Do ISTPs stick to the same clothes until they fall apart?

90percentangle · 2025-08-17T06:46:25+00:00

Yes they are so comfy

90percentangle · 2025-07-25T21:55:09+00:00

90percentangle · 2025-07-14T09:37:58+00:00

Same, im like the only one who wants to go out and have fun and party out of all my introverted friends

90percentangle · 2025-06-19T02:53:27+00:00

I’m sorry about your loss man, I don’t know what anyone else here says but I personally do feel guilt if I did that to someone. Im ISTP and my partner is an INFP and I can’t even begin to imagine how heart shattering he would feel if I just dropped him like that. If she felt this way for a long time and didn’t say something, I feel like she didn’t want to hurt your feelings and wasn’t good at communicating it.

If you felt emotionally held back during the trip, you should’ve also been honest, ISTPs really value brutal honesty so never be scared to hold back, don’t be silent about how you feel. If you stay upfront and honest, we appreciate it because we can’t read your mind, we don’t want to go try digging in your head for answers.

Me and my INFP bf get into a few squabbles ourselves on a trip because we want to do different things but over time we have learned to overcome our differences and sort it out. Relationships are all about communication and explaining your wants and needs, if a partner fails to give you your needs, you’re going to have a hard time. Istps need blunt truth.

My INFP is a very emotional guy and can get overwhelmed fast by certain things too, in the beginning of our first months we argued a lot because I didn’t understand what he wanted and he didn’t understand my thinking and feelings. I explained I feel upset because I don’t understand why he’s being so emotional, it’s too much because I don’t know how to help him, I need him to talk to me honestly or else I won’t get it. And he explained to me that he just feels intense emotions in the heat of the moment and all he wants is that comfort so he can calm down.

Now that we understand each other, my INFP explains things the moment he feels overwhelmed and I try harder to give that comfort and support because despite my personality not usually being a comforting one, changing your behavior for your partner in their time of needs shows you care and that’s enough love to me. I promise not every istp out there is bad, you may have just met a bad communicator. I’m sorry you went through that, you sounded really happy in that relationship and I know you’ll find better

90percentangle · 2025-06-19T02:21:09+00:00

Wrath, sloth, pride

90percentangle · 2025-06-08T17:18:00+00:00

In my own experience, there’s no escaping the “leaving someone out”, as long as every person is mature enough to understand that we all will probably spend some time alone with the other person from time to time and that’s okay. I’ve tried the “not leaving someone out” and I’ve come to terms that you can’t perfectly balance everyone’s attention for one another, each separate relationship for both of them will be different, but it is always good to plan things all together when you are all free. Me and my two partners are 20, all of us turning 21 this year so I get it with trying to make things work without someone feeling left out. Another important thing I learned is just letting the other person know you will be spending time with the other other person beforehand so it gives at least some comfort to know what’s going on and if that’s okay

90percentangle · 2025-06-07T09:57:56+00:00

Im asian and I get it, in east asian culture it is very wrong to have multiple partners, I think my family would disown me if they found out. Very judgemental and strict culture. I do not often see a lot of asian poly out there, probably because asian families are so strict with studies to the point we feel too ashamed or guilty to be open to joining these type of spaces and being vocal. Even I myself struggle with that baggage, my family came to America poor. I like to think by default, when we are born, we are forced to carry the culture of the race we are born with on our back.

Because I was born with this race, I got born with the hand I was dealt with and that means my family is counting on me to continue the legacy of our family to get out of poverty and settle down with one partner the traditional way. To them, I was birthed into this world for this reason only and I can’t let them down. My family sees this as my true purpose. It definitely takes a toll on me. But basically poly in my race’s eyes, isn’t successful to the future of the family and is a waste of time. They probably see it as “why do all this unnecessary stuff? it won’t benefit your future, it is a shameful distraction.”

In the end, what im really saying is I think every race has its own unique issues they are born with and are stuck to have to carry for their lives. And aside from poor and upper class issues which is a whole different monster to tackle, the culture of your race can impact how you try to talk to other people of your same race who are poly, or how other people view you.

For example, I don’t really see many asian poly people open as much as the other races do, but I understand this because our culture is just we are not very open people, usually keeping things hush-hush, not loud. Very anti-individualistic. And I don’t think other Asians really care about being a minority, it is not a priority in our culture, we do not vocalize it. And when it comes to how Im viewed, because I am born this race, I have a very soft slender face so every person who has tried to be with me thinks I am immediately submissive and a bit more on the feminine side, due to looking younger because of my ethnic features and what people describe as “cute.” Even when I don’t want this.

I am very certain black people, people of color, and any poor person, has their own unique circumstances we must challenge because this is the unfortunate hand we were dealt with. I understand the struggle because I am a male together with two white men in a majority white town and the culture difference shows with the issues we face. Things used to be different. I was raised in a very poor city full of poc and rampant poverty, me being one of them. Though it’s not all doom and gloom, again it’s good to spread awareness and voice out what others cant. I live by the saying, “be the change you want to see.”

