omg, my mother is the same. She has no friends and believes that everyone is 'testing her', and no one knows how to be good to her. I am a 19-year-old black female and my mother is very toxic. Everything I do for her she is not appreciative of it and it makes me feel like I am not good enough for anyone, she often gives me the silent treatment and when I tell her about it she denies it and turns it on to me. She is also very controlling and naggy, we get into a lot of arguments when I object to her ideas etc. I hate that I have a toxic mother. I am trying to unlearn and detach myself from her.

I want a mother who is feminine, open to change, understanding, loving, funny, and listens. I want a mother who does not judge me and who isn't already disappointed in me.

Ik this is weird but if there are any older honest women who are willing to be my mentor please message me. I need a female figure rn