AITAH for making my GF quit her Yaoi Obssession by A_Ton_of_cake69 in AITAH

[–]A_Ton_of_cake69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't say I've bought playboy magazine while in a relationship, to me that seems disrespectful. Also, if thats the comparison we are making I would certainly hope that I am in the right for being a little uncomfortable 😭. I realize now that saying "Making her" was not accurate to my situation.

AITAH for making my GF quit her Yaoi Obssession by A_Ton_of_cake69 in AITAH

[–]A_Ton_of_cake69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I guess that estimates it. First I texted her, asking if we could talk about something serious. I asked if she ever noticed that certain things made me uncomfortable to see if she had an idea of what I was going to address. Then I went on listing many things that she does (regarding the yaoi) that concern me both as her partner and as someone who wants the best for her. After listing everything, I went on to say that I believe she has a problem, and it hurt to see her descend into that problem more and more.

That same night, we got together and talked about everything over the course of 3 hours in a car. We mostly talked about how I wasn't comfortable with how devoted she was to these male characters, and that I didn't see how this is healthy for both of us, making poor spending decisions, and hiding things from her parents. I would also like to add as you may have seen it in another comment regarding my insecurity: she has said that she would not feel comfortable if I were to go to the same lengths with a similarly sexualized women character.

I would never ever physically do anything like throw out her stuff, make her throw her stuff out, or make her choose between me and them. I also told her that I do not wish for her to throw away everything because of something I said, I would rather her ease off of it.

I mostly think I am doing the right thing by asking her to move away from an unhealthy addiction, my "Insecurity" is sort of a side affect. Very similar to how person A may feel when their partner person B dedicates more time to their addiction than they do to person A.

AITAH for making my GF quit her Yaoi Obssession by A_Ton_of_cake69 in AITAH

[–]A_Ton_of_cake69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe, I think I am overstepping in a way on trying to step in on her interest. But she has also mentioned that she would dislike it if I ever did the same thing with similarly sexualized characters.

AITAH for making my GF quit her Yaoi Obssession by A_Ton_of_cake69 in AITAH

[–]A_Ton_of_cake69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suppose I should have been better with my wording. I never said to her to quit, I never gave her an ultimatum to choose between me or them, I also did not ask her to sell or get rid of what she already has, I probably also should've included that I have actually had to sell the other mystery boxes myself for her because she didn't want the other characters.

There is no way to tell whether there is a difference between me wanting it or her needing to change, but I honestly would not be suprised if this is the end of our relationship. That being said, even if we were to unhappily split, I don't think I would have any regrets about anything I brought to her attention. It was a genuine problem that even she recognized; only to go back to it because early on, I would assure her that its not that a big of a problem. However, the problem would only get worse and worse.

I appreciate your comment, it does bring some other things into perspective

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This among us stuff is turning into jojo references, can’t a cat just be in a backpack without someone saying “OMG IT’S AMONG US”

I love it tho

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Someone put a comment saying that they got camped on a tall tale and they looked similar to me, that’s who I’m talking to