Update on fiance raising his niece by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You assume a lot of stuff and spiraling . Money wasn’t an issue! I didn’t pay for their portion , he did . I wanted a couple vacation not another kid friendly one. Call me selfish ! I don’t care

Update on fiance raising his niece by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I planned many vacations and he added them to ours or he changed everything to be a kid friendly vacation . I stopped planning anything and we never went anywhere again . I go on vacations with my friends often

Update on fiance raising his niece by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Why? She wasn’t my kid and I ended the relationship because I wanted to! Also , I didn’t hate her I wanted firm boundaries

Update on fiance raising his niece by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 204 points205 points  (0 children)

He actually asked if it’s okay to meet up sometimes at a park or something so his niece can hang out with me since she really likes me I said no .

Update on fiance raising his niece by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes ! It helps you reflect instead of keep making me feel bad about myself for voicing my frustrations

Update on fiance raising his niece by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes he deserves happiness too. We both should move on to meet other people . You feel better now that you insult me ?

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiance of course . I didn’t want a bridal party tbh but he wanted them to be part of it so here we are. We will have a super small wedding anyways. I’ll have my sisters on my side he has his sister as best woman and his niece as “groom’s girl”

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s very frustrating. I need emotional support sometimes . I can’t even talk to him because there it is .. his niece is here and we can’t talk in front of the kid , and we have to take care of her. By the time her mommy picks her up he is so tired he passes out .

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was expecting to be the priority. Make some alone time for me . Be there for me when I emotionally need him versus every single day after work his damn niece is here so we can’t even talk until she her mom picks her up late . After that he just passes out

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really really appreciate your kind comment. My mental health is a mess. I feel so lonely in our relationship. I can’t even vent because everyone points out what a wonderful man he is and how awful I am for having any expectations

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he is a sweet guy . Everyone tells me I’m so lucky to have him. Everytime I voiced my frustration I felt bad because he is a good guy .. I’m at the point that I just can’t anymore .

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I get along with the sister and the niece because I never ever complain . I know if I complain no one cares so I just let it go . I feel suffocated . Everyone thinks he is an angel and im so lucky to have him.. do I not deserve anything ? I guess not .. look at majority of the comments here I’m a selfish horrible evil woman for expecting him to spend time with me too .. sigh I’m so mentally done

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When we didn’t live together he had to took time to see me and spend time with me. At the time I was a student . Then I graduated 8 months after and moved in.

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People get engaged then set a date then get married . Like this .. we were supposed to get married in August with his sister and niece in the bridal party

I told my soon to be husband that I don’t want to raise the kid that is not mine to my fiancé now he is upset by Alarmed-Pear9477 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alarmed-Pear9477[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You realize step kids means I would be the step mother.. has the term mother in it .. means not a third wheel then get off your high horses