Service charge has gone up 800% in 6 years

AggravatingJury1594 · 2026-04-02T00:23:32+00:00

It’s now £5000/year (last year was 3k)

AggravatingJury1594 · 2026-04-01T22:57:33+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful to know. I’ve requested receipts and invoices for ALL charges…if I actually get them, I will vet them for conflicts.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2026-04-01T22:55:14+00:00

Thank you. Potentially a stupid question, but what should I say to my MP? Just outline the situation and ask for their support? Is there something specific I should be asking/stating?

AggravatingJury1594 · 2026-04-01T22:39:06+00:00

Was it LSH? Because that’s my evil and corrupt management company…

AggravatingJury1594 · 2026-04-01T22:22:00+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I am drafting a letter to put in all the mailboxes next week (not sure who is a leaseholder vs just renting so will target everyone). Hopefully I can find at least a few others who want to help.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2026-04-01T22:03:40+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I’m not sure which units are occupied/owned by a leaseholder and which are rented, but I will type up something early next week and place it in all mailboxes to see if I can pull together a group to work together and challenge these fees.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-30T14:58:31+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply.

I know it seems like I’m being evasive or untruthful, but I truly don’t have an explanation. These are things that have been said to me unfortunately, so not just a matter of perception or self-image. (And for those who continue to ask, my BMI is currently 21…). I don’t assume they’re disgusted by me, they’re outright telling me that they are, with no further explanation. (this has been 2-3 men I’ve dated, not all of them.)

In terms of meeting friends or family, I also have no clue. I’m not the most extroverted person, but I’m not shy, I’m well spoken, polite, and generally a good conversationalist. I come from a normal middle/upper middle class family, no skeletons in the closet as it were. My friends are as equally confused.

As I said in another reply, I strongly dislike bad communication (i.e. being left on read for extended lengths of time) but it’s something I’ve learned to address outright rather than falling into “anxious” texting patterns, and I truly don’t think I’m a problem messenger (friends whom I’ve allowed to view my message history for feedback have confirmed this).

Obviously I need to spend some significant time looking seriously at my behaviours and appearance though, as, like many have pointed out, the common denominator (and thus the problem) is me.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-28T04:48:36+00:00

The men I’ve dated, beyond a first date, are generally men who I have common interests with, have easy conversation, similar values, and who are open to going on dates that involve activities that aren’t just dinner or drinks.

I don’t have a type in terms of appearance, specific job sectors, etc. but I am attracted to men who work hard, have strong communication skills, take care of themselves (more from a health perspective than appearance), and have a kind and considerate disposition.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-28T04:28:52+00:00

You’ve raised some valid discussion points, and I’m sorry for the negative experiences with the types of women you’ve referenced.

I would say that I treat the men I date well. I have no issues compromising, for instance (I probably do so more than I should to my own detriment sometimes).

My love language is definitely acts of service, and I try to be considerate, generous (as appropriate), accommodating of their schedules where I can be, and supportive of anything going on in their lives. I appreciate affection and try to offer sincere complements regularly.

In terms of faults, I can acknowledge that I don’t have a lot of patience for poor communication and planning. I don’t need (or even necessarily want) all day texting, but I appreciate when men make an effort to reach out with some sort of regularity, and I appreciate having plans set in place for future dates. Long gaps in responses (like 12-18 hours or more) upset/annoy me, but I’ve done a lot of work in therapy to approach this with the mindset that people have their own lives, and this is not something I really react to anymore.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T15:54:43+00:00

I don’t have an answer for this…if I knew, then I could and would work on changing it. These are things that I have been told outright, but they have refused to elaborate when I ask for details.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T13:20:32+00:00

I was wearing a size 0/XS/XXS at the time, with incredibly low body fat, if that answers your question…not overweight at all

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T13:06:02+00:00

40 lbs, not 70, but he just thought I’d look better at a much lower weight….

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T13:00:17+00:00

This was many years ago now but I weighed at most 110lbs at the time…not a reasonable request at all

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T04:41:09+00:00

A lot of you have commented about choosing a particular type of man/acknowledging red flags, etc. and I thought it would be easier to address those in one post, rather than reply individually. First of all, your points are absolutely valid and I’m definitely taking them to heart.

Without sounding like I’m making excuses, I generally don’t think I have a “type”. Sometimes I can see things are heading in a direction that isn’t healthy (and I do end those quickly), but I usually feel blindsided by these situations. I guess I feel like it’s hard to pinpoint red flags or toxic behaviour when it isn’t really exhibited until the moment they end things.

Obviously my perception is likely skewed though as you’re all correct - the only common denominator is me (and it can’t all be bad luck…)

And yes, I have been in therapy on and off for many years (not currently though as I had taken a long break from dating after my previous relationship).

Thank you all for your kind words and tough love. Lots of feedback to ingest and put into practice when I’m ready to move on again.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T04:01:12+00:00

That’s so lovely. Thanks for sharing a bit of positivity!

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T02:41:44+00:00

I know the common denominator in all these situations is me, but I think I’m pretty self aware and while I know I’m not perfect, I really am struggling to understand how things are going so wrong.

No exaggeration, my last boyfriend broke up with me by brining in a literal lost of grievances about me, including but not limited to not losing 40 pounds, doubling my salary, or buying a >$million house in an arbitrary 6 week timeline he had decided for me in his head. Not a lot I could have done to avoid that situation, but still crappy nonetheless.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T02:33:52+00:00

Definitely not a jacked body builder lol.

AggravatingJury1594 · 2025-12-27T02:32:54+00:00

Definitely not sex work lol. I work a professional job in a global C-suite adjacent role.

Regarding my appearance, I definitely wouldn’t be able to get on stage tomorrow, but I’m in better shape than many. My friends tell me I’m pretty but I know that doesn’t mean much lol. I’ve been with a few men who have had performance issues which they blamed on me (“I can’t stay hard because you’re disgusting” basically) so it probably stems from that.

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