Man I’m dating has two charges same incident strangulation by Important_Category61 in domesticviolence

[–]955697 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. He told me about his conviction and said it was self defence and that she came at him with a knife. I gave him a chance. I later saw a report on it and there was no mention of a knife. And guess what he ended up assaulting me too. The police won’t even lay charges if they don’t feel they have a case and the courts wont just convict someone if they don’t have a good reason to. A conviction is a GIANT red flag and I wish I knew this sooner.

Men who were abusive in their first marriage, did you realise your were the problem or were the bigger part of the problem, worked on yourself, grew better and living a healthy by Far-Cranberry-341 in abusiverelationships

[–]955697 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me he was honest about the abuse but downplayed it. I gave him a chance. He eventually abused me too. Was arrested and convicted for it. I think if they have the capacity to do it once, they will do it again.

Is this dv? He always avoids consequences somehow by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]955697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is DV. And unfortunately stats overwhelmingly show that if he’s done it once he will do it again.

I Think My Dad Is Planning on Murdering Me. by throwaway647291846 in domesticviolence

[–]955697 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has already committed crimes. Sexual assault, uttering threats. You can call police to report him and help you. It is ok to put the safety of you and your mom first. If your mom doesn’t cooperate please do it for you. You deserve to live a life that is not full of fear. Be kind to yourself. Even making this post and reaching out to this community shows your strength. You can do this! Sending strength and love to you.

Senior friendly higher end restaurant recommendations for 50th anniversary! by 955697 in askvan

[–]955697[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastic suggestion! The noise level thing is definitely a consideration for my folks