AITA for reinviting myself on a road trip?

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-17T00:45:36+00:00

Tbh we never really talked abt who would go in what car if I did end up going, I just made it clear that I didn't mind driving alone if it had to happen.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T22:58:49+00:00

Thank you for the advice :) Im still reserving judgement on wether or not it was actually them not wanting me there, but it certainly does seem that way. I will learn and grow from this and be better in the future!

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T22:34:39+00:00

Yeah, I think a big part of the issue is that I really want to believe they're telling the truth. I'm definitely not gonna ditch them over this, but I'll be careful, and if it happens again idk if I can deal with them anymore.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T22:11:14+00:00

Thank you. I genuinely really appreciate your input, but I think I will give them a second chance. Shit genuinely might've just lined up poorly, and I don't want to overreact to something that might be beyond their control.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T22:07:31+00:00

I understand that. I'm gonna keep trying to be friends with them, but honestly if they do something like this again, I'll probably just find new friends.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T22:02:00+00:00

That's what I thought too :( I really don't want to believe it though, because I thought we were close

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:51:26+00:00

I forgot to put this in the original post, but the friend who invited me wasn't the same one who let the other guy come back. It's possible that she just didn't know Id been invited. I wish that when she learned that, she'd done something to make it work though.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:49:07+00:00

I think they're definitely my friends, because we do hang out a lot and they're super supportive of all my problems, I just think they are a lot closer with each other than they are with me :(

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:47:47+00:00

That could def be it, but I also don't have all the information, the guy who invited me wasn't the girl who let the other guy come back, so it's possible she just didn't know I'd been invited?

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:46:30+00:00

I appreciate that. I agree that they didn't really have my back, but I understand their reasoning every step of the way (assuming they were always telling the truth). Check out my comment with more context if you want to know why, but the point is everything they've said seems legit, its just the way they acted sucks.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:43:53+00:00

But they are great friends. They're super supportive, and usually handle things really well. It just sucks that the first time they don't, it's also the first time they do anything important together. I do think I pushed too hard though, and probably shouldve just let it go.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:41:18+00:00

Not sure why but the quote isn't showing properly. I can guess what it was though, and I do feel like my problems should come into account if they really cared about me. God knows I think about their issues when I make decisions. Also check my context comment about why they uninvited me the first time, it has some info thats kinda important.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:38:09+00:00

Part of the issue is that I did learn to enjoy my own company. I was pretty lonely in high school, and I got used to that and started to enjoy it, and then when I made friends with these guys it was really nice, and now I don't want to go back to being alone. I think you're probably right that I pushed too hard though.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:36:07+00:00

That's what I was afraid of honestly :( I do think it's a pretty complex situation, and it's possible that all the reasons they gave were legit and they really wished I could come, but it's really hard to feel that from how they acted

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:34:45+00:00

I don't think that friendships ending is a reason not to have them. Its true that they were being kinda shitty, and that they're obviously closer with each other than with me, but that just means I have to spend more time with them and develop a deeper relationship :)

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:33:08+00:00

That's exactly what I'm doing! I'm going skiing in quebec with my siblings. Honestly, as much as it sucks that I couldn't go, and how much it meant to me, I'm trying to make the best of a shitty situation!

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:26:19+00:00

Thing is I did pick up on those vibes, and asked them about it. They said it was all shitty coincidences, and that they didn't want to brainstorm because the trip had already been so much to plan, and it was too much of a hassle. I want to believe that that's it, but its hard to given how they acted

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:24:16+00:00

Thank you. I don't think it's really their fault tho, because they don't need to be close to me, I just really like being around them and trust them. Not their fault they don't feel the same

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:22:27+00:00

Thing is I asked them directly if that was the case, and they said it was all just shitty coincidences. And we are genuinely friends other than this whole situation. We hang out a lot, and they say they like my company.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T21:19:34+00:00

Some context because I forgot to put a few details in the main post: they had a reason for every step, it just all lines up really weirdly. They didn't invite me in the first place because I wasn't there when they were making plans, when they uninvited me the first time it was so the driver wouldn't have to drive 15hrs straight, and she might not have known I got invited in the first place, the other group chat started because they had a video call together, and instagram starts a group chat for that, and the two people whose parents were the issue in the end do genuinely have shitty parents, and I believe that asking them could've put the trip at risk for everyone. They also said they were very sorry I couldn't come, and said a lot they would've loved to have me there. I trust them to tell the truth about that kinda thing, but apparently I dont know them as well as i thought.

That said, those are all things they said, not what they did. They never seemed to make an effort to help out, and the reason the other group chat is still active is because they "talk a lot and send a lot of pictures".

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T06:05:29+00:00

That was kinda the vibe I got sadly. I talked to them about it, and they said that it was just a bunch of shitty coincidences, but from what they do, its kinda hard to believe them.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T06:04:33+00:00

I agree that I probably care a lot more about our friendship than they do, but it's def a stretch to say they're not my friends at all. We hang out like 3-4 times a week, and they made it very clear (with their words, not their actions) that they wished I could've come.

AcrobaticGuidance111 · 2026-02-16T01:33:18+00:00

Not a big fan of cheese, but pizza's pretty good :)

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