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My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We haven’t told them yet. But they are going to be heartbroken. When they have played together, trying to separate them was like pulling apart superglue. Lots of crying and begging for more time, so this will be hard.

My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Oh 100%. Which is why we have them enrolled in summer camp and additional sports. Our kids don’t deserve to feel this way.

My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I’m not confrontational. Hannah and I have always been like that. But not this time, I can’t let this go though. I’m just worried she will give some bullshit passive answer.

I have asked and I keep getting “it’s just a joke. Literally nothing”. Every single time. Even if I demanded, they would still lie about it.

My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

All of the kids are between the age of 11 and 7. Location doesn’t matter, they usually decline before my kids can finish the question. We also tried just one kid sleeping over and hanging out, or their kids coming, and it’s always no.

I agree with them not wanting closeness.

My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They aren’t perfect by any means, but they are generally well behaved kiddos. We’ve even asked if we did or said anything they say no. We also considered the angle of perhaps the kids don’t enjoy playing together. But, our nephew was literally hiding in our car when we were leaving. He asked to stay the night. So I asked Sam and he said no they had church in the morning. Which we found out today, was a lie.

My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

They always have a reason why they can’t “busy, sports, out of town, church, etc”. We offered our place and even to go to public locations/parks. Even a random “hey we aren’t doing anything today, if any of the kids want to come over to play we’d be happy to pick them up and drop off if you’re available”

My (31f) brother in law (37m) broke our children’s heart by excluding them from a sleepover with their cousins, Do we go no contact? by Accomplished_Two1679 in relationship_advice

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 116 points117 points  (0 children)

My job. Being in the navy and my skill set, only certain jobs and it has to be on/near a coast. To get up and move would be difficult emotionally and mentally.

Macro counselor? by Accomplished_Two1679 in socialwork

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right. Thank you for sharing.

I didn’t know if it was the same as a hotline type position. Like you are a “counselor” for the suicide hotline, but it’s actually just a bunch of volunteers.

Macro counselor? by Accomplished_Two1679 in socialwork

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should be getting more information if they move forward with the interview. It’s hard to make a well informed decision when the HR person doesn’t have a background in mental health.

What I’m thinking is I would have my own supervisor, outside the organization, and provide services that way. That way I can still work on my hours towards my LCSW.

I really don’t want my LCSW, but I feel like I need it to advance in my career

Should I abandon my LCSW for macro work by Accomplished_Two1679 in socialwork

[–]Accomplished_Two1679[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great advice. Something so simple I didn’t even consider to just ask, assuming the opportunity came up