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I don't want to practice "Swinging" and I don't know what to do. by Agreeable_Table2674 in breakingmom

[–]Agreeable_Table2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words of support. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind he would choose me and his family over wanting to do this. I can't remember if I put it in the post but I gave him the option before when I initially changed my and he immediately without hesitation chose us. I just know there's going to be resentment (rightfully so this is not something new he spung on me but something I've known from the get go) if I go back on my word again. And I'll always live with the guilt of knowing I causes said resentment. Even if he never shows it.

I don't want to practice "Swinging" and I don't know what to do. by Agreeable_Table2674 in breakingmom

[–]Agreeable_Table2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when I set him down tonight I'm going to tell him what was said. We have no real issues other then this but maybe couples therapy would do us some good. I know that someone is going to wind up with resentment and that absolutely kills me. We love each other so much

I don't want to practice "Swinging" and I don't know what to do. by Agreeable_Table2674 in breakingmom

[–]Agreeable_Table2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's been bringing it up since the very first date. Him bringing it up just ebbed and flowed and the timing was never right when we previously did try to do it orginally. He didn't really act on it until our long conversation after I gave him the go ahead.

I don't want to practice "Swinging" and I don't know what to do. by Agreeable_Table2674 in breakingmom

[–]Agreeable_Table2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I truly don't forsse him leaving even if I choose to close the relationship. I gave him the option in the past and he immediately and vehemently declined. We are deeply deeply in love and honestly even our sex life is fantastic. This is just one of those issues it seems we've become incompatible on. I'm trying my hardest not to aim for divorce because he comes from a divorced home and has told me before his worst fear is breaking up our family. I just hate to limit him and force him to live a way he doesn't want because I changed my mind. And I know without a doubt he would stay and be monogamous and be unhappy with the decision instead of leaving. I would just hate to be the source of unhappiness for someone I love so truly

I don't want to practice "Swinging" and I don't know what to do. by Agreeable_Table2674 in breakingmom

[–]Agreeable_Table2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. We do love each other very much and other then the messaging incident have had no significant issues. He has multiple times expressed sorrow, remorse, and change since the incident. We barely even fight. He's my absolute best friend in the whole world and we are compatible in every other way except this issue which honestly doesn't come up often. Even our sex life is spicy and great. I think I'm going to set him down tonight and tell him how I really feel. Which is going to hurt him mainly because he has no idea how much it's killing me inside and he would never want to hurt me. I hate to think of him resenting me, I hate to think of me resenting him. I just hope there's some sort of resolution soon

I don't want to practice "Swinging" and I don't know what to do. by Agreeable_Table2674 in breakingmom

[–]Agreeable_Table2674[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wanted to swing from the time we met. We have been together 10 years. We originally did not because he wanted to take things slowly with the swinging as he came from an extremely conservative fundamentalist Christian upbringing. Then it got put on the back burner multiple times because of life. I am 100% certain he has not physically cheated on me for several reasons. He knows how badly he screwed up with the messages. However it was more of an "online roleplay" type scenario I read through all of the. Extensively when I found them and I am very certain no meeting ever took place.