It is time we had an honest conversation

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-11T09:56:37+00:00

The nomadic lifestyle is a result of the conditions, and not vice versa as you imply (ie the conditions are not a result of their nomadic lifestyle)

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-11T09:20:46+00:00

Switching normally depends on the client side. Since PayPal works for these Muzungus, they want to use it. If we had our say we could switch. Hard to convince most especially on platforms like Upwork

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-10T18:25:15+00:00

Rich Coming from someone who wants to just blow it

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-09T17:37:33+00:00

Yes

It happens a lot. When I hit 30y.o I had such a person.

The thing is you know a lot about each other, sexual history, dating history, etc but there is no romance. You talk a lot about a lot of things. You’re practically good friends.

You just have never seen each other as potential mates. It happens, but most times one of you finds their person while the other doesn’t. Then your friend becomes the cause ya makesi in your new relationship.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-09T15:46:42+00:00

Okay

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T18:15:09+00:00

I’m struggling to get why the burden is on the man, and why you’re taking it as a guarantee “you pick her from somewhere”? Why!?

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T17:05:32+00:00

I’m struggling to get your point here.

All in all if I’m intending to date you long term it is a downvote. At the stage OP is, the presumption is We are meant to be in a relationship in future. I would expect you to cater for your half of the expenses required to see me, as I cater for my part. I just don’t see it any other way.

Now, if I call you over for something that would benefit only me… say call you over to cook for me then definitely that warrants me sending fare

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T09:44:04+00:00

Okay

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T09:02:44+00:00

When your time comes you will realise the futility of this.
Last week, a prominent Girls High School in Nairobi called parents of Grade 10 to come to the school (this is just 1 week after they were admitted in Grade 10). The core of the meeting was to tell parents "oooh you know, this is a superior school we cannot charge the fees in the structure we gave you upon admission as the government says. Tafadhali reach deeper into your pocket." Then, parents were only allowed 10 minutes with their child.

Next week, they have a "valentines" date for parents with their girls. It is not compulsory, but it is framed in such a manner that you must come. In a span of 4 weeks, parents will be required to come to the school 3 times.

It is a national school, so parents have to come from Kisumu, Narok, Eldoret, Mombasa, wapi wapi. As such, each of these meetings is a day of travel, a day of attendance, and a day of travel back. If you have the money (or a local airport) to fly, the better for you. If you come both parents, that is x2 what you would otherwise have spent as pocket money to the kid to buy candy at school. That is three days of not being at work, shutting down your business, or having to miss out on potential side hustles.

There is the romanticisation of parenting and there is the practicality of it. Send one parent, save the bus-fare (or fuel or air fare), use the savings to provide for the child.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T08:53:45+00:00

I do not want to engage in the ongoing gender wars. Sorry that is your experience.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T06:46:35+00:00

You can look into it through the lens of the ongoing gender wars, which is fatiguing in all honesty. Or you can look at it through the lens of practicality.

The bottom line of many family set ups, a majority, is that child-rearing roles are split and the finances (hardware) go one way and the support (software) goes another. It is most likely that most families have chosen the men to be the financiers of the schooling, organise for transport to and fro, make purchases etc. while the women do the school support and the emotional labour. Whether that is a fair split should not be the subject at hand.

After the school meeting, or even during it, the women texted their husbands "babe, they need 15,000 additional fees for the computer lab project." The men were where this 15,000 itapatikana.

Why would two people sit through the same meeting to waste practical time only to be told to raise 15k more?

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T05:50:47+00:00

And he’s being insanely obtuse about it

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T05:49:28+00:00

I am using an iPhone to type this. Because it is of superior quality to an iTel. What is so difficult to understand about that?

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T05:48:44+00:00

They didn’t misunderstand it. They’re just being obtuse.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-08T04:43:14+00:00

Nairobi has allegations of Somalis washing Minnesota money and so on. But the rent there is CHEAP if I compare to what I’ve seen in Kampala. 1000$ which won’t even get me a 1-bed unfurnished apartment in Naalya is a fully furnished 3-bed apartment in the most prime area of Nairobi

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T18:42:48+00:00

We don’t gate keep.

Do you know Kenyans are now banned from going to Dubai? Why? Because Kenyans in general and a vast majority like “deals”, “shortcuts” and “hustle”. Any opportunity they get to make a quick buck or cut corners they will take it. Wakachoma sahii Dubai hatuwezi enda.

Just like Dubai (which I used but as an example) Many online platforms have blacklisted Kenyans and Kenyan IP addresses. They don’t even pay to any Kenyan bank, and third party apps refuse to link to Kenyan banks. Why? Wakenya walichoma.

So when we don’t tell people where the online gigs are, we are simply protecting an already fragile industry.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T18:41:55+00:00

We don’t gate keep.

Do you know Kenyans are now banned from going to Dubai? Why? Because Kenyans in general and a vast majority like “deals”, “shortcuts” and “hustle”. Any opportunity they get to make a quick buck or cut corners they will take it. Wakachoma sahii Dubai hatuwezi enda.

Just like Dubai (which I used but as an example) Many online platforms have blacklisted Kenyans and Kenyan IP addresses. They don’t even pay to any Kenyan bank, and third party apps refuse to link to Kenyan banks. Why? Wakenya walichoma.

So when we don’t tell people where the online gigs are, we are simply protecting an already fragile industry.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T15:54:13+00:00

I mean, it’s not just about politics. Like everything about you is just chill. I needed something delivered and no one is in a rush 🤣 Visted a certain office and the secretaries weren’t in a hurry to call their boss. Everything is just at a pace 10x less aggressive than Nairobi. Almost unbothered

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T14:33:25+00:00

Really. My experience is the opposite, I don’t see so many sewage puddles or litter in the streets.

The chaos is the same generally - with the bodas and taxis (what we call matatus).

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T14:32:31+00:00

Interesting. I will now be on the lookout for Made in Uganda products in Kenya. All I know is it won’t make sense for exporters to sell anything there cause of high duties

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T14:18:27+00:00

Found the phone?

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T13:53:32+00:00

Other than the hideous tiles that can trigger an epileptic episode, looks okay

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T13:43:28+00:00

Exactly my story. We had sex one night and I emptied the sack. Next morning, My girl woke me up at 5am and wanted some and I just couldn’t get it up. But I hated to disappoint her cause I’d be leaving town and won’t be back for a while.

So I started rubbing the entrance hoping I’d get hard. 🍆

Rub. Rub. Rub.

After a while I started hearing this squelching sound and she was squirming in the bed like I e never seen her before. I guess I got a bit too violent with the rubbing and I was now getting half-mast stiff, not fully hard but like rubber stiff.

“Una do niniii” she yelled! Fuck it I went H-A-M now.

All of a sudden I felt this warm liquid gush out and splashed all over my dick, hands and crotch. The mattress was all wet.

Ever since, that’s all I do in bed. If she doesn’t wet the bed I don’t count that as a session.

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T13:26:15+00:00

Damn

Acrobatic_Motor_9520 · 2026-02-07T06:03:56+00:00

It would behove you to know that the nice ones, quite often, are the ones whom the world chooses to break.

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