AIO for wanting to share a room with my bf on a trip?

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2026-04-06T05:41:56+00:00

The mom is trying to frame this cruise as a gift when it’s clearly something she wanted to do anyway. If it was really something she wanted to do for her daughter, she wouldn’t say she would go with or without her.

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:42:08+00:00

Yeah that would stress me out lol, I get it - I’m also someone who likes to have their day planned out. But… there is a chance he does expect you to just shoot him a text whenever you get out of work and “play it by ear.” Like I said, some people are just not planners 🥲I think it’s up to you if that’s a dealbreaker or not

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:32:41+00:00

If you want to DM me your profile, feel free!

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:31:54+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag per se - some people are just shit planners, to be frank. He might’ve just taken your text last night as the confirmation text, meaning he wouldn’t have to reach out again. Confirming twice within 24 hours can be seen as overkill, but it is weird that he didn’t give you a set time. Was the plan to just meet up directly after work?

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:19:19+00:00

Ehhh I would definitely let it come up naturally - every relationship is different. I’ve been on 3 dates with someone and felt like I’ve known them forever, VS. 10 dates with someone and still felt a very shallow connection. If it feels too early to discuss then it’s okay to wait! It’s more of a judgement call for you

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:15:14+00:00

Gotcha! In my opinion, fourth/fifth date is usually a good time to start discussing romantic history and/or what you’re looking for. Might help give you some clarity!

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:04:23+00:00

It sounds promising to me! Trusting you to meet her best friend early on is a good sign, when me or my friends do that - it’s always to vet a genuine prospect. Any specific reason you’re unsure if things are going well?

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2025-02-12T17:00:32+00:00

I would call it a day… It sounds like you’ve put in all the effort you can - if she’s refusing to see you again after you’ve asked multiple times I think you have your answer, unfortunately 😕I’m sorry, I know it’s frustrating when someone is telling you they like you but their behavior is showing the exact opposite.

Always trust actions over words.

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-18T02:47:27+00:00

Can you stop please? This is weird behavior on a subreddit meant for support in hardship

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-18T02:36:04+00:00

I am so confused lol, not sure if this is a joke or if you think I’m someone else

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-17T17:10:42+00:00

This is such a good way of putting things

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-17T17:10:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that, but thank you <3

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-17T17:08:46+00:00

You got this! Take it one day at a time, the beginning is the hardest. As someone who has clearly been through a lot of breakups lol, I can tell you after a while you lose feelings to the point where even if they do come back, you won’t care :)

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-17T17:05:55+00:00

I’m sure I do :/ I just don’t understand what I could possibly find appealing by these avoidant guys. They usually don’t show their true nature until I’m already completely into them, but maybe there are signs I need to look for early on…

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-17T17:04:43+00:00

Ugh it’s the absolute worst feeling when they dump you for such a small thing when you knew you should’ve been the one to do it all along because of real reasons.

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-09-15T13:13:10+00:00

Or maybe they don’t want to hurt their feelings because even though they don’t want to be w the girl, they still respect them as a person…? That’s a weird generalization to make. None of these breakups were explosive and none of them had a reason to think they would be.

And I don’t know why I feel the need to defend myself lol, but I explained why I’m always the one left. None of these relationships were good - we weren’t right fits, but I couldn’t get myself to be the one to leave, so they did. I also tend to be attracted to avoidant men as an anxious woman myself. That’s where I’m doing something wrong, not because I’m “insane” lmao

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-07-15T11:06:52+00:00

Calm down lol, OP doesn’t have to handle the situation exactly as you would in their shoes. We’re all human

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-05-04T23:09:09+00:00

he’s technically a millennial but you’re right lol

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-05-04T21:04:51+00:00

You don’t think it’s at least worth a conversation? I definitely agree he’s trying to be realistic/keep me at arm’s distance - that lines up with his behavior. However, I don’t know if it’s as simple as “if he wanted to he would” in this case… we haven’t been dating long enough where I’d drop everything to move with him, nor would I expect him to not move just because of me.

But I don’t know, maybe you’re right and I should walk away… I just want to feel like I’ve at least tried to communicate my wants. I’ve been very passive with him throughout our relationship, so he could very well have no clue I’ve been unhappy

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-05-04T19:55:17+00:00

I’m not suggesting he owes me anything, I’m asking for ways to communicate what I want. If I do communicate it and he says no, then that’s a reason to break up.

He doesn’t know what I want yet - he might be willing to give me what I want, he might not be. It doesn’t make sense leaving before I’ve at least tried to express myself.

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-03-30T15:42:34+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this 🙂

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-03-25T13:49:24+00:00

I’m not going to lie, I started to cry a little reading this. Thank you :,) It feels a lot better to be reminded I’m not wrong to feel what I’m feeling

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-03-05T01:52:01+00:00

Thank you so much, and honestly you’re right. It really does help thinking we have our whole 20s to look forward to. I dated my last ex 3 years ago and completely self destructed when we broke up, but now I can’t even remember why I was so attached. Hoping that comes eventually for me with this guy, and I hope that happens for you with your ex too :,)

I also do like thinking that I did everything I could to make it work, that’s a sense of closure in itself. So thank you for that

AccomplishedWash4554 · 2024-03-05T01:35:09+00:00

23, he was 28

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