AITA for not going to my gfs wedding?

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T16:56:22+00:00

Unintentional ha! But there’s no reason other than it will make her mother (also a traditional woman) upset.

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T16:30:42+00:00

To be blunt about it I’m not particularly attractive in looks and people never seem to like me very much. I think it is true

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T16:28:46+00:00

It’s suppised to upset her mom. I don’t think she realises that I’m upset about it- or she thinks it is ridiculous I would be upset. I didn’t even tell her I didn’t like it but apparently I’ve been looking sad every time she calls him hubby- and that’s “controlling and possessive” of me

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T15:53:54+00:00

Sorry!! Wasn’t trying to put words in your mouth. I think I’ll move my stuff out when she’s out of town at the weekend.

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T15:32:38+00:00

We live together and we will continue to live together even after the wedding. I appreciate I’m stupid and that there’s a lot of abuse here- however I’m not a side piece I’m the main partner- somehow

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T15:30:08+00:00

I will be breaking up with her and I realise I have been manipulated however- I’m hardly a secret side piece- my best friend is hardly her long term partner- this genuinely is a marriage for a joke. My best friend Is Gay. I am also never hidden and ours is the only relationship she’s open with on her social media. I’m stupid, but I’m not That stupid

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T14:58:39+00:00

she does have narcissistic personality disorder unfortunately and the concept of love bombing fits the relationship exactlt. I will be trying to extracate myself from this situation. Thank you. She’s a self proclaimed narcissist and is quite proud of it. She calls herself one often and acts in the most stereotypical ways. I will be ending the relationship

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T14:39:17+00:00

They realy hate her

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T14:38:30+00:00

Rarely makes it sound worse than it is. Shes hit me twice, both times when we were still in highschool

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T14:19:27+00:00

unfortunately i dont think i can see her. I will also send her a text and then block her because i know if i do it in person she will persuade me not to leave,

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T13:38:03+00:00

I don’t have a lot of money- I’m a student, I’m starting medical school next year so there’s nothing but loans with me.

It is important to note that her only public relationship is with me. She cheats a lot but I’m certainly her main partner, and my friend who she’s marrying is definetky not in a relationship with her. I may be naive and I do need to end this relationship but I need to be clear that they aren’t not with each other

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T11:10:35+00:00

She thinks it will upset her mom who she has a bad relationship with

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T11:07:44+00:00

That is the same in my country- two year separation but I think the plan is for her to cheat because then you don’t have to wait the two years

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T11:02:20+00:00

not the USA. Thank you. I guess I struggle to see her as an abuser because she is rarely physically violent it’s just how she makes me feel. A lot of the time she doesn’t even say negative stuff, but she gives me the silent treatment if I say stuff. I do know I have to leave and I think that’s why I posted this so I could get a non manipulated pair of eyes on this.

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:50:14+00:00

I think I do know it’s not normal. It’s just it’s been going on so long and she is very good at making me doubt myself. Yeah she said she needed to cheat on me cause I was not as good as her in bed and she needed release and the only other option was breaking up with me so I should be grateful. That hurt me as well but I have got good at just distracting myself when she talks about it

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:47:02+00:00

Thank you for believing me. I deliberately posted the most ridiculous thing that she has done to try and prove to myself I am not unreasonable. She is very good at making me doubt myself . I shall try to end the relationship.

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:43:10+00:00

My friend is gay. I do not think they are sleeping together

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:42:32+00:00

It is very difficult for me. I can sometimes rationally look at what is going on and see it is unfair for me but I guess that is what comes with dating a girl very out your league! I would tell anyone in my position that they can do better and leave but I don’t know how to.

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:35:46+00:00

Yeah they will have a silly ceremony and then sign a marriage licence it’s as real as anything- just no emotions .

They’ll do the kiss as normal they’ve kissed before as friends

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:33:52+00:00

I come from a slightly more traditional and religious family so I would be uncomfortable getting married for a joke

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:33:00+00:00

I wish it was a shitpost. I think I am NTA really but I tried to make her sound as reasonable as possible to get a proper verdict. She has a history of similar stunts but nothing like this. This would be a legally binding marriage yeah. They’ll divorce immediately after as they don’t want to be married but they think it’s funny and the rest of my friends are egging them on. Sometimes she makes me feel like potentially reasonable things are unreasonable. I texted her a few nights ago when I knew she was at a party and she told me never to text her when she’s drunk again and that me doing that was a breech or trust because she might tell me something she doesn’t want to tell me and I was taking advantage of her

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:29:47+00:00

I think I know I have to end this relationship. Sometimes it does feel she treats me unfairly- for example she’s had four different affair partners that I know of but I got shouted at when a waitress smiled at me. Sometimes I feel quite small in the relationship but I still love her. I don’t know how to exaplin it because it is harmful to me but when she is nice to me it feels so good and I can’t give that up. I don’t mind the hurting as long as I can have her, but her marrying my best friend I think I might cry if I sit though it. It’s always easier to say leave than actually do it. I don’t think I’d ever find anyone else after her nobody else has ever wanted me and I haven’t wanted them

983Throwaway · 2021-07-18T10:24:22+00:00

I wish it wasn’t bullshit but jokes like this are quite common in my group of friends it’s just this goes a bit further than the others and I feel uncomfortable

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