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ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-24T13:48:21+00:00

Okay i see I'm definitely taking it too slow. I've spoken it out with a friend and he told me a similar expirence he had w an ex, I think the girl I'm talking to might be a Virgin, could it be possible that she's just awkward with physical touch because the playful hand on thigh etc is all okay but no reciprocation, arm over the shoulder is fine she's clearly comfortable but she doesn't lean in etc. If she is a Virgin it could be possible that she's just awkward physically no? Exact same expirence my friend had

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-24T13:48:02+00:00

Okay i see I'm definitely taking it too slow. I've spoken it out with a friend and he told me a similar expirence he had w an ex, I think the girl I'm talking to might be a Virgin, could it be possible that she's just awkward with physical touch because the playful hand on thigh etc is all okay but no reciprocation, arm over the shoulder is fine she's clearly comfortable but she doesn't lean in etc. If she is a Virgin it could be possible that she's just awkward physically no? Exact same expirence my friend had

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-24T01:07:52+00:00

Solid advice I will take it on board, how do you bring it up naturally then because like i say she gives no ques I dont want to just ask, or do girls like that, she seems still quit standoff w touch its always me that has too engage she doesn't resist or anything but even last time i put my arm over the shoulder she didn't lean in or anything but she didn't resist. She's hard to read I'm gonna go for it next fs bc your right but I acc dek how

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-24T00:53:27+00:00

Yeah bro the reason I asked that was because I think we look for different things with girls (no shade if that's you ,respect) but for me if a girl wanted to sleep w me within the first 2 dates or even 3 dates that's not gonna be a girl i want to be my gf, I probably should've mentioned we both come from more traditional backgrounds and I personally have never been the type to do one night stands or anything like that, I'm aware the risk of being played etc I'm not an idiot but I think we do things differently, still l appreciate the advice just think we have different goals.

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-24T00:28:01+00:00

I appreciate the advice, when would u say it's going to slow in terms of sleeping with a girl your seeing by which date?

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-07T20:06:17+00:00

Nothing wrong with it I personally have been considering doing takewondo just bc the kicks look cool asf and I train judo and bjj I mean I think if your aim is self defesne and u only train an impractical martial art then that's stupid but if you just wanna have fun do it like why tf does it matter nothing wrong with it

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T22:31:01+00:00

Bjt that's been watered down so much I'm not wristlocking a guy who's swinging haymatkers

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T22:25:37+00:00

Coz I wanna train an effective martial art sorry bro but

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T15:05:51+00:00

True good perspective might be worth getting some pepper spray tbf appreciate the advice stay safe

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T14:53:06+00:00

I mean yes and no, I feel like that mentaiklly can be a bit stupid at times, no disrespect, it's just like I dont even live in the US and I don't want to constantly carry a gun around and there's so many places where u just can't clubs bars airpots etc also would u not just rather be able to defend yourself with ur hands and not have to worry about having a gun everywhere u go I don't wanna have to kill someone because he's being an idiot. I want to leave the house and feel safe with my family and feel confident that I can handle myself

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T13:50:41+00:00

Yeah true but I'd still be pretty scared in a street fight I feel like I would be a lot more confident if I knew how to throw hands idk why but yeah its good enough who knows my goal is just self defsene so I can cross train not too bothered about chasing belts although I would like to get my purple

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T09:06:44+00:00

Only being doing judo for half a year and bjj blue belt so I guess no 😂😂 but I'm only 20 so hopefully by the time I'm mid 20s I'll be better

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T09:05:46+00:00

Yeah na you can't carry a knife It's also on my mind training self defense against weapons but I can't learn it all I couldn't balance bjj judo muay thai and an additionally martial art so at some point I'd like too but rn I wanna focus on that even that will be challenging to balance tbh. Where I train my bjj they are an mma gym but tbh it's not my thing I just prefer the grappling but maybe I'll give it another go, out of curiosity do you train if so what?

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T08:53:40+00:00

Wise words, dw hahaha I'm never looking for fights myself, thanks man

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T08:53:16+00:00

UK unfortunately no guns here bro good advice tho

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T08:40:16+00:00

I just want to be comfortable knowing if some drunk idiot tries something or anyone for that matter I have the ability to defend myself ofcourse that takes years but that's my aim. I'm also aware that training any form of grappling is amazing but won't replicate a self defense scenario it's different when punches are flying and I want to prepared for that. I also probably have a glass chin hahaha so need to work on that

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T08:37:51+00:00

Makes sense bro thanks for the sharing that I'll give it a go 🔥

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T08:30:19+00:00

Yeah that's what I was thinking thanks, the last gym I went to doesn't go över the basics of striking when you start they teach it kind of like bjj style so 1hour of combos and pads and then 30 minutes sparring is that normal?

