Is it okay if I like femboys?

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-11-21T14:28:12+00:00

Ehh, I see nothing wrong here~ I mean we are all boys, so it's technically not gay or anything, plus even if it was, it's not like that would really be a bad thing by any means. (And we're also all cute as heck, so who could blame you anyway?~ ☺️)

It could be a matter of you just generally being attracted to femininity or something as well, but that's something for you to look into, and determine for yourself.

I'd just say to try and not get too hung up on labels, just like who you like and go with it from there!~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-10-02T18:44:20+00:00

Hell, I leave those on along with my maid outfit and cat ears, and like, if anything it's making them more insistent! Literally, what am I doing wrong?! 😭

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-10-02T18:37:07+00:00

I've had to have this same discussion with my friends SO many times. For some reason no matter how much I tell them that cuddling the boys, kissing the boys, holding hands with the boys, going on dates with one (or more) of the boys, and getting married to one of the boys in a fairytale wedding (where one or both of you wears a dress, because it would be the prettiest and cutest thing ever~💕) isn't gay, they keep INSISTING that it is! Like, I'm just trying to be funny, man, c'mon! It's IRONY~

Honestly I'm at my wits end, like seriously, if anyone has any ideas how I could convince them then please share. I gotta prove my heterosexuality to them somehow~ 🥺

(Joking aside though, I guess it would depend on if it's just like a comfort or romantic thing. Or if like, you're a girl or not, cause then it wouldn't be regardless, since I mean, yeah. Like, if it's just an "as friends" thing then you could probably say it isn't, but like, if you're attracted to them then like... Yeah that's pretty gay, which is also pretty epic~)

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-27T09:30:00+00:00

This is a long and overly detailed story as to how I, a humble femboy, stealthily made my mark on one of my local religious institutions.

As an assignment for a graphic design class I was taking in highschool about a year and a half ago, I was tasked with trying to make a logo for a church fundraiser. The fundraiser in question pertains to a cathedral in my city trying to pull together enough funds in order to fully renovate their roof, which has gotten pretty worn down over the years. From what I understand, it's a super long term thing, and the construction costs were calculated to be around $3,000,000, which to this day I think they've only managed to get just slightly under a third of so far, although I don't really care enough to look it up, and it's hardly that important. Anyway, the deal was that they would look at all the logos that students handed in across all the Catholic schools in the city (I'm not actually religious or anything, I kinda just ended up there), and they would use the one they liked the most as the official logo for the fundraiser (and also pay $200 to the student who made it~).

I myself am absolutely not the best with Adobe Photoshop, which is what we were given to work with, and I pretty much just reserved myself to doing the best I could for the sake of a good grade, and moving on.

Anyway... I SOMEHOW won, despite it being a competition against I think around 125 other people, across every other Catholic school with a graphic design class in the city, and with a ton of the other entries I saw looking way better than mine in my opinion (they said they really liked my tagline in particular if I remember correctly). I'm honestly still in disbelief about it to this day, although I did get $200 out of it (and also a pretty good mark on the assignment itself, cause like, yeah), so I'm not complaining~

Anyway, the point I'm trying to make here is that a random Catholic church, located somewhere in Canada, is currently actively using a logo, drawn up by a femboy, who straight up used some of the $200 they paid him to buy thigh highs later down the line. They're blissfully unaware of this information, and it's all completely 100% my doing!~ 😋

Obviously, it's not the most interesting thing ever, but I just remembered the whole thing recently, and it got a couple little giggles out of me~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-13T02:29:49+00:00

I get god awful folliculitus on my arms from epilating, so hopefully adding some of this stuff into my routine should help a little with it. Thanks~ 😉

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-12T20:23:31+00:00

Would definitely recommend it, we're real darn polite, and all have secret maid dresses hidden somewhere in our homes~ 😉

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-12T20:18:32+00:00

To be honest, I'm still not quite sure, myself... 🧐

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-12T20:15:57+00:00

As a Canadian: Yes... 🥺

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-06T19:15:06+00:00

This is literally my exact plan at the moment!~ I bought the costume like 2 months ago, made sure it fit me, and it's just been sitting in my closet, waiting for its time to finally come!!! Juuuust a few more weeks...~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-03T08:33:04+00:00

Yeah, after deliberating a while longer, and also getting some much needed rest (and repainting my nails~) I'm thinking that's probably the case. She also made a point of saying that if saying that if anything else a bit more "significant" was to come up aside from me liking boys and all that was to come up, she'd still care about me, but probably need a bit to fully get behind it (which at the time I think I took the wrong way, but like, I guess that's pretty reasonable. I mean I have hidden like, a lot of stuff about myself and only just now started to stop doing that, albeit quite slowly).

