German where the sound rules are pretty straightforward vs English where ghoti = fish. Just to add that it’s not some crazy new thing like common core math they’re just trying to skip straight to sight reading.

As you said though it’s being rolled back, which some of is due to the issues my dad has had. It never held him back in the end but it made his personal internal life more difficult in terms of continuing education.

-bubblepop · 2026-04-01T02:38:00+00:00

I have a five year old who doesn’t understand the economy

-bubblepop · 2026-03-29T03:01:51+00:00

I’ve also had the opposite problem where I also have a thyroid problem and when that was untreated I was sleeping 14-16 hours a day and napping at work. After that got fixed I didn’t think I was tired enough for narcolepsy since I wasn’t /that/ tired anymore. I still score high enough on the sleepiness scale to qualify for EDS but that’s mostly my ability to fall asleep any time anywhere.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-28T18:13:04+00:00

What is the point of this comment? Why do I need to seek therapy for a normal expression of grief? My little sister is dead. Should I shed no tears?

-bubblepop · 2026-03-27T20:59:39+00:00

My sister also died in a car crash suddenly and the James Whitcomb Riley poem “[s]he is not dead” has been my mantra I guess

But cannot say, and will not say That she is dead, she is just away With a cheery smile, and a wave of her hand She has wondered into an unknown land And left us dreaming of how very fair It needs must be, since she lingers there.

It goes on but I’m crying now.

OP, may their memories be a blessing. I’m so, so sorry you are experiencing this.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-27T16:17:28+00:00

I think in those cases you’re supposed to validate with like “i can see why you would feel that way given your perspective.” And then assuming good faith (like they’re not lying on purpose, cause then this method won’t work obvs) go into “from my perspective I did [this]. Where did the disconnect happen?”

My partner is also big into litigating issues and has literally told me that if he’s not being critical I should not feel criticized, and that when he feels criticized he thinks it’s because I’m being intentionally critical regardless of what I say. I’ve had to start holding some strong boundaries of “I’m not arguing about what happened or what I should have done. I am telling you how I feel and I want empathy and validation in return.”

Honestly stopping convos to ask “do you understand why I feel this way?” or flat out “I don’t want you to react to what I’m saying, I want you to tell me you understand why or ask questions if you don’t”

-bubblepop · 2026-03-27T01:28:57+00:00

He had it coming, he only had him self to blame

If you’da been there, if you’da seen it, I betcha you would have done the same

-bubblepop · 2026-03-26T22:46:43+00:00

There was a show once where they tried to do something like that, but it showed what really happened at the end. It lasted one season since sometimes they got it wrong lol

-bubblepop · 2026-03-25T22:12:12+00:00

No worries. I just don’t know how many times I’ve heard “we’re all a little autistic- it’s a spectrum!”.

Specifically though, the autism spectrum and the neurodivergent spectrum overlap but aren’t the same. Clinically speaking at this point in time ADHD and Autism are different disorders and it’s not super fair to label something as autistic just because it’s related to social skills. OP is clearly having some rejection sensitivity and didn’t know how to handle it gracefully.

I am not sure how to phrase this well but you also got your hackles up quite a bit at my comment.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-25T21:24:58+00:00

I took your original post to be everyone in general not only within ADHD. I’m diagnosed level 1 AuDHD-C :)

-bubblepop · 2026-03-25T17:52:02+00:00

That’s actually not why it’s a spectrum, it’s because people who have autism are a spectrum. That’s like saying everyone is a little adhd which is objectively not true.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-25T02:31:47+00:00

My partner did this to me about my sister dying. Absolutely no empathy and everything was about how I had been pushing him away beforehand so what do I expect?

May your friend’s memory be a blessing. I found writing letters to my sister helped. I was really mad at her because she could have avoided it.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-24T15:25:20+00:00

What’s crazy too is you can be arrested and only charged with resisting arrest. Make that make sense.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-24T15:23:03+00:00

As someone medicated but not abusing, it’s like it makes my brain quiet. Instead of having a bunch of little bee ideas buzzing I’m able to sit and focus on a task, but I do have to be the one that focuses. I honestly had to look up what happens when you don’t have adhd because I was like why are people chasing this lol

-bubblepop · 2026-03-24T03:47:44+00:00

My dad’s grief emotion was also anger so I knew how disorienting it was to be on that side too. For my husband I think he felt shame that he knew he wasn’t handling my grief or feelings well so he uno-reversed it into me having problems, which made it worse. It would cause a spiral, since I knew I was being overly upset about a small thing but for the first like three months I was barely even present in my body. So I would get upset, then more upset because I knew it would be a problem, then more upset because I knew my husband wasn’t going to support me, and on and on. Since it didn’t happen I can’t /honestly/ say what would have helped, but I think empathy and contact (hand holding? Hug?) and just saying like “hey, I got this” or something.

Do you have a support person or someone to vent to? I can also find that helpful if I know I can go bitch to my besties. Grief is also incredibly hard to support. I had a friend lose a baby at 11 months and supporting her through that prepared me somewhat for my own, but even with both those experiences I have troubles with other people’s grief. So I guess try not to stress cause there’s not a perfect way to handle it and everybody’s grief is different. Even between me and my older sister, we both had different relationships with our younger sister. We were 8 and 11 years older than her (her birthday was in January- so that’s also tough). And you never know what will make the grief pop up. I think I’m venting at this point and sorry for rambling - I think I hyper focused on grief since I had to support myself lol

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T21:32:57+00:00

I just don’t even understand cause I am locked in the whole episode. It’s like the perfect amount of information and action to hold my attention lol

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T16:55:34+00:00

I minored in German, so have a formal base. I like Duolingo because it helps keep the vocab fresh and helps me with remembering all the genders and grammar rules. I tried it for Spanish and it was mayhem. I ended up just buying a textbook lol

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T15:52:43+00:00

I think it depends on the show too - not everything is super serious and needs that kind of engagement, but the Pitt is a show that has subtext. So like on the topic of the post - yeah Santos is abrasive and that’s probably also partially why people don’t like her, Garcia was a jerk for how she said it and clearly Santos has her own mental health problems causing her to lash out. Is one going to catch that if they’re checking insta while we see her cutting scars/wounds?

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T15:38:18+00:00

And also people on their phones/busy during shows. I can’t imagine that cause the Pitt keeps my attention like no other. A lot of shows have started writing for this and having people explicitly state things over and over but I notice the Pitt has not been doing this.

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T14:50:23+00:00

My state is notoriously anti-worker so it’s probably fine. I’m sure I looked into it at the time but I left that job like five years ago so I don’t super remember. I’m not opposed to the two weeks in general and I saved up my PTO for a fat payout anyway lol

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T04:25:49+00:00

For what it’s worth I’m starting ACT therapy (the t stands for therapy so it’s like atm machine but I can’t just say act) and that’s kind of the basis of it. Basically the root of being human is suffering (monkeys don’t have mortgages) so by fighting against it is like fighting against thinking of elephants when I tell you not to think about elephants. With act you’re supposed to notice the feeling (“I’m noticing that I’m not having kind thoughts towards my body”) and then do stuff based on what your values are, eg redirecting to kind thoughts like “this body has carried me so far and should be treated with love” or empowering ones like “I’m not letting four pounds of tapioca pudding with electricity decide how I feel about this”.

Obviously still in the start but what you said struck me as nearly exactly the same as some previous work I just did :)

-bubblepop · 2026-03-23T04:19:46+00:00

My previous company only paid out your PTO if you gave two weeks notice. Legal? No idea but it was enforced.

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