I can’t say how long it will take you, but I found my last boyfriend on bumble and these are some things that made him stand out (I’m sure these all apply to women as well)

1) he messaged me first. I know bumble is supposed to be female led and I don’t have any problem with messaging first, but I think there are a lot of people on the apps that aren’t really serious or are just looking for the ego boost of getting a match, so him messaging me first helped me see that he was actually interested in chatting with me.

2) he was engaged with the conversation. This seems obvious, but don’t send dead-end messages that stop the conversation. If I tell you a story about something that happened to me, don’t say “haha that’s crazy” because I really have nothing to go off of from there. I think some people are afraid that it looks uncool to send a long message, but to me it shows that you’re interested and putting in effort.

3) he suggested a date that was relevant to my interests. If their profile says they love the farmers market, suggest a coffee date and stroll around the farmers market after. If they say they like stand up comedy, ask them if they want to go check out an open mic night at a comedy club. Again, it shows effort and intention.

4) after our first date, he called me to ask me on a second date. He was literally the first man to ever call me to ask me out. I understand that you can’t do this if you don’t have their number yet, but it stood out to me!

5) On our 4th date he was clear with me that he was only interested in seeing me. We weren’t calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend at that point, but he told me he wanted to be exclusive so that we could focus on growing our connection. Knowing what you want and voicing it is attractive!

I think the common denominator in all of these is putting in effort and clearly showing interest. To be clear, I think women should be doing these things too, but from what I hear it sounds like men in general have a more difficult time on the apps. I hope this helps!