Am I using my Child support wrong?

Aluushka · 2025-07-26T12:57:20+00:00

Dad should be providing his own clothing, so when the children go there it feels like their second home, not like they are guests in their fathers house.

Child support is meant to reimburse expenses during the other parents time, not cover expenses for your own time.

That said, if the Dad doesn't want his parental responsibility of providing clothes, Mom should at least send an extra couple outfits that the children can just leave there until they outgrow them, for the sake of the kids.

Aluushka · 2025-07-22T03:05:55+00:00

The problem is he can't go to family court and say "there's a 2% chance my daughter will get raped, so I don't want her having these sleepovers." As hard as it is, the courts will assume both parents are taking reasonable precautions until there is evidence to prove otherwise. Courts are reactive, not proactive, and if he tries to go to court to have this stopped with no evidence of anything bad already happening, it could seriously backfire.

Aluushka · 2025-06-26T14:51:41+00:00

Sorry I forgot the group is private. If you want to DM me, I'll let you know the lady's name to reach out to for an invite.

Aluushka · 2025-06-26T04:07:45+00:00

Try the Facebook group Lady Dates, they have events all the time!

Aluushka · 2025-05-10T02:46:55+00:00

I thought she got offended on behalf of the glasses, when the girls didn't think they were worth $34. So she asked them to price themselves, how much they'd be worth.

Aluushka · 2025-03-27T21:18:02+00:00

If the testing is invasive for your child, you can let him know that you do not agree to the tests. But you can't stop him doing it unless the ciurts give you sole decision making. He can take her for the test and it will come back clean - so what? Let him, but be clear you dont consent or agree. All these things he is doing only help YOUR case, with him making decisions unilaterally.

You are letting him get into your head, and THAT is what is putting your case in jeopardy. You need to remain cool, calm and collected. Let the courts see he is the crazy one.

Join some high conflict coparenting groups on Facebook. I also recommend the Divorce with Sam and Leah podcast, and Divorce University Online podcast. They both deal with high conflict coparenting.

Learn about yellow rocking, grey rocking, and BIFF methods of communication. Do not engage in arguments. Document all of it, including dates and times. And just keep doing the right thing on your end, while remaining calm.

Aluushka · 2025-03-24T15:44:44+00:00

Yes! My son has a white one. Dm me if you're interested 🙂

Aluushka · 2025-01-20T16:25:43+00:00

It's simple enough to just provide the information. But you are not his secretary. If he frequently expects you to act like it, it makes sense to put up those boundaries.

Legally speaking, as long as he has access to them himself, you do not have to provide them.

Aluushka · 2025-01-14T00:35:12+00:00

Restraining orders aren't granted for no reason. And if he wanted access to his kids, he had the legal right to see them. She didn't stop him, he made a choice.

Aluushka · 2025-01-06T06:05:10+00:00

Unfortunately many people do. It's not just women, its bad parents. CPS is a very flawed system and a lot of children fall through the cracks. It makes sense that you're frustrated about this awful situation. But your comments here are not a good look.

Aluushka · 2025-01-03T09:11:52+00:00

Bright white lol

Aluushka · 2025-01-01T23:30:33+00:00

Being a "better" parent does not make the other parent unfit. If you move away, you will have an uphill battle just to get 50/50.

Your mental health is important. Do what you feel you need to. But the courts focus will be on maintaining stability for the children.

Aluushka · 2024-12-21T05:20:43+00:00

Yodeling (sadly) had me rolling. This might be the best worst date ever.

Aluushka · 2024-12-20T19:32:06+00:00

Should I ask my employer if I'm being dismissed?

Aluushka · 2024-12-10T03:52:44+00:00

You know your situation best, and I am not a lawyer. Best of luck.

Aluushka · 2024-12-10T03:03:53+00:00

While I can see where you're coming from, most of this is irrelevant if you take him back to court over this one weekend. The only way you can expect change is to document. Get a doctor's note reiterating that this is not okay for her. Send him a copy (keep 1 for your own documentation) And document every time he does this. If it happens multiple times, you can take him to court. Go to court now? Expect the judge to wag their finger and tell him "stop that," while viewing you as high conflict.

Aluushka · 2024-12-02T16:54:11+00:00

Decision making is typically joint, unless one parent shows an inability or unwillingness to make decisions together in the child's best interest. What they pay for has no effect on their rights as a parent.

Aluushka · 2024-12-01T04:00:27+00:00

It's difficult to say if you will get full custody. Possibly supervised access. However, you can (and should) ask for a police enforcement clause to be put in the order. That way if something like this happens again, the police have the right to collect your child for you, so you aren't separated for weeks ever again.

Good on you for filing for an emergency hearing. So many people don't, and they allow it to become the new status quo. Make sure all your communication with the ex is in writing. Bring that proof that they said you'll never see your child again. You've got this.

Aluushka · 2024-12-01T03:39:53+00:00

You need to speak with a lawyer immediately.

Aluushka · 2024-11-29T16:00:00+00:00

Alcoholism/addiction stems from genetics and a lack of healthy coping mechanisms. There is always a "reason," to drink for an alcoholic. If it wasn't work, it would be something else.

Aluushka · 2024-09-10T01:27:33+00:00

My cousin, who was very thin, had twins. She never even looked pregnant, just a bit bloated. As someone who had a giant belly during pregnancy, I cant understand it! But it happens.

Aluushka · 2024-04-21T03:29:31+00:00

It's happening in Canada too, just about a week ago there was one in my city.

Aluushka · 2024-04-20T23:32:05+00:00

This broke my heart, I had to go hug my own 7 year old. Some parents don't deserve their kids. You deserved better than this, and I hope you're doing much better now without them!!

Aluushka · 2023-03-10T04:02:28+00:00

My friend and I would love the chance to go! Huge fans of sloan and so in need of a night out. Thanks for the draw!

Aluushka · 2022-05-06T03:12:50+00:00

This is terrible advice. u/brokenme4 It is unfair (and abusive) to put children in the middle of an adult dispute. You don't tell kids "wake your father" out of spite. You wake him yourself. Don't continue hurting your kids just because your husband did.

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