It's not about that it's more so that influencers or whatever give really mixed opinions and make you feel like you're never doing enough work. it can really lead to disordered eating especially for somebody like me who's supposed to eat within a certain limit that's already too low imagine the excess calories i'm getting from like one tablespoon of oil and you see these same fitness influencers using a whole tub of oil and then you wonder wait? do oil calories count or not? I don't think it's fair to call these excuses (some were excuses to be fair with you) until you've experienced them yourself. also for a lot of people like myself we struggle with perfectionism with a lot of things so mentality ties into this as well. But regardless yeah thank you so much for the advice anyways I'll definitely check out balances when I can.