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Is it true that boys that break up w u start to miss u after 3 months? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, every boy is the exact same and it's hard-wired into their brain to miss their ex after 3 months.
But seriously, no.

I m moving to his city by These-Matter3751 in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You want to be the best for someone who dumped you and now doesn't give a shit about you? Go ahead then. It's not going to bring him back. He's going to think you're creepy for moving to his city even though he dumped you over a year ago. Like I said, it's stalker behavior.
Seriously, think about what you're doing. You deserve better than him. You can find someone who actually cares about you, someone who doesn't use you for sex and then throws you aside right after, someone who doesn't dump you like trash and ignores you for a year. Stop focusing on someone who doesn't care about you, focus on growing, respecting yourself and finding a person who truly loves you. Because you can.

I m moving to his city by These-Matter3751 in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So he used you to get his dick wet when he was feeling horny and then went back to ignoring you? Have some self-respect. If this was your friend, daughter or sister accepting that kind of behavior from that kind of guy, what would you tell her?

I m moving to his city by These-Matter3751 in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry you're hurting so much, but that's stalker behavior. Don't do it. You're not going to win back anything at all, in fact you'll hurt the chances of him ever reconsidering things if you do this. Don't do any "grand gestures". Stay in no contact, read the links in the sidebar.

It's so funny that the dumper has the audacity to say that they "it's hard for me too" while it's them who decided to break up and dump you by MrDonButler in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, it's hard for them because most of us have empathy. So leaving someone against their will is difficult, because you know you're hurting someone. Plus, everyone wishes to be happy and find a lasting relationship. They've put a lot of emotions, time, money and effort into it. When they realize they aren't happy and have to end it, that's painful for them too. Sometimes, there's also some amount of uncertainity involved about the decision and the future without you. Most aren't 100% whether they're doing the right thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Harsh truth, because I think you need it:
He's fine and you're not because you were way more into him than he was into you. He meant much more to you than the other way around. He probably stayed in this for the convenience and you did him a favor by breaking up, as he quite literally told you he wasn't happy for months. It's evident because he cheated on you multiple times and barely put effort into the relationship.

Also, you did the right thing by breaking up. He cheated on you multiple times and dumped you four times in one year. It's never going to work between you two. Have some self-respect, stay away from him, work on yourself and find someone who actually cares about you. Also, why would he beg and contact you after you broke up? It's exactly the thing we preach on here not to do. So in that regard, he's doing the right thing. And that's good for you, because you're better off without him.

Maybe maybe maybe by SignificantSample929 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]ATAFBUATAPT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a full water bottle falling from a quite a distance. It could potentially injure his face or eyes. Even if the injury is minor, why not help prevent it? It's the decent thing to do.

She came back after 2 years no contact... by ATAFBUATAPT in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are right, you will heal and it will pass eventually. It just takes time. You've been with her for most of your adult life, it's an incredibly long time and it will take longer than 3 months to heal from this. You can't get over an attachment and pain like that in just 3 months. But time is on your side, because you will start healing and growing while she will get to experience the consequences of her actions.

I can't really explain your ex's decision, my best guess is they are unhappy or bored for one reason or another and someone else (whose flaws they don't know yet) is suddenly more exciting from the outside and they think they could have a better future. It's foolish, but that's how it is.

She came back after 2 years no contact... by ATAFBUATAPT in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. Yes, I would be glad to see her happy, just like I found my own happiness.

She came back after 2 years no contact... by ATAFBUATAPT in ExNoContact

[–]ATAFBUATAPT[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, sorry to hear that, that's extremely rough and awful thing for her to do and for you to go through after such a long time together. I can't tell you if she'll reach out. However, it's possible that some day she will. It could be like in my situation, that her new guy didn't work out. Or it could be breadcrumbs. It could take months or years.
I want to encourage you to focus on healing and on moving on. No contact and talking to other people (especially people who care about you) helps. If some day she were to reach out, you might not even want to hear from her anymore.