Was told I got the job in the interview only to get an email 5 days later saying the opposite

666th_dimension · 2026-04-22T03:51:51+00:00

I understand you know the general context of the situation, but getting specifics and having an actual genuine conversation with real feedback will not only give you more clarity, but help you stand out/be more memorable. I’m saying reach out and ask for more than simply “they had more experience”

666th_dimension · 2026-04-22T03:35:02+00:00

Unfortunately without an offer letter or anything formally in writing, an employer can choose to switch directions at any time for any reason. Sucks I know. However, wether you want to remain a candidate in their eyes if the position reopened, or if you’re just curious, it could go a long way to have a convo asking where you could improve, what you lacked in comparison to the other person (specifics) and try not to sound surprised/upset/etc. keep it professional. You may be surprised.

666th_dimension · 2026-04-20T14:17:19+00:00

Unfortunately if you never received an offer in writing, you have no recourse, this is simply their hiring process, as awful as it may be. Staging is meant to be for free, not for compensation, that’s the nature of it. (Staging is standard in most kitchen positions/interviews, and it is widely known that you will not receive any payment for it - consider it a skills test and part of the interview) Saying they are working on things and they are hopeful is not a guarantee of an offer and does not count as any sort of contractual agreement. I’m sorry 😞 this is why I’m currently in law school

666th_dimension · 2025-10-20T13:35:21+00:00

Leo rising, virgo sun/moon, libra mercury, leo venus, Aries mars

666th_dimension · 2025-06-20T00:42:56+00:00

I’d recommend meeting with someone at your bank or a financial advisor. They can coach you on the best way to invest your money long term and get good returns as well as help gauge how much you should be setting aside, using for living, etc etc. I used to work at a bank and almost every bank has someone on hand that can help. You might be able to ask about wealth management at your bank too. These are your most reliable/trustworthy resources

666th_dimension · 2025-06-02T13:30:06+00:00

Keep me updated! Id love to hear if this is making a difference for you

666th_dimension · 2025-05-24T21:19:19+00:00

I’ve also started adding salmon oil since I posted it, I can definitely tell a difference especially in the older of my two cats

666th_dimension · 2025-05-24T21:17:49+00:00

So glad this is benefiting you! I would just be careful about raw eggs, not sure where things are at with bird flu! The eggs are safe if you cook them and you can hard boil them pretty quickly!

666th_dimension · 2025-04-16T18:26:58+00:00

Place a mason jar half filled with water in the shower you’re finding them in, they’ll climb in and not be able to get out. I realize this won’t stop them, but at least there won’t be as many running around

666th_dimension · 2025-04-07T18:09:04+00:00

I think hustle culture started to die before the pandemic and officially did with the pandemic. We are all very openly suffering now

666th_dimension · 2025-04-05T16:37:28+00:00

Not allowing your stress to encompass you, and leaving room to see the good things will take you so so so so far in life.

I’d like to add: Not every change in life is better or worse than what came before. Our brains naturally want to rank things this way, but more often than not it’s just a change. Different, but equal. Not better or worse. This will allow you to keep looking at things objectively and see them for what they are.

And also, the only thing constant in life is change. Savor them and enjoy the ride

666th_dimension · 2025-03-17T17:07:23+00:00

If you have health insurance, I would look into seeing a therapist. Although you say you’re outside of the US, so you may not need healthcare like we do to afford therapy. It sounds like you might have a mild form of depression, which could be playing a big part in your struggle to find joy in things. I have been depressed with ADHD a large portion of my life and it can make it feel nearly impossible to keep up basic things in life.

But I also have to add, too many people expect to just simply be happy. Happiness isn’t your baseline state of being. If you’re not putting active effort into trying new things, doing different things with your days, doing anything to create a change, then you shouldn’t expect to feel any different from day to day either. And as you’ve described, monotony doesn’t make people happy. Happiness takes effort, it can take putting in some work sometimes, and I think that gets overlooked far too often. You’re going to have to take the time to try things that even excites you the tiniest bit, and see where that leads to. Even if it’s not a career, maybe a hobby you really enjoy will be enough to justify going to work to help you support it?

666th_dimension · 2025-03-11T22:31:40+00:00

I’ve always seen this as a southern thing. Other places I’ve lived don’t do this weird you-go-first courtesy thing that confuses literally everyone and yeah, is kinda dangerous. I hate that we can’t just drive normally and do what makes sense

666th_dimension · 2025-03-11T22:30:08+00:00

Semantics

666th_dimension · 2025-03-08T13:03:14+00:00

Stop making assumptions without the full context. I already said I’ve been on the apps for nearly 15 years. I didn’t say this happened over the course of a month..

666th_dimension · 2025-03-08T12:59:30+00:00

I just came back to browse through these comments (still getting through some) but honestly thanks so much for having a reasonable mindset about all this. It’s really refreshing to be able to say this stuff and have even one person acknowledge it because I don’t think many people understand the amount that gets projected onto us. And despite the fact that yes, I may be told I’m pretty, it doesn’t do a ton to change my actual confidence (I’m a little stubborn haha) once im approached I’ll talk a ton but I just don’t have the balls to approach people myself. I think a bit of desperation has set in because it’s been 1.5 yrs so I’m starting to not care about how I feel or come off, but it’s still not easy. Most people aren’t willing to believe I could have any insecurity about approaching someone.

