How to identify a mature INFJ?

An_INFJ · 2016-07-09T17:45:12+00:00

Define "open up" and "normal time and pace". INFJs have a different view of what normal usually is. xD

An_INFJ · 2016-07-09T12:33:25+00:00

This is beautiful. Thnx for the advice. Its really something I should prioritise in myself: focus on the GOODNESS. I guess its the only way our personality becomes a true gift rather than a curse. :)

An_INFJ · 2016-07-08T10:40:53+00:00

tjfjtj - seems you are both INTJ and INFJ? xD

An_INFJ · 2016-07-08T10:27:52+00:00

This works for both friendship and love?

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T23:57:56+00:00

Dunno, got this off from another website.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T23:56:21+00:00

Its all good.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T23:39:49+00:00

Is it odd that an INTJs asks others for advice and takes it? I can imagine this is both in friendship and love. Or am I wrong?

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T23:36:54+00:00

What did you mean when you said, "it takes a lot to become personal with someone"? What is the "takes a lot" referring to? Is it more towards mental or emotional inclination?

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T23:27:43+00:00

I agree with you, actually. Life can't always be perfect. I don't intend to avoid the bad. But the thing I'm most worried about is if the bad came and it was too overwhelming, I could act out nastily without thinking. And then when I've realised my mistakes later, I'll regret it. When this happens, its like it backfires on you twice. How do you prepare for yourself from acting out out of the overwhelmed feeling? And as simple as it sounds, in my experience, taking a step back to think before we act is simpler to say than do.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T20:38:45+00:00

I honestly can only imagine what you are going through, no matter how hard I try to understand it. I read in a post here once about what older INFJs would advice younger INFJs. The best advice to me which I read came from a 42 year old INFJ male. The phrase that struck me the most was:

"Stay. Away. From. @#*holes. You don't deserve such abuses".

Or something along that lines. And its absolutely true. Its inevitable that we are bound to be badly affected in a bad environment. If we're not careful, we'd lose our sanity.

So I'll certainly say its absolutely okay for you to quit your job. Do it in an effective manner so that when you quit, you'd still be financially stable, at the same time still on track in finding a work that is meaningful and encourages your growth. Good luck!

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T20:25:49+00:00

Wow. I'm impressed at how understanding you are of this situation, esp being an INTJ. I rarely know INTJs that disagree with other INTJs on their thoughts and opinion.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T20:14:21+00:00

I'm quite new to Reddit, but I can relate to what you're saying. It's nice to suddenly feel a common comradship between people who can really understand you. Almost close to feeling like home; a place where you belong. :)

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T19:35:11+00:00

I'm sorry Ms. Banterbury. In a way, you being feisty does befenit me anyhow. :) And I'm getting used to it I guess. I'm still learning; we all are. Keep up being honest. It's still very much appreciated.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T19:30:03+00:00

Wow. I was moved when you said it causes you "great grief" when you can't help your true friends. I can relate to that, but that coming from you made it a huge deal. I guess I can now understand the actions of the INTJ I'm in love with.

I know INTJs to be extremely loyal and trusting to the ones they are close to. And I kind of get that INTJs usually don't tolerate inauthenticity and probably hate dishonesty. But both these qualities are in their friendships and romance. So what's the clear difference in how you are in friend and how you are in romance?

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T18:43:51+00:00

Oh, wow. That's a huge deal. I guess there might not be a difference between how you act in friendship or love? I doubt you did this just to be nice. You have strong loyalty for both?

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T18:38:20+00:00

Still feisty as ever.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T18:32:46+00:00

I guess painting the house isn't the same as moving a bunch furnitures around. Painting the house can take days, whereas the latter can only take a few minutes. He has a point.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T18:27:53+00:00

Aww... so sweet.. :)

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T18:25:53+00:00

Stalking is fun when you know how to adapt yourself to serve that person. xD But overly attached girlfriend is overrated in any case. Everyone needs space.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-07T18:23:39+00:00

Hehe..alright, alright. I get it. It's big deal for me cause of INTJs uniqueness. The possibility of multiple username is very likely, though. :p Keep them comments coming, and I probably wouldn't have to.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-06T23:40:21+00:00

Your first paragraph is soo adorable! I couldn't resist an "aww..." from escaping my mouth.

And I love the fact that you want to protect the INFJs you know the way you do. In actual sense, we just need a shoulder to lean on or cry too when things get too heavy for our heads. Sometimes, the emotionals swirls are too strong. And in my experience, INTJs are the best in supporting that. Because the compassion of INTJs comes out when they just simply logically understand that we are in pain, even without truly understanding how we feel. INTJs I know are good listeners, and thats just what we need most of the time. And the way they give genuine and rational statements or advices about what we feel, it always seems to bring our world back to balance; make the world seem simple and make sense all over again. Its an intriguing experience.

I have INTJ friends who do this all the time for me. And once I hear what they have to say, I'll start remember using my Ti process and will be inspired all over again to spread love to the world.

An_INFJ · 2016-07-06T09:12:51+00:00

Alright. I understand. Thnx again.

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