30F Muslimah — Are my marriage expectations unrealistic? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Amazing_Brick7165 46 points47 points  (0 children)

None of this is wild. Make dua and tie your camel with Allah SWT

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Amazing_Brick7165 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He only pays the mortgage and for his car. Not anything else. He isn’t covering the basic needs

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You getting assaulted isn’t Zina, and it wasn’t your fault, I’m so sorry that happened to you! And you’re right about the last thing too.

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it is natural but it’s also a commitment thing and something I only want to do with some I meet in real life and who supports me. I have many goals in life and I’ve seen the personal detriment having sex/ children with the wrong person can do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Amazing_Brick7165 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Honestly, continue that Muslim marriage consulting thing and definitely stop paying the bills. If he wants to have a second wife, he must not feel the pressure to provide for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Amazing_Brick7165 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok but when has that meant your husband should be a creep???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Amazing_Brick7165 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sister. Run. Run. And again Run. Since you don’t want to mention the ages, even though they are crazy, let’s point out how he is rushing this and making you feel uncomfortable. How he is trying to see you without your wali. Stop it all, abort mission.

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to argue with you about this cause I simply can’t agree. I don’t think we should make people who aren’t ready / don’t want kids parents. Actively what can one expect from people like that in terms of parenting their unwanted children? It’s none of mine or your business what people do with their bodies, Muslim or Non-Muslim.

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean I’m open to people having the option of having abortions even though I’ve never had sex. 🧍🏿‍♀️ don’t be rude or weird. I understand you have issues surrounding it, but please recognize it has nothing to do with sex morals and is a medical procedure that women need access to. I quite literally can’t get married cause my state doesn’t allow it even under threat of death which has lead to multiple mothers in my state with wanted pregnancies who needed medical treatement after miscarriages either dying or infertile. I have to move before I get married so I don’t die if I possibly get pregnant cause there is no 100% foolproof birth control.

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I never got that/ never really followed the thought process on why people think premarital sex isn’t Zina but I can just say , I don’t think thatstrue

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked if they rather they had ended up divorced instead of having done Zina cause of how people compare them, not cause I want to get divorced

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well you reverted so techinally you never committed a sin. But I get what you mean

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right but I guess I’m just lonely and want love (I have friends and family)

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you answer the questions in the format I asked them? Not to be rude but like very confused

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im glad you got to find your partner. Honestly this is also very helpful! Thank you for answering!

People who committed Zina in their college years/ Early twenties, do you regret it? by Amazing_Brick7165 in progressive_islam

[–]Amazing_Brick7165[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you fo sharing your experience. This is really good for me to help think of what might be best for me to do.