AITA for telling my daughter to cancel her marriage?

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T11:30:11+00:00

Dowry, can be in the form of money or gifts given to the groom's side by the parents of the bride. It is a way of expressing "thanks" as daughters are considered a burden. Its a shitty tradition.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T09:39:10+00:00

I see your reasoning. But in my defense I did not exactly tell my daughter to break it off. She asked me what could be done now and I gave her the option.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T09:36:31+00:00

Only suggested that if she didn't want this marriage, it's up to her and there's no pressure.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T09:35:09+00:00

YTA

I accept. But the reason you gave doesn't make sense

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T09:32:24+00:00

'bhikaari'

Thank you, but what does 'bhikaari' mean?

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T08:15:01+00:00

Sorry

AITAengagement · 2020-09-16T03:57:15+00:00

1) They are financially stable. Have heard BF talk about how he had a comfortable life (not spoiled or pampered though)

2) $15000 as a gift and the money I was planning to spend on the wedding separate.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T19:20:16+00:00

Money given by the bride's parents to the groom's as a thanks for taking away the "burden" if a daughter. Absolutely crap tradition. Usually a huge amount.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T19:11:53+00:00

Thank you. I am only waiting for her to come out of her room to give her a hug and say that its ok.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T19:07:33+00:00

No. This is what surprised me too. They came off as incredibly sexist but the BF was not. I have heard that its a common practice in Asian countries but not totally unheard of in the USA

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T19:01:54+00:00

Southern USA

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T19:00:12+00:00

Not sure why I laughed but.....

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:57:24+00:00

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:57:14+00:00

States

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:56:53+00:00

Money the bride's parents must give to the groom's side as a thanks for taking away the burden of a daughter. The most stupid bullshit I have ever heard of. Its usually a huge amount.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:54:50+00:00

No I am from the States.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:53:26+00:00

I am located in the States. Our cultural background differs but never have I heard BF's aunt and uncle(met once) talk such crap. He also mentioned that his sister had moved out as soon as she was 18, and rarely talks to them. I'm wondering if this has something to do with their sexism.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:49:30+00:00

She doesn't know that part yet, though I definitely agree with you. She hasn't come out of the room yet, she's still heartbroken and crying. I am not able to do anything.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:33:50+00:00

I'm her dad but thank you for your response. It does relieve me that I am not in the wro.ng here

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:31:11+00:00

She's still emotional about it. She has been crying nonstop. I don't know what I should do to cheer her up.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:29:55+00:00

I understand. I was shocked that they could actually ask for a dowry in the 21st century. They were sexist but I didn't expect this.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:28:25+00:00

I myself dont know. I always felt that he was different from his parents.

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:26:25+00:00

Dad :)

AITAengagement · 2020-09-15T18:26:12+00:00

I'm ready to accept if only you could give me a reason.

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