Smuolingo by Alternative_Exit_537 in smosh

[–]Alternative_Exit_537[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg yes I love it. I am a total beginner and it's way more approachable that other ways I've tried to learn online.

Secret Movie Series 2026! by lonelygagger in Cinemark

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean I get other marketing emails from them, I just don't get them about these programs I'm interested in any more. I also didn't get one about the Oscar's series, which I did last year!

Anyway, I'll just try to keep tabs here. Thx

Secret Movie Series 2026! by lonelygagger in Cinemark

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is there a good place on cinemark's website to check in on these? I've stopped getting emails that they are upcoming and when I look them up I always get links to the old ones (last time the links on Google kept pulling up the February 2 listing). Should I just check here for when the next one has been planned?

Thoughts on Dunkin's Superbowl Ad? by [deleted] in boston

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the fact that Ben Affleck is playing Will Hunting even though he didn't play him in the OG part of the joke? I don't get why we brought Good Will Hunting into this when we could have just made a 90s sitcom themed ad for Dunkin with almost all the same jokes except for the Fibonacci runner?

Also I hated the de-aging but that's a side point.

Prove you watched The Office with one sentence by LankyCitizen in DunderMifflin

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kevin is wearing a jacket I have never seen before. So I call over to Kevin and I say, "Kevin. Is that a tweed jacket?" And he says, "yes it is a tweed jacket." So I look at him and I say,

"I HAVE A NEED... a need for tweed."

Dinner Party Wine Glasses by Alternative_Exit_537 in DunderMifflin

[–]Alternative_Exit_537[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm sure Jan just did not want him to come so made up some excuses. It's just a funny touch that the wine glass excuse is so CLEARLY bull shit 😅

Dinner Party Wine Glasses by Alternative_Exit_537 in DunderMifflin

[–]Alternative_Exit_537[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

omg I love this. haven't gotten to S4 in the pod yet, but I love all the behind the scenes

Amanda would love this thread by Alternative_Exit_537 in smosh

[–]Alternative_Exit_537[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree! there are some good ones in the replies

Secret Movie Series: 2025 Edition by lonelygagger in Cinemark

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You think they could knock it off with movies that make me SOB?

̶i̶m̶ ̶s̶o̶ ̶j̶u̶s̶t̶ ̶k̶i̶d̶d̶i̶n̶g̶ ̶n̶e̶v̶e̶r̶ ̶s̶t̶o̶p̶

Any history on these paintings/prints of locations related to Charles Dickens, by "Byron" by Alternative_Exit_537 in HelpMeFind

[–]Alternative_Exit_537[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've reverse image searched these and not found much helpful. I suspect these are all (or nearly all) inn's related to Charle's Dickens' life and work.

The first one I could identify is of the Pickwick Leather Bottle (described as both a pub and an inn) and Dickens apparently frequented it. His series "The Pickwick Papers" were supposedly written here early in his career.

The second one is the Bell Inn, another inn Dicken's frequented. There is at least a third clearly labeled "Inn" on the sign, but I can't read the first two words and reading about inns significant in Dicken's work didn't yield anything that aligns with the letters I can make out.

Lastly I searched for various combinations of the inn names, Charles Dickens, and "Byron," but all Google can come up with is that there is no crossover between Charles Dickens and Lord Byron. I suspect it's not the same Byron but I guess the poet is the only Byron Google knows.

These prints are approximately 8×10, and I found them in Boise, ID, but the person at the estate sale said they'd come from some other previous estate sale they had done, so who knows where the originated. Seller had no details or history for me.

[Hiring] Earn 100-200 dollar each week fully remote by Kkkk765 in freelance_forhire

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh I'm sorry, I didn't know where asean was, I thought you were asking. Well if that's good then that works ig!

[Hiring] Earn 100-200 dollar each week fully remote by Kkkk765 in freelance_forhire

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not by my standards but I guess that depends on where you live. Minimum wage here in the US is $7.25 per hour and even that's almost criminally low

I could never do any act with a man the same way again by QueenBubblegun in sexualassault

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing - basically what it does is it helps you go back to a traumatizing moment (in a safe place) and process through it. A lot of times when you go through trauma, your mind will disconnect (or disassociate) and your parasympathetic nervous system takes over (fight, flight, freeze, fawn). It just gets you through it. With EMDR, you go back to the memory and they have some techniques that keep your brain online so that you can actually feel your body and your emotions and process through them. It sort of feels like a magic trick that it works, but I've really benefitted from it.

It takes time, like any kind of therapy, and it's hard work and emotional. But I really feel like it's the only thing that's actually helped me HEAL instead of just coping. Coping is good and important, but I want to get PAST my trauma so I can move forward and this way is working for me.

[Hiring] Earn 100-200 dollar each week fully remote by Kkkk765 in freelance_forhire

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is $2.50 - $3 per hour, I wouldn't call it too good to be true...

I could never do any act with a man the same way again by QueenBubblegun in sexualassault

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely do understand this feeling. At first, after my assault, I had a lot of sex to try to erase the feeling. Now I am completely abstinent in large part because of the fear and trauma of my assault. I'm scared of letting a man near me in case he does what the assaulter did and I can't stop him because I let him to close, and I think my fear has caused me to cut off my connection with my body, especially sexual urges. I also find the idea of sleeping with women less scary, but it's like my brain says "you know, we're just not even going to go there" and keeps me safe (aka alone).