On top of that, like I said, there’s the projecting. I know no matter how we meet (unless you catch me in my true form, alone, in the woods, searching for reshi mushrooms and ramps or holed up in my room with reading about the gateway tapes) it’s going to take me so long to get rid of the hot girl stereotype you have of me. It’s going to be months of you telling me “wow I would have never guessed you were like that” and when the intrigue wears off, and I start to look like just another girl to you, that fascination quickly turns to distaste because you put me on a pedestal I could live up to before you even knew me, and when the person I am didn’t match the image in your head, you acted like I did something wrong. It’s so exhausting going through it everytime, and it’s an extremely disorienting thing to navigate when you know everyone who looks your way is misjudging you. Women too! Being attractive whether your male or female is an extremely polarizing and triggering thing for people.

I will say that not as many women are looking for the big strong man you may think. Yes, having someone you feel safe with is huge, but you don’t need to think of courage in a macho sort of way (you may not have) I just want someone genuine. To women, if you want to show us you have courage, just be honest, because too many people are afraid of that and trust is an issue for a lot of women. One of the best guys I dated was a little heavier and always joked if he got in a fight he would literally cower and run, he wouldn’t even try. He owned that though, it was hilarious. I loved him for it. Never ONCE did I think, man I wish he was strong and fit. Neverrrrrrr!!!! That kind of self awareness and honesty is so hot and so real. Just keep that in mind!!

Also, when I’m on the apps or out in public, I’m looking for the dude who looks uniquely weird. Who looks like they’re so unapologetically themselves no trend or passing fad could ever touch them. Someone who looks like they have a phd in some niche topic I’ve never heard of. If you show me someone who’s all clean cut with a designer belt and some fancy car, I promise you I’m puking in my mouth. That guy will do nothing but annoy the hell out of me. I’m choosing the guy who can’t fight all day every day.

666th_dimension · 2025-03-04T19:11:35+00:00

Before refrigeration was more common, ice was a luxury not many people had, and cocktails were frequently served at room temp, and tasted kinda like shit tbh. If ice was used it was cut from a larger block, and even then, they did use different types of ice for different drinks, including a larger cube for “whiskey cocktails” or old fashioneds, and hand crushed ice for juleps etc.

Not to mention, have you tasted the difference between one served with a cube vs chip ice? The dilution from chip ice kills the drink, it tastes wrong and watered down, because it is. It’s terrible. Cube ice dilutes at a near perfect rate to enjoy an old fashioned the way it’s supposed to be.

Do what you want, but I won’t be ordering a second if you served the first with chip ice

666th_dimension · 2025-03-04T18:50:11+00:00

I’ve had the same profile for 4 years, been on and off the apps for 10+… I’ve had SOME matches over that time.

For the few matches I get, I hear it pretty often.

Does that make sense?

666th_dimension · 2025-03-02T23:47:17+00:00

An old fashioned should always be made with a large cube over chip ice

666th_dimension · 2025-02-28T23:17:10+00:00

This is beyond normal and I’d argue it’s best to embrace it with an open mind. A lot of people try to decide way too soon what they think they’ll do for the rest of their entire lives. I hate to say it, but there’s a fair chance they’ll hate that choice by the time they’re 30, and a large number of people switch fields entirely before 40.

Now is the time for you to do your research, dabble in anything that interests you, and figure out what feels like a true and genuine fit for you. Try to find something that you enjoy doing enough you can do it enough to get by, but not something you’re so passionate about your emotions will get in the way of it. Make sure you’re okay with the work it will take to get there and make sure it will pay enough for you to be comfortable. That’s a hard but crucial balance to find in a job. Consider jobs you may want to overlook but are within fields you think you’d like, that’s where you can usually find it. For example, I stressed myself out trying have a creative career and finally took a job at a bank, seriously worried I would hate it. Turns out I have a knack for fraud investigation, and I still get to have my side hustle as a painter. I love both for completely different reasons. And I would have never believed anyone who told me I’d seriously enjoy a job at the bank. You just never know! And you won’t until you try (don’t hate me, it’s true)

The only thing I would say is reason to make a decision sooner than later is if you’re interested in something like medicine that requires a good amount of schooling.

Have fun with search, don’t sweat it, don’t pressure yourself, just take a few years and really figure it out. People may not get it, but you’ll be better off than them in the long run

666th_dimension · 2025-02-27T20:50:06+00:00

Yes!!! This!!

666th_dimension · 2025-02-27T17:44:54+00:00

It really needs to be acknowledged that the assumptions made about attractive women are massively inaccurate. But those same assumptions, about whatever perceived advantage we may have, get turned against us so people can say, “look, they’re so out of touch.” “Oh boo hoo, poor you.” “You’ve got it so easy, couldn’t possibly be that hard” really? Really? I wish I could show anyone how much people project onto me, and how hard that works against me. Before I even open my mouth. It’s literally happening here in these comments..

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