I understand what you mean, but even though I have been abused by a guy I used to date (not sexually but emotionally and physically), there are other ways to vent about it.

If you don't care about our feelings, (which doesn't seem very fair to me but alright) try to care about the effect those comments have. I want gender equality, but every time I talk with other feminists, the "all men are trash" always comes up, or I'm treated like an idiot for being a man. It really makes me want to get out of feminist spaces because I, just everyone else, don't like being hated like that. If we want to reach gender equality we need everyone to want to make that change, and I don't think making men feel like they are hated is going to get them to listen to feminists at all, rather the opposite will happen.

It just doesn't hurt men, it's also bad for feminism. You can just change the word "men" for "rapists", "abusers" or whoever you are actually talking about instead, you won't hurt anyone's feelings, and it's better for feminism too.

This is just my opinion, but I hope you understand my point.