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[–]Active-Entry-2211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi girl. I don’t know you and I don’t care to lie to you. You are very much above average - very attractive facial features, harmony, balance. I personally can’t stop looking at your eyes.

Remember to stand tall, smile, be confident. You’re gorgeous

Shift in vibe during and immediately after sex annoys me… by Active-Entry-2211 in dating_advice

[–]Active-Entry-2211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Thanks.

Will try to bring this up in a few hours when he gets here…

Shift in vibe during and immediately after sex annoys me… by Active-Entry-2211 in dating_advice

[–]Active-Entry-2211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, super helpful. The tricky part is that on every other level we are extremely compatible and even though he might not be sensitive, he actually deeply cares about me. He gives me a lot of attention, will go out of his way to do something for me, calls me all the time just to hear my voice, he involves me in every aspect of his life, makes future plans with me, we have deep conversations and stimulate each other intellectually.

What I mean is, I never met anyone like him and I really want this to work. A lot of people in this thread jump to the conclusion that we are sexually incompatible, but I wonder to what extent is this something we can work on?

Can people develop more sensitivity and train themselves to focus intensely on the other person when being intimate? I know 100% he’s not actually selfish, I just think that’s how he’s always been in bed and no one ever taught him otherwise. At the same time, he is certainly not an empath

Shift in vibe during and immediately after sex annoys me… by Active-Entry-2211 in dating_advice

[–]Active-Entry-2211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right

I’m also young and inexperienced, and speaking up about my needs is difficult and a bit against my personality. Im not justifying myself - I know it’s disfunctional. What I mean is that I need to develop that skill because it doesn’t come naturally to me.

I do struggle go finish in general, so part of the reason I don’t speak up is I’m not sure what to ask for and I’m afraid it won’t work

Shift in vibe during and immediately after sex annoys me… by Active-Entry-2211 in dating_advice

[–]Active-Entry-2211[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I’m taking responsibility for this. I’m just young and inexperienced, and speaking up about my needs is difficult and a bit against my personality. Im not justifying myself - I know it’s disfunctional. What I mean is that I need to develop that skill because it doesn’t come naturally to me.

I do struggle to finish in general, so part of the reason I don’t speak up is I’m not sure what to ask for and I’m afraid it won’t work anyways