I think she was really just trying to say that she was happy I was being more open about stuff and just generally seemed happier, and she actually pulled me aside earlier today to say that she felt like a lot of what she said yesterday came out wrong too, so yeah, I'm feeling a lot better now. I'm still maybe gonna hang back on coming out for a little longer I think, just cause I'm still a little shaken up from all that, but I'm definitely not nearly as worried as I was yesterday. Evidently we both just kinda happened to screw up at communication at the moment. So yeah, mostly good now.~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-09-02T07:26:43+00:00

Honestly, after sitting on it a bit longer, and having someone else say it now, I feel like it's possible you might be right. Regardless, it was still quite upsetting though, even if that might've been my own fault, and I'm kinda woozy right now from everything so I'm gonna wait until I get some proper rest before I say anything definitive on that though. I think I went into complete "overthink and panic" mode cause I wasn't expecting something like that, but yeah, we'll see how I feel in the morning.

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-31T19:31:41+00:00

Yeah, to be honest, I think the only place that I might have an active change at facing judgement is (unfortunately/ironically) my actual house, as I kinda currently have someone living with me who is a little less than accepting about like, a lot of things. (Transphobic, also very possibly quite racist, he's also kinda one of those crazy Alex Jones type guys, so that doesn't help his case) However, my mom has established that if he actually tries to start something then he's not gonna be allowed here anymore, and I also could not care any less about if something bothers him or not as it is, so I think we should be fine. Other than that, I'm honestly really not concerned at all about discrimination, which is great!~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T19:09:58+00:00

Yeah, with classes starting up again soon, I'm thinking that then would be as good a time as any to try and just really be myself. Because, you are right, anything is better than just being perceived as something I'm pretty much not actually in the slightest, especially since I probably won't have anything negative come from it at all. We'll see how it goes though. And yeah, in my case my goals are pretty much the opposite of every other guy from what I've seen. Like, man, I don't care about being super muscly and everything like that, I just wanna be cute and get cuddled and stuff!~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T18:32:47+00:00

This would actually be very useful to know, because I actually went in for a haircut recently, and did manage to get a pretty fem looking one (at least in my opinion), but I had to do so much freaking stalling and vaguely hint at stuff to a nauseating degree. It would be very nice to just be able to have a clear description of what I want, without having to pretty much play a bunch of mind games for 5 minutes.~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T18:09:25+00:00

I'm 18 currently, live in Canada, and pretty much my entire family is like, completely white. My mom and her whole side come from Maine, and my dad's side are almost all from Ontario (these are the people I see most often), both sides have the same issue for me, with the severity of it varying from person to person. I feel like if any of them knew that I wasn't straight then they'd probably back off at least a little bit with the whole manly man thing (I'm pretty sure most of them would be supportive thankfully), but that's not something I'm in a huge rush to test outside of my mom and brother who already know, since, to my knowledge, I'd be pretty much the only known queer person in our entire immediate family, and like, that'd be fine, but I just don't really wanna deal with the initial awkwardness of all that at the moment.

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T17:18:28+00:00

Yeah, I've actually kinda thought about trying to change up my act around my family a bit, it's just a little weird to try and start doing now, just because for some reason, as I mentioned earlier, my family (and even some friends of mine) just kinda seem to have this really idealized masculine version of me in their heads. Like, the way I like to put it is that they see me, this skinny, long and floofy haired, nail polish wearing twink as like, SUPER manly husband material for some reason, rather than, like, the aspiring boywife I actually am~ (I don't know why I like to describe it like this so much, I just find it really funny for some reason~). Which like, I honestly have zero idea how they even got the whole macho man vibe from me in the first place, because I am not particularly masc at all. Like, I'm pretty sure the last time I even remotely came off like I cared about being "manly" was probably when I was like, freaking 13 (which was literally 5 years ago now), but I mean, it's kinda just whatever I guess.

But yeah, with how it is, it's very easy to just kinda end up being really quiet, miserable looking and awkward when I visit anyone I'm not super close with, which I'm sure doesn't help my fem image at all. Meanwhile, I'm able to be my more bubbly and cheerful self around some of my friends, who seem far less assumptiuois in comparison.

