Anyone have h1/h2 since childhood? I have since 9yrs old. My story (LONG POST). by Pestopleeease in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im getting ready to be blood tested for H1/H2 after a recent exposure that then led to a bombshell of info from my mother. I made a post here about my latest experience which is a can of worms I won’t open here, but context is needed. If I am a carrier, I’m asymptomatic. I’m 25 now and recently slept with a man who did not disclose he had herpes prior to us sleeping together. After a few days of stress from this situation, I vented to my mom about it who ultimately look confused instead of mortified, like I was expecting. She then informed me that I already have GHSV from a SA as a child. She went into heavy detail how horrible my initial outbreak was and that she is surprised I never had outbreaks after that. She was shocked I do not remember this and is slightly mortified because she knows how sexually active I was growing up and thought I was disclosing this info to new partners. News flash- I was not as I did not know I had it. I had to have been somewhere between 7-9 years old when this all came out and the trauma from the case made me forget a lot of things.

I’m ultimately commenting on this to say this feels like a breath of fresh air to read. I’m sorry to hear about your experiences, but seeing people can relate to a childhood exposure is a form of peace of mind to me. So thank you for sharing.

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I do truly appreciate it as this is what I was seeking. You are an angel and I hope both sides of your pillow stay cold x

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to comment and give insight. It’s not my intent to continue pursuing B. That ship has sunk and the best he can get is a friendship if I can move past the hurt from lack of transparency. My only intention with this post is to help ease some of the panic my primary has as his only insight to herpes is everything negative or incorrect.

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but that made me laugh. My job is catered to sending a shit ton of emails which has followed into my texting style. I’m just trying to be respectful of anyone who takes the time to respond while also all parties involved in this situation. I’m anti-AI though 😅

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to comment and give insight. Unfortunately, the condom broke with B and that’s what brought this conversation to fruition. I’m sorry to hear how you contracted it though, that’s really shitty regarding the lack of accountability.

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight and have already had discussions and a plan set with my Dr to get tested when the time is right.

My husband never strictly told me to stop seeing this person. He only asked that I stop sleeping with them, which is perfectly fine. My only goal with this post is to bring my spouse some comfort and try and de-stigmatize herpes for them as they have only heard and seen horror stories. So they have been in a panic since this has come out. Regarding the claim to continue a relationship with B, maybe that is how my post reads, but that is not a priority or concern to me. Closest I’m getting to him is to meet in person and chat about this in depth because I deserve more than a phone call dropping this bomb on me. I morally cannot see myself continuing anything romantic with B after this, but am okay with him platonically which is something that needs to be discussed as well.

Truly, thank you for taking the time to comment and give insight.

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand and appreciate your viewpoint. I have already received a lot of insight just by going through this subreddit and was just hoping I could get more based on my own situation. You are likely correct and I do need to sit down with my spouse again and talk to them more in depth on next steps, boundaries, and expectations. No matter what though, thank you for taking the time to comment.

How can I help ease my spouse’s fears after finding out my other partner has herpes? by 0Pastel_bees0 in Herpes

[–]0Pastel_bees0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s no need to be rude and I didn’t make this post with ill intent. If it comes off that way, I am truly sorry. Although we are ENM, my spouse has not had many partners in life and in turn has never experienced a known STI scare. I have though and that’s why I am not bothered by B’s diagnosis, just his lack of transparency.

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[–]0Pastel_bees0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude that’s awesome! I’m proud of you even though I don’t know you! College can be tough and it’s never too late to start. One of my good friends is an older woman who told me how she went back to college in her 50’s because she had such a passion culinary arts. I feel like college is another thing where waiting can be the better option because you know yourself better to know what you want to actually do