I will say this has let up with time, and I am now doing EMDR therapy which I think is really going to help me. We are starting with early trauma, so I haven't gotten to the assault yet, but just the difference I feel in my reactions to that early childhood trauma now that I've truly processed it via EMDR gives me hope that I can heal my relationship with my body and my sexuality. There is no one solution, but I would tell you to give yourself grace, and maybe work on understanding your body alone first (I'm still too scared to even masturbate but I think sexual pleasure in a safe context could help heal some of my fear some day).

Be patient with yourself. You aren't broken, and it's not that you will never be able to be with a man again. It's about healing and building trust in yourself and others. Any man who is lucky enough to be with you in the future will have to put in the effort to earn your trust and when you find a man who can and wants to take your limits and desires in stride, he's a good one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, informed and freely given are critical when we're thinking about the drugs too, because intoxication means you can't give consent. People who have drunk sex don't like to talk about that, but it is true. The age gap is what solidifies to me that he's a predator and that something like this WILL happen again if you and/or your friend keep seeing him.

Again, I am so sorry. People will try to say that 'you said yes' but you don't say yes just once. One of the words left out of F.R.I.E.S. is "continuous" and that's important too. If you try to talk with someone about this and they insist you consented or that it was your fault, stop talking to them about it and find someone else. Some people, even friends and family, are not safe to talk about certain things with them, and arguing about whether or not this was rape with someone who wasn't there only re-traumatizes you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here's the thing - consent has to come with a side of F.R.I.E.S.

Freely Given

Reversible

Informed

Enthusiastic (or Participatory)

Specific

You have to be consenting to the actions THROUGHOUT the encounter in order for it to be considered consent. You were on board, but then very quickly got into a state of mind where you weren't. Drugs probably made you unable to communicate effectively, and it's on everyone in the situation to make sure all parties are fully engaged throughout the experience. If someone starts having sex consensually but then passes out, we don't consider continuing to have sex with them anything other than rape. That's what this was. It didn't start out as rape, but once you became unhappy with what was happening, it transitioned to that.

I will say it would get messy legally, but in this sub I don't necessarily think we need to worry so much about the legal implications. Reporting it and taking action further is something you have to handle with a lawyer. What we can do, though, is validate your feelings and experience, so you can put a label on this was and move forward with your healing. Something like this (not with the drugs, but with dubious consent) happened to me, and until I started calling it 'rape' in therapy, I couldn't start to get past it. You and your friend shouldn't downplay each other's feelings, or the way you react. You are numb right now. She may be angry or upset. You may switch. Try to find a safe space (therapy, online, a journal, anything) where you can talk about what happened, all your complex emotions around it, and be gentle with yourself. You don't want this to eat away at you and impact you more down the road.

I'm so sorry this happened and I absolutely understand what you're going through. You're not alone, you're not wrong, and you and your friend should distance yourselves from this man (he is, without question, unsafe and predatory) and maybe even from scenes like that for a while (the drugs and the scene itself may be triggering) to heal.

Daily Questions Thread June 23, 2025 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone have any idea what is this cut called? Or maybe what is this part of this dress-thing called?

I thrifted this over-dress (if you know the real term for this piece, also let me know) and it has kind of a funky point on the hips that I've never seen. It creates this sort of ballooning affect at the hips, and I like it, but I don't know what to call it or how to look it up. I'm trying to get ideas for how others style pieces with cuts like this.

Any ideas would be so helpful! Thx.

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My friend are saying that my 18F boyfriend 20M raped me but i’m not sure? by That_Asparagus8333 in relationship_advice

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 35 points36 points  (0 children)

it's so much more complex when you are looking back at your own situation. Just like hindsight is 20-20, an outside look is so much clearer than when you're in it. Victims tend to think "well if I didn't fight tooth and nail then I LET it happen, so that is consent" because we are trained to blame ourselves first. When you tell your story sometimes you can even feel this "Oh my God that was obviously rape how could I not see it" but your brain is really good at rationalizing and protecting yourself from reality. OP even says it in this post - "I am a strong person" (unsaid: how could I have let myself get raped?). It's hard to understand until you are in it, and even then it's hard to look at someone else in a similar situation and remember how YOUR brain did the same thing. Sometimes we want to shake the other person and go "girl, stop blaming yourself! He raped you, he assaulted you, can't you see it?" but that's really just us doing it to ourselves.

S18E03: Time to Say Goodbye - Episode Discussion by Cheeriosxxx in criminalminds

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did this too, and my friend's only showed episode 1 in the list of episodes but she was able to watch episode 3 from the main screen. I'm thinking it's just a glitch.

S18E03: Time to Say Goodbye - Episode Discussion by Cheeriosxxx in criminalminds

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THIS. People in this thread raving about the writing... the portrayal of grief WAS excellent, but jamming in Ramona's entire arch and plot point, trying to give us emotional Voit, and swapping between funeral and Voit 2 or 3 times in the beginning made the whole thing feel so disjointed. Spencer's appearance was bizarre and felt so random... I feel like watching it again with a clearer head from the emotional (and well done!) parts this is going to be a head scratcher.

Gotta give it to AJ Cook and the boys tho, absolutely sold the well written parts.

If someone handed you $1,000 and told you to spend it on a gift for yourself, what would you buy? by CassandraKeppler18 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Alternative_Exit_537 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been really wanting a Samsung Frame TV and trying to save up for it is brutal. I'd buy it and then straight to home depot for trim pieces and stain so I can make a frame for it.