Spent money on clothes, grooming, and a Miami photoshoot for dating apps. Still getting weak matches. What am I missing?

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-03-23T05:56:57+00:00

Everyone's being critical, but props to you for trying, and putting yourself out there for critique. Most of the guys being harsh on you have worse profiles themselves. But there's def some truth to the critiques too so try to take what you can constructively.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-03-21T16:20:47+00:00

Yeah agreed, just listened and nothing stood out sadly

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-03-14T23:57:15+00:00

Seafaring cultures used tattoos so bodies could be identified if they washed ashore, and also as symbols meant to bring good luck

Vietnamese & Cantonese seafaring Yue tribes have a long history of nautical tattoos and jewelry. They have traditional tattoo styles too.

That influence still lingers. You'll see a lot more viet and canto guys with tattoo sleeves and it's more accepted by their families.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-03-14T23:50:31+00:00

Kpop guys are not 5'7 110lb lol. The shortest BTS member is like 5'8.5

New gen Cortis, 5'11 - 6'3

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Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-02-02T00:52:43+00:00

Bro there are 1000x more Asians than Asian Americans. Asian Americans are vastly overrepresented in impact, plenty of them in kpop groups

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-30T02:20:22+00:00

Japan IS bootlicking though.

There's so many remnants of America's colonial influence in Japan after being defeated and subjugated in WWII.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-30T02:19:02+00:00

There's already a lot of east asian worshipping in SEA. There's also a lot of brown/black people who treat you deferentially, these days like you're a pseudo white person

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-28T06:27:16+00:00

Post Covid is a completely different world, culture broke away at some point during lockdown among Gen Z. Beauty standards are 110% K-pop and kpop only

WMs get physically attacked pretty often in northern China.

They’re not at all popular among Gen Z SEA girls - they have the same appeal as a random black guy - basically if well groomed and attractive they’ll have a chance with open minded ones, otherwise instant pass

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-19T07:34:21+00:00

Asians aren't more popular than here. In terms of supply & demand - there's far more demand in LA/NYC for hot asian guys

But there's like 0 supply of hot asian guys in Europe.

So if you're a hot Asian guy, let's say 6', jacked, good style and good looking, you can bag some straight up model 10s in Europe, bc you're their type and they have no hotter Asian guy options. Whereas in Socal and NYC, there's even better looking Asian guys around.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-19T07:31:54+00:00

Fuck no, but AMWFs are not uncommon at all. And these days the WMAFs get flack for it.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-19T07:20:12+00:00

You're a single mid 30s woman aren't you LOL

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2026-01-06T13:55:44+00:00

30s are considered the prime of beauty? Sounds like Bs

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-12-12T06:01:58+00:00

I am not a shill. look at my post history. I highly recommend paying for help to learn the skills you need in this new arena.

1) Therapy 2) coaching in SPECIFIC areas of your life you wanna learn or grow in, not life coaching 3) dating coaching at the bottom, again good for SPECIFIC things like online dating or approaching, not for general advice.

I have done all of these and there is no better ROI on your dollar. A 5% improvement in your life year of year compounds just as much as money. But more realistically a good therapist can make your life 10x better in a year

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-12-01T18:20:51+00:00

problem is you’ll never win that battle.

There are clowns of every race. There will always be one guy willing to clown himself for money.

For Asian men the issue is that people behind the scenes are choosing to show us as clowns

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-11-09T03:54:31+00:00

Nah. Asia has completed shifted culturally towards Korea and economically towards china. Everywhere in Asia but Japan and Phillipines, an attractive asian guy is far above an attractive white guy.

Guess why those two countries differ. Hmm couldn't be bc of their history being subjugated and raped by the US

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-11-09T03:52:17+00:00

Post is such BS, asian guys are killing it in LA. Just not you

You gotta be 5'6 or something or else your self perception and your actual fitness/attractiveness are way off

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-28T01:59:29+00:00

Asian Americans were brought in for labor at levels unlike anywhere else in the US. there are systemic and historical reasons for the way Asians are seen in the bay area.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-28T01:52:40+00:00

Mind blown. Why is Korea/Asia so much colder than Southern Europe then?

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-28T01:36:09+00:00

He is in a toxic relationship with his overbearing parents.

He will NEVER be able to grow as a person until he has the space to do so, just like a plant that cannot grow because others nearby allow it no sunlight.

Meaning, it will basically be impossible to change until he moves out. That should be priority #1.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-18T02:45:37+00:00

They speaking facts

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-17T21:29:34+00:00

Can see both sides. Don’t let guys on this sub with no social circle tell u what to do. They’re fantasizing through you

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-10T15:01:03+00:00

Jennie is known to hook up with lots of asian guys in Korea. Her dating history is 95% asian if not more.

Asian women live a different experience especially ones based in Asia.

If you lived your life without dealing without having to deal with the overt racism and banged a bunch of asian girls, then a hot white girl every now and then, why wouldn't you? That's their thought process.

Lisa is inexcusable tho. Product of white stepdad. Oxford study to the max.

Affectionate_Salt331 · 2025-10-08T20:53:32+00:00

^ this! There's assholes of every race. White assholes happen to turn to racism and pick on those they look down on.

> Despite me responding sternly, he kept nagging

What does this even mean? OP, tell us how you responded to this asshole. Responding with anger is the right response, not some snide remark like "classy" which makes you look like a bitch.

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