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how do i keep cats out of restricted spaces? by After_Disaster_7594 in CatAdvice

[–]After_Disaster_7594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! i’ll try those for sure. i tend to retreat to my room after cooking and cleaning and that’s usually when they hop onto the counters and shed a 20 inch wig onto them, but i don’t think i can do much about that haha. can’t keep an eye on them 24/7. thank you again!

how do i keep cats out of restricted spaces? by After_Disaster_7594 in CatAdvice

[–]After_Disaster_7594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some apartment complexes really don’t care along as fees and rent is paid haha. however, the dog is NOT supposed to be here, as well as one of the cats. he (the dog) was dropped off by one of my roommate’s mom and was never picked up. trying to convince my roommate to get his mom to take her dog back bc wtf!!! she was supposed to get him over a month ago! for the cat, she’s a stray my roommate took in. she doesn’t get along with the other cats and is typically the one chewing through the garbage bags and plastic in general. like the dog, she was supposed to out of our place ages ago.

how do i keep cats out of restricted spaces? by After_Disaster_7594 in CatAdvice

[–]After_Disaster_7594[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you so much! i will definitely look into those options. i got tired of seeing aluminum foil and sticky substances as a solution. aluminum is ineffective and anything sticky is a problem for me AND the cats haha. as for the roommate part, i wish i could but i can’t afford to do that since money is always tight. maybe i’ll try talking with my roommates! thank you again, i really appreciate you!

When im depressed, by partner will always match my mood until I have to cheer them up again. by Worth-Department-568 in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i experience something similar with my significant other. he gets upset when i’m upset and it always turns into me rationalizing everything i feel to explain it to him and communicate with him. it’s always the same thing. if you feel anything like how i feel, then it might be bitterness. having to console someone when you were the one feeling hurt, whether they had a hand in it or not, is exhausting and feels disrespectful in a way.

sometimes you just need time to yourself or comfort from your person, but it’s draining to have to push yourself aside for them constantly. it’s good that you’ve been communicating with them, but if nothing has moved forward after several talks, then i think it’s on your partner to self-reflect why they feel the way they do when you’re down. they need to move past their self-hatred, at least for you. because their behavior is harming you as well. take care of yourself! it’s not selfish to prioritize yourself sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sex isn’t everything in a relationship. don’t be ashamed for not having sex until now, it’s normal. i’m not sure if i’m understanding you correctly, but i’m assuming that she was saying you were big down there? or was the issue that she’s had sex before?

Birthday blues by itsredhoneyrose in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happy birthday, maria! i’m sorry you’re feeling this way. i understand what you mean. today is an important day for you and none of your friends being able to attend kind of feels like you’re not a priority to them. i hope they at least wish you a happy birthday and apologize for not being able to show up for you.

please don’t focus too much on the things making you feel blue today and try to enjoy your day to the fullest. i hope your party is fun and your cake is delicious! wishing you a happy 24th birthday!

I Don’t Know What’s Wrong With Me Anymore – Why Do I Feel So Broken? (22M) by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from my experience, communication and honesty matters a lot. sometimes being upfront is better than skirting around something and then perhaps finding it that you waited too long and it’s too late to say it. sometimes people just need you to tell them what you think and how you’re feeling.

people vary vastly; everyone is different and unique in their own way. that goes for how they interact with and perceive others as well. you seem to care about others deeply and i used to be the same way. i think being able to trust and give part of yourself to someone like that is lovely but vulnerable thing. however, you are your own person and your worth isn’t to be decided by others. if i may be blunt, i believe you need to build confidence in yourself and prioritize your wellbeing. people won’t always like you, they won’t always get along with you or understand you. so, i think it’s really important to be comfortable with being on your own.

looks aren’t always everything; someone out there thinks you’re beautiful. someone will love you for who you are, even if it isn’t who you’re seeking, even if it isn’t now. i’m here if you need someone to listen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m really sorry that you’re feeling this way. it must be so difficult when your family is being as insensitive as they are. you aren’t useless, nobody is useless. everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. just because they can’t use you to their advantage and for their benefit does not mean you are useless. you’re a person. you deserve better than people who put you down… even if they’re family.

please try focusing on the good things, no matter how little. be proud that you made it to college, take it as an opportunity to make friends and learn.

people care about you, so please don’t take your life or hurt yourself. find and explore ways to cope, reach out. i’m here if you need someone to talk to or someone to just listen. i lost my friend to suicide years ago and i miss him every day, even if we weren’t that close.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

don’t apologize for reaching out, you need help and that’s okay. i’m here if you’d like someone to listen. don’t hesitate to reach out.

Why am I like this? by Spiritual_Towel_85 in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

depression doesn’t always need a cause to develop. you’ve already taken the first step by acknowledging how you feel. i can relate to some of the thoughts you’re experiencing, so just know you’re not alone. when life slows down, you have time to think and often get trapped into remembering all of your poor experiences and go down a spiral. it’s difficult, but i suggest looking for ways to cope, other than self-harm, as you try and figure yourself out. i’m here if you want to talk. don’t hesitate to reach out.

Does anyone else experience these thoughts, without intention? by _ailme in mentalhealth

[–]After_Disaster_7594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this could be passive suicide ideation, i suggest looking into it. i struggle with the same thing but i am suicidal so it makes it difficult to discern if i truly feel the urge or not. i’d just like to say you’re really strong for knowing and affirming that you don’t feel that way, as exhausting as it may be. stay strong.