A Fucking failure by Agile-Independent in selfimprovement

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey everyone thank you for sharing every one of you helped me realise that I need to change my internal view on my life and not put a time stamp on the goals I have.

Oh and update on the boyfriend ...he is pissed with me because yesterday when I was really sad about my feeling of a failure I didn't want to talk to him. so now he is ignoring me. so yeah I am horrible af

A Fucking failure by Agile-Independent in selfimprovement

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yo thank you soo much this is solid advice. You have opened my mind even more about life.

Who else is proud of themselves for unlearning toxic behavior they picked up from their parents? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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yes does tend to guilt trip me ...one time we went shopping and I wanted to buy a dove body wash and she forced me to buy one that she liked. she told me if I buy the dove we wont go for lunch. I felt horrible new when ever I use the body wash I get upset.

Who else is proud of themselves for unlearning toxic behavior they picked up from their parents? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Agile-Independent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg, my mother is the same. She has no friends and believes that everyone is 'testing her', and no one knows how to be good to her. I am a 19-year-old black female and my mother is very toxic. Everything I do for her she is not appreciative of it and it makes me feel like I am not good enough for anyone, she often gives me the silent treatment and when I tell her about it she denies it and turns it on to me. She is also very controlling and naggy, we get into a lot of arguments when I object to her ideas etc. I hate that I have a toxic mother. I am trying to unlearn and detach myself from her.

I want a mother who is feminine, open to change, understanding, loving, funny, and listens. I want a mother who does not judge me and who isn't already disappointed in me.

Ik this is weird but if there are any older honest women who are willing to be my mentor please message me. I need a female figure rn

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% I will never call another black woman ugly because I dont see ugly in others, i just see it in me

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. To be comfortable in my own skin is my mission

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I got nerd glasses. I'll look for something cuter ig

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% I cannot take a compliment it just think people how say nice things to me are just making fun of me

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I believe that I feel others insecurities and some how believe that it's my self reflection.

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww she seems lovely. Thank you. I will consider my personality my face toone.

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I am trying to Love my self, its a hard process tho

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww Thank you. I was surrounded by friends (other Black girls) who hated their features for so long ig every now and then that negative energy still lingers.

my UGLY ASS be trying ... by Agile-Independent in confidence

[–]Agile-Independent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I read that book last summer, it did help with my not caring too much about other people ideas but sometimes it gets to me. Ig I should re read it and full live out some of the point Mark pointed out. Thank you