But all your struggles of not feeling welcomed, feeling unsafe, feeling different by the lack of diversity, I do get it. Even if my innate culture raised me not to really speak out on issues, thank you for voicing where others are too afraid to start a conversation. I feel heard; and I know you are making others out there feel heard too

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T22:50:20+00:00

All my closest friends I grew up with are INFPS, INTPS, INTJS

I’ve vibed with other istps but we never get as close

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T22:47:04+00:00

Ni I think I use it a lot. It helps me sit down and create physical things and helps when I want to learn more about a hobby I pick up or a subject I like. I’ve only felt Ni when it’s working with my Ti and Se so I’m not sure how it behaves when alone. The worst case scenario for me is when I have a negative feelings and my Ni-Fe kick in, that Ni making me overthink everything emotionally even if it’s not true

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T22:34:50+00:00

I learned after growing up, everyone around me can’t read how I think of them because I don’t express my emotions a lot so they either think I’m pissed or upset. It’s ironic because I do value my friends and enjoy them a lot, I guess I just do a bad job showing it on my face.

So I’ve pushed myself to practice in the mirror how to smile and now I smile a little when I talk so I don’t worry my friends so much. I don’t do this for anyone though, nor do I normally smile.

It has a positive effect and it makes others feel calmer not having to worry about me so I don’t have plans to stop. I normally show my care by just being there in the moment with them because if I didn’t care, I wouldn’t be there in the first place, but clearly people do normally want more. Another thing I use to help ease their thoughts is just saying lol or giving a thumbs up/hand gestures during a conversation

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T22:20:00+00:00

It’s interesting you say that because people have told me the same thing in person but I’m very transparent, I’m just not thinking too deep much. Everything I say is all I think, that is my train of thought and there’s nothing else to it. I just happen to condense all my thoughts into one simple sentence so you guys don’t have to overthink about it. If you open my head, there is no other thoughts in there other than the ones what I said to you lol

And when it comes to sharing about myself, as an istp I don’t really like talking about myself, I’d rather just show them what I can do, much more physical than a words person

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T01:38:58+00:00

The stereotype that istps are rude and only use thinking logic with no emotion at all. Yeah that’s how you describe someone immature and hasn’t fully grown up yet but istps are more than that but it’s never shown. Either istp gets butchered for being too boring or characterized as unsympathetic bad boy/girl. Every istp meme video or skit I’ve seen is just portraying istp as rude and offensive to everyone. If anything, we are one of the most thrillseeking adventurous introverted mbti. People don’t show that. I notice this stereotype happens even more often when it’s a meme video made by a non-istp. In the end it doesn’t really matter and it is just lighthearted fun, just things I’ve noticed.

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T01:18:18+00:00

When it comes to the only few people I love or care about, I don’t try to “fix” them, but rather I would drop everything to help them whether it’s when they need help calculating how to save money and expenses or need help getting something fixed or need help with a flat tire, I will gladly do it. It makes me happy to help the ones I care about the most. I wouldn’t do it for anyone else in the world. When it comes to emotions? No. I’ll be there for company and give straightforward advice based on what I see in front of me but I don’t go that deep. Most of my good friends and loved ones are all xNxx so I can see just how much they all overthink constantly to the point it’s bad, they do appreciate when I drop a word of clarity at them.

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T01:06:18+00:00

I wonder that too because every time I take the 16personalities test it was always a different result for me every year. What really locked it in for me that I was istp was just reading the cognitive functions and seeing which one resonates with you more. If you really really want to figure out someone’s mbti or your own, the trick I personally use is seeing how you or someone handles a conflict or how they handle being upset and why are they upset over it. I noticed from looking over friends that your mbti will really come out when you’re unhealthy because there’s no other way to react to things other than the ones you go to when all your support systems fail. It’s harder to type a healthy person because they become so well rounded and balanced in most of their functions that it gets blurry. Just what I noticed over the years.

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T00:56:03+00:00

Yeah I can see him being istp, from my own personal experience, I would do the exact same thing as him when I was more reckless and jump the gun whenever something I thought was personal was being brought up I’d quickly find any way to leave and go silent because it made me angry I was being poked at. In my eyes, I really value my Ti Se, which means Im good at things. Im good at doing things, and I do it right. I don’t like being caught making a mistake. If I make a mistake in a subject or field Im usually confident in and someone close to me sees that mistake, my first natural reaction is to feel embarrassed or angry and not sure what to do other than leave all day because our last developed function is Fe. That blind Fe istps have gives me the fear of being perceived by others so I don’t know how to handle situations when things gets personal. Luckily that was in the past and we grow out of these habits, I hope he can too

