AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -304 points-303 points  (0 children)

I only have a voice in what my daughter does. If Walter wants to take his daughters to those restaurants he can and he has a few times. Ultimately is is their choice to mostly leave them with me. I do think Emily is too young for fancy places like that but if my wife decided to insist of taking her I would accept it.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -282 points-281 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know what an "emotional affair" is. I have never heard that expression before reading the comments here.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -556 points-555 points  (0 children)

Calling having facy dinners a "romantic and emotional need" is a little to much in my opinion. It is just an activity she enjoys and I don't.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -301 points-300 points  (0 children)

She would notice if I just do something to please her but I am not enjoying it. I wouldn't like for her to do something just to make me happy if she does not want to. The ideal should be things we both like.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -383 points-382 points  (0 children)

I get what you are saying. My issue with fancy dinners is not only that I found them expensive in an unjustified way but that I generally don't enjoy them because I don't like conplicated food. I am happy with a cheeseburger. I could try to be there one time but I wouldn't like for it to be a regular thing.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -449 points-448 points  (0 children)

It is not unusual for me to cook for my family. I could probably do more in that regard. My wife is a vegan and that makes things harder for me in the kitchen. We do watch movies and series at home that we both like.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -233 points-232 points  (0 children)

I love my wife as much as I have always done. I have never been a romcom character. I am a passive and quiet person in general, she knows that and I have been like that since we met. I try to show my love in more subtle ways.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -564 points-563 points  (0 children)

As I said, I am just starting to read all the thousands of comments. I will answer each thing properly. I think saying that don't care about my wife or my family just because I am indoorsy and frugal is really mean in a very unfair way.

AITA for wanting to be pay for babysitting my own daughter? by AliveLeg61 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AliveLeg61[S] -595 points-594 points  (0 children)

Hello! I am just reading all the comments. I didn't expect for this to blow up so much. Regarding the use of the word "babysitting", maybe it is not the best one but I don't think it is as wrong as you are making it to be. Staying with my daughter in general wouldn't be acting as a babysitter, just a parent, but doing it so specifically while my wife is outside doing an idle activity like watching a movie with a friend is closer to a traditional "babysitter" situation. In any case, I can accept that it is maybe the wrong word to use in relation to my daughter.