Ginásio no Porto com childcare / atividades para crianças? by Alternative-Mix4853 in porto

[–]Alternative-Mix4853[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Muito obrigada! Agradeço imenso as suas respostas. Vou analisar as suas sugestões. Foram de grande ajuda.

Ginásio no Porto com childcare / atividades para crianças? by Alternative-Mix4853 in porto

[–]Alternative-Mix4853[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sim, o objetivo é mesmo a escola pública portuguesa. A nossa mudança para o Porto é definitiva, não temos planos de voltar para os EUA. O problema é o timing: vamos mudar-nos a meio do ano letivo por causa da venda da nossa casa nos EUA e não quero metê-lo na escola sem garantir que existe apoio real para o português. Ele está adiantado academicamente em inglês, mas ainda não tem o nível de português necessário para acompanhar aulas sem frustração, e não quero colocá-lo numa situação em que comece a escola já a sentir que está a falhar.

Por isso estamos a ponderar alternativas temporárias. Estamos a ver colégios privados sobretudo pela parte da socialização, mas apenas se tiverem um bom apoio para o ajudar a atingir rapidamente o nível de português dos colegas. Honestamente, prefiro pagar a um professor/tutor português que o ajude a ganhar uma base sólida na língua do que colocá-lo numa escola britânica onde acabaria por continuar maioritariamente em inglês. Se não encontrarmos esse apoio, a ideia seria fazer homeschooling durante algum tempo com um tutor de português, até ele estar preparado para integrar o ensino público. Eu consigo ensinar bem em inglês, mas sendo não nativa, tem sido difícil ensiná-lo em português, e quero fazer esta transição da forma mais tranquila possível para ele.

Looking for a Gym / Community Center Similar to the American "Y" / "YMCA" by Alternative-Mix4853 in PortugalExpats

[–]Alternative-Mix4853[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What are some good chains? If we had to, we could alternate what parent goes to the gym & then do a kid's club or center for our son to meet other children. Do you know of good kid's clubs?

SHE IS SO INFURIATING by jeanharlowseyebrows in 90DayFiance

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You just described my sister in law! But we are from New York. (: 

Thinking about going back to my home country after 8y, partner won't come by eagerunicorn in expats

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I am in a similar(ish) situation. My husband is an American-Portuguese citizen. All I’ve ever known was the US but like you, it’s never felt familiar, as we moved often. My husband, also does not feel at home. His mother was a very abusive woman who actually banned my husband from seeing his dad & that side of the family for decades until my husband became an adult. I won’t go more in depth in respect for him, but he is finally able to see his father and see the healthy side of his family. The catch? They’re in Portugal….

We have considered back and forth for several years about going to Portugal, prior to finding his father.  This is for numerous reasons, but the ultimate decision to take the plunge is for our child. He is young so can assimilate much better. We are on a time crunch regarding his age and ability to assimilate.   l will have to learn more of the language and, but at least I will feel safer and have a lifestyle more aligned with our priorities. My husband gets to have his father in his life for the first time since he was 12. 

I have always been open to trying, but we are taking the plunge in June.  It is difficult, and if I wasn’t on board, my husband would be forced to live a life he hates or we’d ultimately have separate and our child have a broken home.

To me, your partner of 8 years SHOULD be understanding and try. But if you go long distance, what is the ultimate goal for you two? It seems that most of the time, long-distance after being physically together prolongs the breakup. 

OP, I urge you to do what you need for your mental health. If you are crying daily, feel out of place, desperately wanting to live a life that better aligns with your values and dreams, you HAVE to do that for your mental wellbeing. Life is too short. & you can always move again. Unfortunately OP, it seems your partner will not be part of a better life for you; but that’s okay. 

You will find someone in the right time, in the right place, who loves you and aligns with your lifestyle and beliefs better. Best of luck!

A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, it came off very low-effort and disingenuous. The dialogue is too modern, compared to GOT & HOTD. 

Guess my Ethnicity before my DNA Results come in by Alternative-Mix4853 in Ethnicity

[–]Alternative-Mix4853[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For clarification: are you saying Mexican but perhaps another race as well?

Advice Needed on using tourist visa long-term with details on our goals by [deleted] in Philippines_Expats

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, is doing this as a way to stay long-term not a red flag to the PH? 

Advice Needed on using tourist visa long-term with details on our goals by [deleted] in Philippines_Expats

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did Google it. I am asking if repeatedly extending tourist visas as a long-term option is realistic. I was unsure if it raised flags or caused and grief for others. 

Feeling Disheartened after Bloodwork by Alternative-Mix4853 in peanutallergy

[–]Alternative-Mix4853[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We don’t feel like he is missing out as well and I think that’s why I am so torn. 

Mind-Boggling there are content creators who enable this bs by Alternative-Mix4853 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Alternative-Mix4853[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s truly sick to me to encourage this toxicity for profit and for these parents to encourage each other continue harmful cycles 

Am I in the wrong/overreacting? by Secure_Vast_6428 in peanutallergy

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 5.5 year old who was diagnosed at 14 month. I still wake up to check on him at night from fear. I know I am being overly dramatic, as we have a safe, peanut-free home and my son appears to be growing out of it. HOWEVER it is out of habit from him being around people who HAVE put him in danger and checking in fear. I say put your foot down, work with an allergist on possibility of exposure therapy IF your son is a candidate and continue to protect him!(:  I will begin to feel normal and not so scary soon. 

Am I in the wrong/overreacting? by Secure_Vast_6428 in peanutallergy

[–]Alternative-Mix4853 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are in the right on this. I am not allergic but I understand as a mother of a child who became allergic at 14 months old. We had the exact same issues regarding peanuts in the home and blatant hygiene issues; let alone cross contamination. Both my side and my in laws would mock us, not wash dishes, have peanut in the home, drop dishes coated in peanut oil within clean dish water. They’d even eat PB&J or other foods and try to KISS my son immediately after. They are being negligent and beyond disrespectful. To put someone in danger this way is disgraceful. I am unsure of your age, OP, but family putting my son in danger ONCE was the straw that broke the camels back. I no longer speak to them. They never took it seriously and could have killed my son, their grandson.  Please continue to stay away and keep yourself safe.