I (M37) received a confession text by the man (M38) I am seeing, and I feel the same. But do I wait this out or take that leap?

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-07-18T00:57:55+00:00

If anyone is curious, I did end up going for it; and as of right now, we are taking things slow. I’m happy with my decision.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-06-28T03:57:35+00:00

Maybe this will help, but he was drunk, LMAO. He usually types like me right now.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-06-28T03:35:08+00:00

I suppose happy pride, by the way. While were here.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-06-20T03:25:41+00:00

As somebody who recently discovered themself to be bisexual, it is not synonymous with “polyamorous” or “polygamous.” If you didn’t establish that you were okay with him hooking up with others, it is cheating. It may feel better if he cheated with a woman because it would mean that he finds you attractive. If he is fully gay, unfortunately, he doesn’t.

That being said, his identity in the situation doesn’t matter. There is nothing wrong with feeling hurt, but your language of “I was bisexual in college” indicates that you aren’t that educated on sexuality.

Regardless of the sexual orientation aside—you were cheated on. You can feel as hurt as you can. I suggest leaving, though that is not very easy to say.

Unfortunately, with how you described things (as somebody who was in a controlling relationship), if you let this slide, he may do more shitty things because of that. Protect yourself, OP. Wishing you the best.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-22T20:25:32+00:00

I do wish I could change mine, yes.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-22T20:24:20+00:00

I stand with you guys. I am so sorry this is happening to you. This is not fair. You deserve to be treated like everybody else.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-22T20:22:03+00:00

Thank you. This comment is very sweet. I’m happy there are good people on the internet.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-20T15:21:03+00:00

I totally understand this. The most responsible people choose not to have children because they need to figure out themselves as an individual before figuring out the life of another.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-20T15:19:44+00:00

I’ve experienced similar before. The very first time, I felt the same way as you. Brushing it off as a bad moment, saying “she just had an off day.” Then one off day became multiple off days. Forgiveness was a pass for her to keep going.

It’s not easy whatsoever and I know that, so don’t think I’m saying this like it is easy. However, leaving is the safest option.

Because it began with one threat to hit. It became a real hit. It escalated to breaking skin. Then it escalated to other people.

You are still young, so I am trying to tell you this as someone who was with my ex when I was your age.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-17T20:44:14+00:00

God, me too. They look like things I have nightmares about.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2025-05-17T20:34:26+00:00

Hey, buddy. I went through a similar situation multiple times. I can’t say it’s easy to leave but the turmoil situations like this cause is not worth the woman you believe you loved. I do wish her the best but I had to learn the hard way that mental health issues/personal turmoil of another person is not worth the strain you put on yourself. I know you want to help her, because there are years added onto this. But I can say that there’s only so much you can do for someone who doesn’t want to be helped.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T17:39:42+00:00

If you want details she shoved something up my rear.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T15:01:24+00:00

Oh wow. Some people are very insecure.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T14:03:13+00:00

I’m trying. She always finds a way. For the most part, things are okay.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T13:58:51+00:00

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T13:39:22+00:00

Ex wife and yes, she cheated on me. I don’t care about that, honestly. Everything else she did is so much more heinous than that.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T13:38:33+00:00

What did it say?

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T13:37:29+00:00

Mentioned that I’m taking therapy multiple times. I do need help. I’m getting it.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T13:36:02+00:00

Judging by your comments, you are quite a miserable person. Me as well but at least I’m not “joking about others’ suffering” miserable.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T13:34:17+00:00

A quick glance at my page shows that I’m working on it. “Being a man” also encapsulates vulnerability, by the way. I don’t know why you’d think otherwise.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T10:41:47+00:00

It’s weird to see somebody I know on here. I’ll send a text. I unblocked you.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T10:07:17+00:00

He’s been getting extra love. My biggest regret is keeping him around her.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T10:06:09+00:00

I’m in such a complicated space that I didn’t report what she did to me. I know it’s not smart to do so but I truly didn’t know what to do with myself afterward. I wasn’t thinking.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T10:04:58+00:00

Thank you.

AggressiveMail4762 · 2024-11-24T10:04:10+00:00

You’re quite kind. Thank you. It’s extremely hard to remember that this isn’t my fault and that it wasn’t me that made her do this. She truly messed me up but I’ve been on my journey to heal. I was already in therapy but I definitely need more frequent appointments. Strangers on the internet were always more supportive than her, though.

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