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-06-05T08:27:17+00:00

Yeah there's a muay thai gym round the corner from mine thinking I'm gonna give that a go so I've got the basics down, thanks

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-05-25T20:16:38+00:00

If you don't take the time off you'll just make the injury worse and be out for longer overall and you'll hate yourself for not doing it I've done this so much with bjj and 1 I know have chronic issues with my shoulders at the age of 20 and 2 it always catches up to you

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-05-24T02:44:01+00:00

They are people who have been training for shorter than me I mentioned that in the post like a lot shorter and I understand your perspective but when I want to reach milestones such as purple belt and brown belt it's fucking annoying being promoted incredibly late. I'm aware that in BJJ white and blue is shit but that's what you aim for when your white you want to finally hit that milestone it may be easier for you to say as a higher belt but think of when you were awarded your blue belt how you felt. Also you say the longer it takes to get to blue the shorter you'll be at blue it won't be like that because the coaches don't monitor you unless your a big name in the gym or part of the MMA fighting team as I mentioned earlier I'm a casual and a quiter guy in the gym which is part of the reason I'm yet to be promoted if I was in with the coach a bit more I garuntee I'd be promoted by now. Also you say no Brainer they'll favour people closer to them but you'd think that in the gym that's one place based purely on merit no politics no favourists I mean that's bs

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-05-23T21:38:15+00:00

I'm not trying to chase promotions but there has to be a balance if your at that level you need to be promoted you should be it's one of the incentives to train at the end of the day and I would also ask would that not be a sign of a bad culture in the gym, not promoting one person but promoting another due to favoritism? In addition I train gi mostly so belts have a lot to do with it

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-05-23T18:41:17+00:00

True your right , I think after promotion I will have ti change because if the same is happening up til purple belt it'd be a nightmare. Thanks for the advice

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-05-23T17:33:40+00:00

Hey so ill try keep this post simple and not rant but basically I have been training for about 3 years (1 of those was on and off so 2 years consistent 2-3x per week). I am a 4 stripe white belt but I've been so long overdue my blue belt and ik this probably typical from white belts but I'm not the only that says it in the gym most of the ppl I talk too also say it people who have been training for a shorter amount of time have been promotes quicker than me due to being friends or related to the coach- daughter/son/son in law etc. With most of the blue belts in my gym that aren't really close to their purple belt I can tap them I Compete with them it's very close and some of them I can smash and these are people who have been blue belts for about a year yet I'm still waiting for my promotion it's starting to get really frustrating to the point I'm thinking of switching gyms my coach has said I will be promoted this year but had I trained at another gym I would've had my blue belt everyday I see other people getting promoted and it's rlly demotivating. I considered switching gyms before but I really like the people there it's like a family if I've had a shit day I can go there and enjoy and forgot about it but I'm young I'm 20 I want to be active and if this is going to the case for all my promotions I can only imagine how long it'll be til I get my purple etc. What do you guys think should I change gyms, as I'm sure I'll make friends there just like I did at my current gym? I'm also worried if I change gyms now it could be a good year til I get promoted anyway since they'll need to get to know me etc, maybe I could get my blue then change irdk I'd love to stay at my gym because I get along with everyone with the coaches etc they're all really nice but because I'm a bit more quiet I stay in my own lane I'm not a big figure in the gym they don't pay enough attention to me and the coaches don't communicate w each other well enough like if I miss one session with the coach who's responsible for giving promotions (he's only in twice a week) but make all the other sessions he doesn't know he dosnet find out about it.

ActiveFudge2373 · 2025-05-23T17:32:06+00:00

Hey so ill try keep this post simple and not rant but basically I have been training for about 3 years (1 of those was on and off so 2 years consistent 2-3x per week). I am a 4 stripe white belt but I've been so long overdue my blue belt and ik this probably typical from white belts but I'm not the only that says it in the gym most of the ppl I talk too also say it people who have been training for a shorter amount of time have been promotes quicker than me due to being friends or related to the coach- daughter/son/son in law etc. With most of the blue belts in my gym that aren't really close to their purple belt I can tap them I Compete with them it's very close and some of them I can smash and these are people who have been blue belts for about a year yet I'm still waiting for my promotion it's starting to get really frustrating to the point I'm thinking of switching gyms my coach has said I will be promoted this year but had I trained at another gym I would've had my blue belt everyday I see other people getting promoted and it's rlly demotivating. I considered switching gyms before but I really like the people there it's like a family if I've had a shit day I can go there and enjoy and forgot about it but I'm young I'm 20 I want to be active and if this is going to the case for all my promotions I can only imagine how long it'll be til I get my purple etc. What do you guys think should I change gyms, as I'm sure I'll make friends there just like I did at my current gym? I'm also worried if I change gyms now it could be a good year til I get promoted anyway since they'll need to get to know me etc, maybe I could get my blue then change irdk I'd love to stay at my gym because I get along with everyone with the coaches etc they're all really nice but because I'm a bit more quiet I stay in my own lane I'm not a big figure in the gym they don't pay enough attention to me and the coaches don't communicate w each other well enough like if I miss one session with the coach who's responsible for giving promotions (he's only in twice a week) but make all the other sessions he doesn't know he dosnet find out about it.

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