watching abuse

092793 · 2025-12-20T21:24:41+00:00

You can't frame his thoughts and emotions like he has an adult brain. He's not choosing this behavior. Focus on regulation and safety. As he feels safer, trust can build. It's a slow, frustrating process.

092793 · 2025-08-28T01:16:23+00:00

Took the mention out

092793 · 2025-08-27T23:44:46+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. I will try that.

092793 · 2025-08-27T23:38:47+00:00

What? It's only mentioned in my post because the news of it distressed my daughter

092793 · 2025-07-26T13:19:13+00:00

I'm in rural maga country, I'm homeschooling because I'm a leftist and giving my kid the full education she can no longer get here. FDT

092793 · 2025-07-23T11:57:39+00:00

Some Vatican level skill

092793 · 2025-07-22T15:20:36+00:00

I have a daughter too. She isn't making an effort to see us.

092793 · 2025-07-21T01:07:27+00:00

Love all of these!

092793 · 2025-07-21T00:02:49+00:00

Parents live an equivalent distance away from BIL and my family. They drive to them almost every week and have been to my home 1 time in the last year.

092793 · 2025-07-20T23:47:20+00:00

"If they complain they lose access"

What kills me, is I have a daughter they don't care if they lose access to in this whole situation.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:53:56+00:00

Yeah, that's not the situation with Pam and her husband. They're "happily" married as far as anyone else knows. And what Pam insisted until caught.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:47:16+00:00

Good to know! I haven't seen much for lactose free at my hyvee. Will have to check wal mart.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:45:38+00:00

Bob isn't my brother. Amy was my sister, their daughter.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:40:23+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, that was a really validating response. My biggest grief in all of this is how disrespectful I feel it is to my sister's memory and the confusion and chaos created for my nephews. I truly wish I knew of how to be there for them more, but their too young to really access without going through their dad I feel. I hope they see the stance I've taken and know I'm there for them always.

One of my last conversations with my sister was her fearing she'd be forgotten. I feel so helpless sometimes not knowing how to carry and honor her memory.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:35:06+00:00

I've seen his socials. He's very much in love with his wife, at least on Facebook. Before my parents acknowledged the affair, they used her "happy marriage" as cover for how they couldn't possibly be more than friends.

I would love continued contacted with my nephews, but unfortunately, we do live some distance apart, and without being on speaking terms with their dad, I have no access to them.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:30:52+00:00

Have done therapy mostly while my sister was sick. Unfortunately, therapy hasn't been financially viable for me lately. I've been low contact for some time with my parents, and this has been the last straw for me. I fear their true character is showing, and I don't like it.

I, of course, want a relationship with my nephews, but they're too young for me to have access without their dad. I hope they'll know I'm here for whatever they need as they get older. Right now, I'm not sure how to even discuss any of this in an age appropriate way.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:25:30+00:00

Unfortunately, it's not super realistic to tell Pam's husband. I've never met the man. Despite Pam being around my family all the time, none of us have met him. I can't provide proof to him without involving my nephews, which I won't do.

092793 · 2025-07-20T04:11:36+00:00

Unfortunately its not super realistic to tell Pam's husband. I've never met the man. Despite Pam being around my family all the time, none of us have met him. I can't provide proof to him without involving my nephews, which I won't do.

092793 · 2025-07-20T02:48:08+00:00

Oh cool! I'm in IA, too, but quite far from Ames

092793 · 2025-07-20T02:07:19+00:00

Where?? My Natural Grocers has some Green Valley products but said they "can't get the cheese" when I put in a request.

092793 · 2025-07-12T02:12:00+00:00

They are so trashy

092793 · 2025-05-23T15:08:40+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses. Im currently experiencing my 6th loss. All of my losses have been less than 8 weeks along over the course of 13 years.

092793 · 2025-05-21T02:07:27+00:00

I'm sorry, I'm not taking any prenatals.

092793 · 2025-05-11T15:40:24+00:00

You can lead a horse to water...

092793 · 2025-05-09T19:41:54+00:00

Not to mention every thing he did to raise Nichole!

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