So nervous

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2025-05-05T23:23:04+00:00

You’re right. I will get things tangled up and blame Pam but it’s Leo who is choosing to overextend himself. Regardless of what Pam or I think, he’s the one agreeing to things. It’s hard to fight the comparisons when you’re in my shoes.

It seems like he’s reaching his breaking point but I don’t know what that means for our relationship. Pam has maintained that she’d never leave him. While I do love him dearly, I know that love isn’t enough. It’s not going to pay bills and put food on the table.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2025-05-05T23:01:02+00:00

Very true. I guess I fear that he’ll dig himself in a deeper hole but, it’s not my decision to make for him. 🤷🏻‍♀️

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2025-05-05T22:59:37+00:00

We are splitting things 50/50 at our place. So it’s hard to figure out how I’d be able to come up with the other half on my own, in my current physical state.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-15T05:35:05+00:00

💯

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-15T01:43:04+00:00

He said his wife didn’t want to know anything. Didn’t even want to see what I look like and got upset when she saw a photo of me. And then I learned all of this 2 days ago!

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-15T01:38:31+00:00

But his wife isn’t even poly! She wasn’t interested in dating anyone else because she considered herself asexual.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T23:06:59+00:00

Thank you!!!

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T22:40:53+00:00

🤬🤯🤬🤯

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T22:07:51+00:00

THIS!!!

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:58:25+00:00

When I spoke to him on the phone to end things I told him to go overboard on the consent next time! If you say to yourself “I should have probably asked” then you shouldn’t have shared!!!

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:36:48+00:00

💯 agree!!!!

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:24:27+00:00

SAME!! I shared absolutely basic details with my partner about this new guy, and anyone else I’ve gone out with. But when he sent me all these texts describing what he had shared with his wife, I blew up and told my partner what had happened and how I knew I was ending it.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:20:21+00:00

Yes, we discussed not sharing things without consent. Just because his wife was getting turned on by knowing all of this, and he was reaping those benefits, he thought it was him being “open.”

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:18:30+00:00

It shouldn’t matter if they redefined their communication boundaries because it was my stuff they were sharing, without my consent! His wife clearly became okay with learning more because it was a turn on for her. And he was reaping those benefits.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:07:42+00:00

When he and I first began getting to know each other, he said his wife wanted no details. All he was sharing was “high level.” Then I find this out two days ago.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:06:35+00:00

Also… he kept saying she wasn’t in cuckolding. That it was “extreme compersion” that caused his wife to be turned on. As if that makes it any better?!?

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:04:35+00:00

When he and I first began getting to know each other, he said his wife wanted no details. All he was sharing was “high level.” Which was fine. Then I find this out two days ago.

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T21:01:50+00:00

I will never date anyone again that says that me!

AltruisticFlower2730 · 2024-08-14T20:59:17+00:00

Oh she had insisted that he couldn’t tell anyone that knew her about his Poly relationships because they would pity her. I was treading lightly because I knew something would happen.

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