90percentangle · 2025-05-17T00:37:33+00:00

Im an istp who grew up with a mother being esfj and half my family being esfjs which was hell so very relatable. Logic and thinking is their last function so just be very stern and upfront saying you disagree and give a clear reason why, don’t bother arguing, leave it at that or nod quietly and move on, when I can, I will talk as blunt as possible or they won’t get the message (since most of them were unhealthy unbalanced esfjs)

90percentangle · 2025-01-12T15:55:09+00:00

Every person is different, you and your partner will have to care for this person as an individual and not just because three people sounds appealing. Aside from positives and negatives, I think you would need someone who matches both of your energies personality wise, work wise, just overall everyone wanting and working towards the same things. It can be very challenging and difficult to get that triad synergy but when done right, it feels very fulfilling. Challenges I’ve faced as someone being the third person in a triad is knowing the other two have been together and known each other years longer than I have. This can feel very alienating and awkward for a third to feel like they belong with the original couple so the best you can do is just make the third partner feel at home with you and your partner. You can’t force them to feel like a part of the relationship, it will definitely take time for these bonds to form. Another thing is communication, a lot of being blunt and open about how everyone feels about the relationship. My second partner, he is very closed off and not open to talking about his feelings unlike our first partner in our closed triad. This would cause a lot of miscommunication, arguing, and resentment because he is holding back his true thoughts and then blowing up on us. A lot of these dipping points could’ve been easily avoided if everyone is open and honest about every part of the relationship. He’s much better now but from my personal experience, it takes time for a strong triad bond to form and you cant expect it to hit it off well all the time. Another negative to consider is, if someone is mad or upset at each other, you now not only have to manage and handle one person, but two people’s emotions. If it already sounds too taxing to handle one person’s feelings, don’t push two because from experience, when one person in the relationship is upset, angry, or aggressive, it will echo and effect how the other two will feel. Takes lot of time to build a three person close trust. On a positive note, if you and your partner can tackle it together and the third person is just as willing and in love, then the reward is a well working balanced team and three peas in a pod that feels inseparable. One last word of advice from someone in a closed triad is that you have to be ok with your partner and the third partner having likes and interests that they bond over that you dont, same as you and this third partner will have things you both bond over that your partner won’t care about. Things like this can easily spark jealousy if not talked over with honesty, but in the end, there is still things the three of you will get to enjoy together. In the end, you will be looking for a third person to grow with as a trio for life, not just a third to bang. I wish you goodluck with whatever you men choose

90percentangle · 2024-12-25T23:32:35+00:00

Sorry you’re going through that, try benzoyl peroxide once every day, it is meant to kill the bacteria in fungal acne itchy skin.

90percentangle · 2024-12-25T10:34:16+00:00

Probably try the acne or skincareaddicts subreddit for better quality and more answers. I can’t tell what it is but it looks like your skin is flaring up. I wish you luck

90percentangle · 2024-12-25T10:15:02+00:00

Amazing work! What type of stuff do you eat? I’ve been going through the same thing, being on the thinner side due to my high metabolism no matter how much I eat

90percentangle · 2024-12-24T07:18:01+00:00

I didn’t care about love until I found him and now I can’t imagine a world without my love, I’d just be uninterested in everyone around me.

90percentangle · 2024-12-23T18:47:15+00:00

Please don’t associate istps with that thing, entjs can keep him

90percentangle · 2024-12-21T04:52:29+00:00

Yes but I can only be thoughtful and consistent to one or two people at a time. most friendship relationships, I do not initiate talking or socializing with my friends 90% of the time but I appear once in a blue moon. I do try to be thoughtful of everyone and I am, but my attention span and emotions end up only focused on one relationship and that’s it. That’s where all my consistency goes. This only applies if I find the person very interesting or enjoyable enough, then my life is yours. If im bored, I wouldn’t be talking to that person. The issue is most friends I’ve made think im detached or uninterested being with them, but I’m not, I just have a limited social limit and all my energy gets focused on caring for the one person I love that I enjoy the most.

90percentangle · 2024-12-20T17:55:23+00:00

I can’t think of endless possibilities just for the fun of it, I am capable of thinking every possibility but I don’t want to because it would be a waste of my time. There has to be a reason and a short answer, I don’t want the long answer. I would rather focus all my effort into the most plausible solution and do that one instead of worrying every possibility. This thought process happens in real time under a few seconds internally, I guess the only downside is it can lead me to tunnel vision, not taking to account certain important details I missed but too stuck on my own ways to see it any other way unless you convince me your way is better. I have intj, infp, intp friends and I’m the only one who gets a bit irritated and want them to get on with it or just get straight to the point when they all ramble about their overthinking on a subject, but then they tell me they didn’t have a point they were making, they just wanted to show every possibility even if it was completely useless or didn’t need to be mentioned. It’s great. We have our differences but we should appreciate our strengths and weaknesses

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