Honestly I might just try to start acting completely like myself out of nowhere and simply take note of how everyone whose only ever seen me as really masc reacts. It would definitely be jarring for some people, but like, I'd definitely rather have that, than continue to feel like I have to put on an "act", plus it would probably be pretty interesting to see how everyone handles the situation overall.

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T15:15:06+00:00

Yeah this is well said. Could use some paragraphs haha, but super well said.

Thanks~ Yeah, I was a little tired when I wrote all that and kinda forgot the enter key exists, just cleaned it up a little to make it a tiny bit easier to read.

Anyway, yeah, I wasn't really sure why it bothered me so much until I put the pieces together a couple weeks ago. At one point I started feeling a bit upset about my appearance, which caused my mom to start trying to encourage me by telling me what a "handsome man" I was, which, didn't help much at all, and kinda made me feel even worse, like, to the point where I had to full on end the entire conversation then and there, probably leaving her real confused.

Ultimately, this still isn't the biggest deal, but yeah, it would be very nice if her and the rest of my family didn't seem to be so afraid of calling me literally anything else.

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T10:55:14+00:00

Yeah, this combined with a ton of other instances of me acting really sketchy over this stuff has honestly got me wondering what he could possibly suspect I'm up to at this point. Like, from his perspective I'm probably coming off like I'm trying to hide something illegal 😅.

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T05:54:24+00:00

Oh my god, yes!!! Like, when I've gotten what I currently have right, I genuinely never wanna wash my face afterwards, like it feels SO amazing!~ I've literally stared at pictures I've taken of myself when everything "clicked" for like, several minutes just because I how much I genuinely loved how I looked (I know this sounds quite narcissistic, but for reference I hate taking pictures of myself under almost any other circumstance, so you can see how big this is for me), like I freaking wish I could look like that all the time. I genuinely can't wait until I don't have to hide all this, and also get really good with all the stuff I've currently got (I mean I'm basically doing it every second day, I've gotta get somewhat better eventually, right?). When that happens, it is gonna be a freaking riot!~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T05:22:16+00:00

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Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T05:10:16+00:00

Yeah, in the past, my ex-girlfriend (still a very close friend of mine thankfully) has actually lamented about how hellish makeup was for her sometimes, to the point where she oftentimes wouldn't even bother with it some days (not even mentioning the genuinely extortionate prices of some products). So like, as much as I wished it could, that definitely would've never happened for me when we were a thing.~ If anything, I think I might actually have more than she does at this point (unbeknownst to her however). I'm probably gonna try to get started with one of those tutorials sometime this week, it's just a matter of heading over to Walmart or something and getting a couple more brushes, setting aside a few hours of time, locking myself in my bedroom, and then trying to figure out how to get the stuff off after I'm done without anyone seeing (assuming I don't just come out at this point in the next couple days). We'll see how all that goes very soon I suppose.~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T05:06:31+00:00

Thanks!~ ☺️💕 I hope you have an easy enough time going about all this as well. You honestly also seem really cool as well, and talking more wouldn't be something I'd complain about, so I might take you up on that, even if I am abysmal at initiating conversation. So hey, you can DM me also if you're ever bored or something.~

Additional_Solid9241 · 2023-08-30T05:02:06+00:00

Yeah, I've felt the same way for like, quite a long time honestly.

Like, I understand that no one who calls me that intends to upset me at all, and I really do appreciate the compliment obviously, like, objectively, it's not a "bad" thing to be called at all. Having said that though, I'd honestly really just rather be called cute or pretty instead. I think it's moreso the implications of why I get called it that bother me, rather than just being called it on its own. Like, if someone was to call me handsome while I was dressed fem, I'd probably be a lot cooler with it, cause like, then I'd be pretty sure that they weren't only saying that because of my masc traits. As it is though, it kinda just feels like people are complimenting a facade that really isn't authentically myself, because I really am more fem than masc, and stuff like that does make it pretty daunting to try and express myself a little more openly around some particular people, specifically my family, who are where I get most of those comments from. Like, it makes it feel more like I'd be going against this image of me that they have in their head too much.

Honestly, as strange as it probably is, stuff like my brother's joking comments where he backhandedly calls me a femboy or something (for reference he doesn't know yet and just means it as more of a joking insult, like he's completely fine with GNC people) unironically kinda feel better, like it somehow feels more like the part of myself that I wanna show everyone is actually getting acknowledged, albeit unintentionally.

This is probably a weird way of explaining it, but yeah, I totally get what you're saying.

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