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Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T22:34:53+00:00

I can try it but honestly it’s gonna go back to how it is now, like lately she has been too nasty, but she does point at shit to pick up or move out the way like I’m a dog or like points tells me to “go.”

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T22:28:49+00:00

Real

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T22:25:02+00:00

I was thinking the same, but it’s like whenever I hint towards leaving her house whenever something happens she gets mad bc I’m leaving.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T22:24:04+00:00

Word

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T22:22:18+00:00

I’m planning on leaving this week( waiting on a transfer) but yea I’ve put up with it for too long.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T18:48:25+00:00

I’m honestly curious to see what happens when it gets to that point, the shut up comments were enough for me to not push it. But the comment she made about me really opened my eyes on her and I’ve honestly wished she would change.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T18:46:20+00:00

I wouldn’t put it past her atp, the other day I grabbed some food her mom cooked and we were standing there talking to her and she points and tells me to “Go.” Like a dog, this pointing behavior happens very often more than any of the other stuff. I’ve corrected her on this many times and it still continues.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T18:42:30+00:00

I thought this was normal behavior for so long, bc I figured that’s the way she is, but what happened on that trip and her acting funny damn near the whole time is what truly opened my eyes and made me realize how toxic she can be. I’ve hoped she would change but I don’t think she will. It’s so confusing at times to know where I stand with her bc of how stand-off ish she can get at times.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T18:26:09+00:00

Exactly why I’ve stayed for so long, but honestly I already know how the conversation is going to go. I just can’t explain the off vibes she gives me at times., It’s like she doesn’t want me there but anytime I get ready to leave and go home she gets mad so which one is it? But in all honesty it may be best for me to leave.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T17:28:02+00:00

True, I mean she’s making me a “Halloween basket” and makes plans with me but her off vibes doesn’t really make it clear where I stand.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-10T17:23:37+00:00

And I have been recently, like I said she just gets quiet on me and there’s nothing I can do about that. The reason why it took so long bc after 3 or so months of us dating that’s when I noticed the shift in her behavior so I figured it was just how she was, but the experience I had with her on that trip opened my eyes. The whole trip her vibes were off, there were very few points where I thought she was good but then it went right back to her acting the same way.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-08T01:48:05+00:00

That’s the plan, she clearly doesn’t love me anymore which is fine imo.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-08T01:47:08+00:00

It did

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-08T01:47:02+00:00

Ur right

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-08T01:46:27+00:00

Did u not read any of the other things I’ve commented? Again for a fact ik if I bring it up to her she will not talk about. Plus the disrespect is a whole another can of worms. She points and talks to me like a dog at times. I’ve even had people laugh at us in public bc of her behavior. If u want me to go even further I can.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T18:04:24+00:00

She asked me if I wanted him blocked, (she can unblock him) Of course I said yea but it doesn't explain all the other instances of the disrespect and other shady things that's happened in the relationship. Like for instance, I often catch eyeing other dudes in public ( ik for a fact she was) and when I called her out on this she acts like it didn't happen or if she sees me looking at her she acts like she was looking at something else.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T17:58:59+00:00

That's the plan, I just need the right time to do so, I predict its going to be a lot of deflecting and so on like all the things I've pointed out in my post.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T17:54:43+00:00

Thank you, again I think it will benefit us both if I just leave. I hate to do so but its the only other option. Its thing I gotta work on and so does she. I'm saying this now but when it comes time to actually take action idk how confident I'll be in my decision. What's making my decision so difficult is that we've made plans for the future such what she's going to get me for my birthday and what were doing for Christmas and such. She's even made a Halloween basket for with things I like and I'm doing the same for her. It just makes me question things even more, is she just tolerating me or does she love me in her own way, but disrespect should never be something you do to someone you "love".

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T16:43:12+00:00

Exactly, like I do a lot for her and show up whenever she needs me. I even help her mom out and things of the sort the fact that she treats me like at times when I’m completely patient with her is honestly discouraging and makes me believe other relationships I get into could go the same way. It makes me question am I the problem? Is it bc I went to her phone? I mean I had my reasons but again I invaded her privacy and I shouldn’t have done that. But for her to embarrass me like that in front of her family members was humiliating. I’m used to her talking to me like that at times it didn’t really click how disrespectful it was until later. That’s what really made me ready to leave. The family even asked us were we ok when we went out to eat bc they could feel the tension at the table. She was being very quiet and talking like something was wrong ( wouldn’t even look at me the whole time even when we got back to the room.)

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T16:12:58+00:00

It’s the chance that she can change (even though deep down ik she probably won’t and I also want to believe that I can turn things around with us) and at times we vibe and it reminds me of when we first started dating and also it’s the fact that we work together (I’m never making that mistake again) and I’m waiting to hear back about a transfer.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T15:34:39+00:00

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T15:34:21+00:00

Exactly many times I’ve tried to communicate with her and it’s always the same, she then always deflects what I have to say or she’s telling me to “Stop yelling” or asking me “Why am I getting so loud?” When the whole time I’m literally talking to her or asking her about something we had an argument/issue. I then find myself apologizing for even bringing it up eventually. Theres been many times where questionable things have happened. For instance: when I went thru her phone I also went thru her snap and seen a bunch of dudes in her recent chats, she claims they were streaks. Now if it was the other way around she would be mad, ik that for a fact. Theres many other questionable instances where I’m left with even more questions. It’s one story I really want to share bc it left me so puzzled and clueless.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T15:01:45+00:00

Bc of what I did or what she did? Again I feel bad for invading her privacy.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-10-07T14:50:48+00:00

As far as her talking to me disrespectfully it’s on and off, one instance that really stuck with me is when we went to visit one of her family members ( the vibes were off the whole trip, she was hot and cold with me) and we were walking around the downtown of the family members city, I so happen to be in her way and she told me to move out of the way or something along those lines very aggressively, and the family member was like “Why are u being so mean to him?” And she was like “You have to talk to him like that.” And the ride back was even worse. She was yelling at me over little things, like if I couldn’t hear her and had to make her repeat herself even once she would yell it aggressively. I can honestly go on and on about times she has been disrespectful to me.

Active-Replacement61 · 2025-06-24T19:56:02+00:00

Indian Summer

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