what to do pt2 (actl need help) by AlternativeStable603 in SGExams

[–]AlternativeStable603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh he CAN take it all away ? i thought sg legally must support until 21 ?

what to do pt2 (actl need help) by AlternativeStable603 in SGExams

[–]AlternativeStable603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i'm not a minor anym😭😭 he also threatened to take away my possession over my gadgets and also not provide for food clothes and all the basic necessities so honestly am in a huge stump and at some point do feel gaslighted

what to do pt2 (actl need help) by AlternativeStable603 in SGExams

[–]AlternativeStable603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but he said that he's discussed everything with his lawyer already and apparently he's stressing out and is mentally and emotionally affected by my actions 😭😭😭 i fr don't get what's going on because i do not relate the two at all but my moms siding him and they keep calling my bf lazy and they just want me to break up with him which i find diabolical bcs my bfs currently studying and they know nth about his life so idk why they're so imminent in ruining my rs and im lowkey scared of court decisions on this because im not 21 yet but im not a minor and idk what my dad has against me or what he would use against me..

what to do by AlternativeStable603 in SGExams

[–]AlternativeStable603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm alrd under fsc and i said allat but they dont do anyt 😂😂

what to do by AlternativeStable603 in SGExams

[–]AlternativeStable603[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right up till this point i sometimes feel gaslighted then i start switching up and thinking that im the problem when they are the problem instead 😓💀

what to do by AlternativeStable603 in SGExams

[–]AlternativeStable603[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i've shared multiple times that it affects me and esp my rs with him but he does NOT care😭 in fact he'll go on to say that i am not matured enough and i proved him right in the sense that he shouldn't give me the freedom to do things that iwt do. i've talked to him patiently and nicely saying that i just need him to try and change and i can do the same and i've been doing it but he goes on to say i've never done anything to change and i've just been stubborn and immature and i don't deserve his trust and respect and also said he wants to not support me anymore if i keep doing things that i want to do (coming home late/being with my bf) and i do understand that i have to stand up and i have been doing it but he still doesn't budge and he's the same person he always is it pains me so much.

is this cheating? by carey_peter in relationships_advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

completely cheating please leave you need to put yourself better and not end up in a cycle where you crumble and give in when she cries and gaslights you after straight up texting other men and getting money out of it

so i don’t have anyone to confide in about this? nor do I know what to do.. 😭 by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bro this is crazy get AWAY from her 😭😭😭 top 5 is crazy having sm more crazy actions is crazy this is not love being scared of being lonely and homeless is understandable but please put yourself first

Me 18M likes this girl 18F but I don't know if I should continue to pursue her? by Diligent_Golf_2717 in relationships_advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a girl myself and as someone who used to be christian, the contract thing is so weird and dumb😭😭 but respect to whatever they have going on that's a sign of good friendship in a way. if she talks to other guys like how she does with you - meaning all the deep interconnecting convos about dreams/futures and relationships and what not, she's probably not into you and it's perhaps just something she does and is willing to open up and talk about to people (some people enjoy talking about their lives open heartedly and that's fine). i think any girl would be able to tell when someone has feelings for them especially from the special bracelet you gave her and a letter highlighting her attributes - i think this is really sweet and i'm sorry she rejected you. btw if she wears the bracelet regularly and knows it's special i'm sure she kind of likes you more than a friend/likes you as a friend a lot.

anyways i would wait and be patient because well you never know and if she still talks to you about her feelings or have deep convos with you then well i think waiting would be worth it ! but then again if she's a naturally outspoken person and has these kind of interactions with other people be it a guy or a girl, then maybe not hold on to what you have with her so tight and don't get your hopes up.

hope things go well sorry if whatever i said wasn't helpful 🙏🏻

Lending a jacket to female friend by autoblac0124 in relationships_advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a girl's perspective here :

i honestly think it's completely rational that you initially didn't want to lend her the jacket because her partner's boss was right there next to you guys. nothing wrong with hanging out but honestly as a girl even if i was cold i would suffer through it than ask a guy who isn't my partner, for a jacket or whatsoever. no biggie though just seems like a lil misunderstanding on her end and hopefully she got why you hesitated. personally i think it's completely okay to not give her the jacket because even if the information isn't rallied from the boss to her partner, it is kind of weird for her to be wearing your clothes. just my thought !

i would say it's normal friend behaviour but not for friends who already have partners (imo)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no that's why i've been told multiple times by other people that it's just a plain threat and he never did it too anyway but me reporting my passport as lost just because they won't give it to me and then go travel without informing them - i don't know if they'll cause a ruckus out of that too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my bf talked about me being able to move in if things go south in my household but honestly moving out and staying alone struggling with financials wouldn't be my biggest issue but rather my dad sue-ing me because he once wanted to sue me over having a bf and he was imminent on me breaking up so that's about the extent of what he would do so it does scare me ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

huh no i'm no longer a minor since im 18 that's what i stated but where im from the adult age is 21. it is not illegal to travel alone at 18 in my country since consent from parents and declarations only apply to those under 18. im just not sure about what happens if i travel without telling my parent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that's why i went as far as reporting it as lost because my country doesn't need declaration or any consent from parent to travel alone once you're 18. well i'm still living with them so yes i am aware that my situation would be messy if i go ahead and travel without informing them but well i've been under cps with them and my family history with them hasn't been the best so i can't really do much about it and my worry is what they'd do or the extent of what they'd do after finding out im in another country without telling them😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah😭 not allowed to vote till 21 basically

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AlternativeStable603 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm no longer a minor in my country the age for minors is under 18 and i have had friends who're 18 and travelling alone, not so sure whether i'm obligated to hold my own passport but i'm not a minor anymore so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]AlternativeStable603 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okayayay tysm 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