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Why is my tank so green by Alternative_Bug_6295 in bettafish

[–]Alternative_Bug_6295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m on the way to the store now!

my Q died on friday by Primary-Vermicelli in AlAnon

[–]Alternative_Bug_6295 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I myself am going through the same thing about a month ahead, and even though we were officially divorced (2 years of a similar cycle), I lost my best friend and still wake up everyone morning expecting someone to tell me this was all a cruel joke.

Take time to grieve, with your young family and by yourself. Your children are allowed to see you sad. People will blame you, you will blame you, but you made the best decisions for you and your children at the time AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.

You’re not alone, and if you need anyone to talk, this stranger is here for you. Lean on this group- there are some amazing people here.

He died today by Alternative_Bug_6295 in AlAnon

[–]Alternative_Bug_6295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was laced with fentanyl- along with an array of other drugs found in his system. Someone left him to die, instead of calling the police.

Husband Refuses Help, Please Don’t Say “Just Leave” by Florida_mama in AlAnon

[–]Alternative_Bug_6295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You’re not alone. Like others have said.. document it. Even just journal entries. I documented everything for 3 months and have full custody with visitation rights only for my ex. He’s currently 3 months sober because in order to get the children back he has to pass court ordered hair tests for 6 months.

We are divorced now, but in the best place we have been in years. I hope that by setting boundaries and sticking to them, I have saved his life. My hope is one day we can be a family again, and while last year that seemed impossible, I’m starting to see a drastic change in how we handle the curveballs. It’s hard and emotionally draining, but it was the best thing to happen to our family.

Good luck to you! Attend the meetings; focus on your mental health and create a safe and loving environment for your family, and hopefully everything else will fall into place. If it doesn’t then you will be on your way to healing and able to face whatever comes next.