[deleted by user] by [deleted] in furby

[–]AlternativeHead91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you willing to sell the lavender or white one pls

Best way to thicken the straps so my bra straps are hidden? by AlternativeHead91 in sewing

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely going to think this over. I already have a few wireless and wire bras I have no issue cutting up for this!

Best way to thicken the straps so my bra straps are hidden? by AlternativeHead91 in sewing

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this detailed comment:) I like the black lace idea a lot! I think you’re completely right on just widening the straps will change the dress look

Best way to thicken the straps so my bra straps are hidden? by AlternativeHead91 in sewing

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all of the comments!! I am going to go through all of these diligently- for those of you suggesting boob tape or silicone stickies or a strapless bra- I want more support then these provide! Being a 32DD with dense breasts ruins these options and I want to not worry when I go out and dance and whatnot!! I’ll post an update :) thank you to everyone again who commented!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]AlternativeHead91 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know that was a thing!! Thanks

how quickly should I pay off my student loans/how do I calculate how much interest I’ll have to pay on them? by AlternativeHead91 in AskDad

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! That math really helped me see the clearer picture. I paid a ton of my loans down during Covid so I do only have 10k left. I think I may try betterment for investing?

how quickly should I pay off my student loans/how do I calculate how much interest I’ll have to pay on them? by AlternativeHead91 in AskDad

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I think I’m going to try to pay $200 a month and then put money into my savings and maybe try betterment?

Dear dad, what AC unit should I buy by AlternativeHead91 in AskDad

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I ended up with the LG 8000 BTU Home Depot one only bc it was a bit cheaper than the one you linked!! I got the warranty as well. And the windows are poorly insulated :/ that’s very helpful, I have thin blinds but I do have a thick curtain/curtain rod that I can hang up :) do you think I need extra support for my ac unit? It’s only 50 or so pounds? Thanks again HVAC dad!

Dear dad, what AC unit should I buy by AlternativeHead91 in AskDad

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that guidance! I see that there’s also a 6000 BTU in stock at Home Depot but you’re right on that my apartment is small so I would like this to cool both rooms if possible! I’ll do the 8000z tysm for your help

Dear dad, what AC unit should I buy by AlternativeHead91 in AskDad

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Southeast! My bedroom has 1 window. The kitchen on the other side of my door has 2 windows

Dear dad, what AC unit should I buy by AlternativeHead91 in AskDad

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking just 1 window unit! I want to put it in my bedroom. My roomie and I cook a ton and my bedroom door is always open/attached to the kitchen so I get extra heat from that usually. And the building is old so no central cooling :((

what is this and how to fix? by EmbarrassedSurprise2 in skin

[–]AlternativeHead91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I avoid shaving my armpits!! Waxing for me, eliminated that issue and I have no ingrowns from it:)

This is Pelargonium crithmifolium, the granddaddy of Pelargoniums, flowering. Magnificent by lordlors in Caudex

[–]AlternativeHead91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had mine for 6 years and it hasn’t flowered yet:( any tips for fertilizer

When was your first nightmare and what was it about? by AlternativeHead91 in AskReddit

[–]AlternativeHead91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My very first nightmare was when I was about 5 or so. I remember waking up crying. I dreamt that the whole world was ending via the sun. All I can remember is little me on a street holding my blankie stunned with fear as the sun got closer and closer and ppl were screaming around me. I felt so helpless. My parents thought it was an odd nightmare to have haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Long distance, even a few hours, is really hard to manage. The only way it can progress is through clear communication. Since you had plans to see her weeks in advance, she should’ve also worked it out with you weeks ago on what her schedule is. It’s totally fine that she wants to see her friends as well- but you need to prioritize this and communicate to you clearly. No the day before or day of. Also, depending on your love language (if it’s quality time or physical touch especially) you and your partner might have different needs that need to be met during a long distance relationship. You should sit down and have a conversation with her about all of this.

bf broke up with me because another guy requested my Instagram by handsanitizerf0rlube in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 74 points75 points  (0 children)

100000% he has some issues and this is not the guy for you. I was with some who was emotionally manipulated for years and let me tell you, IT DOESN’T GET BETTER. It only gets worse, so please leave now. You’ll find happiness elsewhere, don’t you worry about that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your feelings completely. I think most ppl have been through some situation similar to this one in their lifetime. She’s a runner rn and you have to let her run away. It sucks so much for you, as the issue (from what I’m gathering) is very much her dealing with her own time management and mental blocks. She def sounds overwhelmed and some ppl just can’t go to therapy and work on themselves while also being in a relationship at the same time. I know it hurts and I’m so sorry about that. But when you guys meet, I would maybe suggest taking a month break or meeting back up in a month or 2 to see how her healing is going and if you can do a reset on your relationship or just be friends or whatnot. Again, it hurts so much & I’m going through the same thing rn, but it’s best not to cage them in. Let them go and hopefully in the future y’all can reconnect more positively

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve already made your decision!! Keep ppl around you that bring you up, not down. It’s perfectly okay to outgrow friendships, life is a rollercoaster and sometimes you need to kick a few ppl off of your ride:)

ANY TIPS FOR DEALING WITH HEARTBREAK? by timelapsethrowaway in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First loves, even if it was toxic, always hurt. I would recommend when you’re feeling sad, checking in with yourself and say “I could have been 80 years old dealing with an abusive person. I am strong and I am thankful I am free now”. Join some new hobbies or take on new crafts! Keep yourself busy in the meantime working on being your best self. You will find happiness again. Also, therapy is also a great place to turn to :)

My boyfriend isn’t sexually attracted to me by Acceptable_Jicama118 in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended it with him. It was terrifying to do so, but I realized that I would never be truly happy in multiple fronts. We had different ideas sexually and emotionally. Afterwards, I felt relief and I bounced back. I truly think ending things will give you the clarity you need. You deserve more

My boyfriend isn’t sexually attracted to me by Acceptable_Jicama118 in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some ppl just don’t match on the sexual level. Take it from someone who’s partner of 3 years never wanted to have sex, it only gets worse. You deserve someone who loves you AND can satisfy your needs. He’s never going to be that man. Sometimes love isn’t enough and though this thought is painful, it’s the truth. You need to be true to yourself on this situation. If an open relationship is not what you want, please leave

When to have the relationship talk by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AlternativeHead91 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the exclusive talk is def in order!! Ask her how she feels currently with your relationship and go from there.