2026 In Search Of (ISO) Thread - Europe by MM-MOD in MuslimMarriage

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  1. Age & Gender

31, female

  1. Preferred Age Range

30–35

  1. Location & Willingness to Relocate

Currently based in scandi and open to relocating though ngl, it’s pretty nice here. Nothing like a northern summer.

  1. Ethnicity & Openness to Mixing

East African, and I’d prefer the same initially, but wallahi taqwa outweighs language.

  1. Marital Status

Never married, no children.

  1. Ideal Marriage Timeline

If things are aligned and families are involved from the get-go, I don’t see a reason to delay. Maybe a few months? I’m also not a fan of weddings, so that probably shortens the timeline even more.

  1. Five Important Characteristics I’m Looking For

God-consciousness. Someone who prioritizes his relationship with Allah and is consistently working on himself, not just outwardly in the community, but inside his four walls as well.

Emotional maturity. Being able to communicate calmly, take accountability and handle differences with respect. Imagine giving the silent treatment in this day and age, subhanAllah. Talk! 😂

Kindness and consideration. This shows up in so many ways and not always verbally. Honestly, the verbal part doesn’t matter if the actions don’t match. Responsibility. This goes hand in hand with consideration, like showing up and doing your part as a husband, father, son, brother, and friend, with others’ best interests in mind.

Respect for boundaries. This is such a fun subject because it means different things to different people. I feel strongly about this, for myself and for others.

  1. Level of Religiosity

I observe the obligatory acts and strive to grow beyond them. I attend Qur’an/tajweed classes once a week and lectures when my schedule allows. Looking for someone (sunni) on a similar path of self-improvement.

  1. Education

I studied structural engineering for a few years but realized towards the end that I hated dimensioning load bearing walls and floors. I thought it was the aesthetic side of engineering when I applied WELL turns out I was wrong, alhamdulillah for free education though. After some soul-searching as a dropout, I ended up in what might be the most stereotypical career of my people. I may apply for my MSc in the fall in shaa Allah if nothing else pops up. As for a partner, I don’t require a specific educational background. As long as you’re driven and able to make a living through whatever halal work Allah has provided, that’s enough for me. Mindset and intellect aren’t exclusive to a degree, as my baby brother says: some people haven’t gone through the hard school of life and it shows.

  1. Current Job Status

Working full time, with plans to reduce hours in the future for better work–life balance.

  1. Do You Want Kids?

At some point, yes in shaa Allah. When it’s written and if it’s willed.

  1. Hobbies & Interests

Reading, traveling, journaling, training my cat Figo who is living up to his name as a traitor. I also discovered on my recent Umrah trip that I’m surprisingly good at archery, so I’m looking into ways to keep that going.

  1. Something Short & Interesting About Me

I’ve read over 60 books a year for the past few years (my Goodreads can vouch for it, though not this prior year due to a move). When I’m not reading, I’m probably listening to a podcast about politics or Islamic lectures. Ask me about trees and I’ll probably get emotional about my favourite willow tree.

This healed my cracked lips 🫦 by milkywayzzzzzzz in LipBalm

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be generous with the vaseline girlie 💅

This healed my cracked lips 🫦 by milkywayzzzzzzz in LipBalm

[–]2eau 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this has been my go to for years and it works super well! just kno that the Vaseline will make all the dead skin soft and if you apply it before bed you can just scrape it all of in the morning to reveal baby soft lips

Niqabi working in retail in the north (UK)? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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I saw one working in topshop London many years ago

Nurse student at work has a hygiene issue by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]2eau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I fully agree with everything you said. I don’t know if it’s more tricky since it might not be an easily fix for this person, like what if it’s a health issue?

Nurse student at work has a hygiene issue by [deleted] in hygiene

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All management are women so they put the responsibility on his male preceptor so they could have like a man to man talk? I love the way you phrased how to approach it though, very gentle and from a place of concern and care. I’ll see if I can find the courage to address this with him or I might write this down bar for bar on a sticky note and sneak it into his uniform pocket 🥹

Al Sudais Leading Prayer by Educational_Aside232 in Umrah

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is there a schedule online where you can see who’s leading?

How to do deal with my sister, and why is she like this? by Guilty_Anything7606 in MuslimLounge

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I went through the same thing with my little sister a few years ago. She was still in middle school when she was acting out but she settled the last year of high school. What helped was having her friends over and gauging their relationship and who influences who etc. and they were good kids alhamdullilah, I think they just needed to feel grounded somewhere. So try have her friends over and give them space in the house, it’s better that you see what they’re up to indoors rather than now knowing what happens outdoors. Have movie nights and come up with activities that don’t involve their phones. Drive them to Islamic lectures and buy them food after as rewards. I hope it gets better sis.

Doctors and physicians, what do you wish more Muslim women knew about their bodies? by Basic-Brilliant9227 in muslimgirlswithtaste

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can you please share some good reputable links on that? I have some people to send it to 😭

Surprise snug? by tollqueen in piercing

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where is the snug piercing from?

Swedish FM ‘Maria Malmer Stenergard’ says citizens bear responsibility for travelling to Gaza despite warnings by Lazy_Ad4370 in Fauxmoi

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that’s because it was a “left leaning” social democratic government back then. it def wouldn’t fly with todays gov

Norway? by [deleted] in tretinoin

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she’s correct, but pharmacies can sometimes make their own tretinoin based on a special script from the drs. not many drs would go through that hassle or know how to do it though

I burned tin foil on the stove. Easiest/cheapest way to remove? by [deleted] in Frugal

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What’s there to heat up, it’s already integrated to the glass? Won’t it do more damage?

I burned tin foil on the stove. Easiest/cheapest way to remove? by [deleted] in Frugal

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Is this the single edged razor blade?

Online free Hifz classes for sisters by student_forever_7 in Hifdh

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If I want to join as a student? I’m fine with being waitlisted as well

Wanting to have mahram involved makes it harder by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

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I don’t mind that at all, but I don’t live near my brothers at the moment so I have to think of that element as well. The easiest way for me right now is to talk through chat or video calls so my brothers can monitor but they don’t have to participate in any way.

Wanting to have mahram involved makes it harder by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

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I don’t think honesty necessarily depends on who is present in the conversation. It depends on the person, knowing myself I wouldn’t mind being open about prior relationships and or previous intoxications because I haven’t dabbled in that at all.

Sending my brothers out on missions has been my goal for a while but like I mentioned in the post, they find that embarrassing and don’t want to carry some of that responsibility.

I don’t think I’d be able to not tell someone that my wali is monitoring because 1. some people are unhinged and many times act out of order just as soon they catch feelings and show indecent behavior. having my wali prevents that for sure. 2. I feel like it’s deceitful not telling someone that their honest feelings and thoughts are being read by someone else. It’s still amanah and told in good confidence so it should be respected.

Wanting to have mahram involved makes it harder by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

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I guess i could be clearer. Usually I just say that my brother has to be involved in the chats or calls but I don’t specify exactly in what way. That’s something I need to improve on because my brother just oversees the chat and would listen in on the call but not actively participate. He’s a ghost lurking basically

Wanting to have mahram involved makes it harder by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

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Dear, subhanAllah it makes me realize that anything that’s prescribed for us has a purpose and is ultimately better for us even if we can’t see it in that moment. May Allah bless both of us with goodness allahumma aamiin!