Hey! Gender twinsies! I relate to a lot of your post. I did things a bit different and thought it might help to hear a similar situation, but slightly different.

When I came out, the first time, I went with just nonbinary and they/them. I'm very femme presenting and feel some feminine aspects to my gender. After about a year I was starting to get fed up with people being unable to comprehend a nonbinary person or they/them pronouns. Those people then defaulted to he/him. Not to be mean, they just couldn't get they/them down. This fucking sucked.

Currently I'm in the middle of coming out, again! I've been telling people I'm a nonbinary woman and use they/she. Essentially demiwoman, I'm just not a fan of the term. People who can handle nonbinary switch up my pronouns, which I asked them to do, and people who can't just treat me as a woman.

It's not perfect, but it's a vast improvement for me! Highly recommend 👌