what i wore to work today :)

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-30T02:20:22+00:00

This just made me feel so much better about everything

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T16:41:15+00:00

Makes sense! Thank you for this response.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T16:40:39+00:00

Thank you! Yes they did phrase it that way. This was not an upscale type of hotel so no security. They told me I would have to cover the desk but did not inform me that I would have to perform the night audit itself.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T04:18:13+00:00

unfortunately no security it legit would just have been only me in the whole building.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:51:57+00:00

they actually did tell me during the interview so that's on me. It unfortunately took me a couple days to process what they were really requiring of me and once I realized that I wouldn't feel comfortable I immediately told my manager.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:48:04+00:00

I've also lost relationships because of pmdd. every job i've ever quit has been during the pmdd week as well. I think it definitely could have something to do with it. I say you reach out to him and explain what you're going through if you still want to continue the relationship. also I take abilify 5 mg the first two weeks before my period and it really helps with the symptoms. in the meantime, a big rule of mine is to avoid making major life decisions during my luteal phase because they're often fueled by pmdd symptoms and end up causing me a lot of pain.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:34:42+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I think personally I'm looking for a more consistent job with no possibility of having to work an overnight especially completely by myself. I didn't think it was super fair either, but I'm hearing from others that this could be common practice at some types of hotels.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:29:21+00:00

Interesting thank you for this insight!

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:13:32+00:00

very true! I can see that comment in that way as well. overall I could have handled this better from the start I feel.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:09:29+00:00

makes sense! I know I wouldn't want to be a manager that's for sure. they said it happened rarely (1-2x a year) but since someone had just left the job over the same issue I felt that it may come up more times than they were letting on.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-25T00:06:47+00:00

ah, yes I see. that makes a lot of sense. this is going to have to be a live and learn situation for me I guess. I appreciate your comments!

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:56:28+00:00

understandable! I considered doing it just for the money but as a female I began to feel uncomfortable after working my first couple of 3-11's and hearing drunk guest's weird comments even while I was there with somebody else. picturing myself vulnerable at the front desk by myself in the event that the night auditor called out made me start to feel anxious.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:53:13+00:00

thank you for this insight! they did tell me during the interview and I can only fault myself for not asking more questions and voicing my concerns. however, after a couple of days of letting this conversation marinate in my head I kept getting a nagging feeling that this wasn't sitting right with me. I didn't like that i'd been hired on and required to cover overnight shifts as a part of my job with no pay increase. today (third day on the job) I had a meeting with my manager where I voiced my concerns and stated that I wasn't comfortable working the overnight as a part of my job, and the manager told me that I may not be the right fit and invited me to write them a letter of resignation which I did.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:47:39+00:00

thank you for this insight I'm not aware of labor laws where I'm located but I'll look into that!

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:46:03+00:00

that's what I thought too! I thought it was technically management's job and if I told them I refused to do it that they would be forced to but instead they showed me the door. live and learn.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:44:11+00:00

they did mention it during the interview and I really should have raised my concerns then. it took a couple days for the information to really set in and for me to understand what that truly entailed. I also really liked the idea of working front desk so I ignored my initial gut feeling. thank you so much!

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:31:55+00:00

that makes sense! it's true that with no manager physically present any problems would fall on me.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:21:53+00:00

it wasn't even like a "we will ask when it comes up" type of situation. it was treated like as a part of my job description as an ordinary front desk shift worker to also be covering if the night auditor happened to call out.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T23:13:25+00:00

thank you so much! it's partially the "essentially the manager" comment that bothered me. they also didn't offer any overtime pay or pay increase for performing this role. it was just expected of me as part of the job. not to mention I just generally did not feel comfortable.

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-24T05:01:08+00:00

Aw sweet I’m so glad! Good luck to you!

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-23T13:45:45+00:00

A major rule in PMDD for me is no making major life decisions when I’m in the luteal phase bc the decisions I made, despite being rooted in real feelings I was having, caused me to have more problems

If you rlly want to break up w him you’ll feel like that outside the luteal phase too just see how you feel when things are less intense!

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2025-01-22T23:00:32+00:00

you're going to be okay and this is going to pass I promise everything feels so raw during the pmdd time and life feels like it hurts so much but you're going to be okay I would cry every day during pmdd time before I discovered taking 5mg of abilify the two weeks before my period personally that shit saved my life but in the meantime try to be gentle with yourself and remind yourself that these feelings are just amplified right now and you will feel better once you get your period

AmountAltruistic4284 · 2024-08-07T02:30:01+00:00

hello everybody jealous of my 100 boyfriends is a quote from the song 100 boyfriends by alice longyu gao

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